The thing to do ladies.

This one too

Guys don't hit on me. So...I think I would be too shocked to be harsh. I could never be a guy and do the asking. My mom had to bribe me to ask a guy FRIEND to a dance in high school. We were just going as friends, for goodness sake! He was really excited to go when I finally managed to do it, lol.


So props to you, fellas. :flowerforyou:

I am generally awkward and shy when approached. My face gets really red and I just hope they take that as a compliment and not think that I am being rude, lol. I just don't know how to react because I tend to think men are only interested in flirting to 'hook up'.

I've rarely been hit on, but usually I blush and if I'm not interested/not single then I thank them and tell them I'm not single right now.

I never get hit on, I wish I did, would be such an ego boost!!!!!

But when it used to happen, I just like when guys casually came up and started a conversation, usually about something to do with where we are etc.

As long as he doesnt creep me out in the first few seconds I will always talk to a guy, even if I do have a partner or something, just because you have a boyfriend isn't a reason to be rude. Same as if you are not interested, just politely say it, don't offend someone. Think of how you would want to be turned down and do it that way!

I do have a boyfriend, but when I didn't, I got hit on occasionally.

Hearing things like "ooh you've got a fine *kitten* girl..." Uh... not what I want to hear, especially when I KNOW I"m overweight.

But one time, I was out with about 10 friends for a birthday, and we were all pretty toasty...and this guy appears awkwardly at the side of our table obviously waiting for an invite to sit down. Since he was being awkward, I ignored him...at least he could have said hi, right?

So we continue on with our convo and someone said something funny and we all started high-fiving each other like dorks lol and weird awkward guy gets in the middle of the high five party and takes a seat... NEXT TO ME!! We were all weirded out by that... but he introduces himself as "Jerry" and we proceed to chat a little.

He ends up spilling his whole life story in 3 mins flat... including the fact he is AT THIS BAR WITH HIS PARENTS, and asks IF I WOULD LIKE TO GO MEET THEM... OMIGOD!

SO, I politely decline. Everyone at the table sees my distress signals lol and we all shuffle out to go get some late night tacos (this was obviously BEFORE I started MFP... LOL) I'm nice, tell him it was great to meet him but that my friends and I are leaving.

So he rushes out after us with an equally awkward buddy and tries to catch me before I leave, asking if I need a "companion" for the night. HUH? What the heck does THAT mean?? I say no thanks...and start walking quickly to my vehicle and he's yelling at me from across the parking lot "All I want is to be companions...like friends... for the night!!"

I have NO clue what this guy wanted. Did he want to hang out? Was he looking for a one night stand? The approach was weird. He had an awkward vibe. He was just a TOTAL MESS!

OP-- DON'T BE LIKE JERRY! Do your own thing and be yourself, That's cute enough.

As a side note, I did feel bad afterwards. I felt like I should go back to see if he's there again to give him dating tips or let him practice conversation skills. Poor boy probably does need a companion to show him the ropes...

I've never had a guy ask me out ever in my life. At least not that I know of.
Once this guy said he thought he knew me from somewhere, and he totally looked like someone I knew, so I was like, oh yeah. But then my friend said he was hitting on me. I was like, are you sure? I was clueless, and I'm still not sure... but he must have been at least 10 years older than me.
And that's the problem I have. Sometimes I get those creepy looks from old men. You know what I mean? So, my advice, don't be afraid to ask girls out, just be sure that they're around your own age.

OP, I'm so glad that you are asking this question because I feel like a lot of guys really go about this the wrong way, to the point of making girls feel scared or intimidated.

The scenario you described was the right way to approach a woman that you find attractive and you took her answer the right way.

2. I am married so every person is off limits to me, so I don't really pay attention to how attractive they are. As long as you are being friendly and non-creepy about it, I take compliments very well. It's a big self esteem booster actually. But if someone is yelling out at me like cat calling and won't stop until I say something or they say something sexual that's really out of line, they are going to get yelled at. I don't see how this is an effective form of getting a girl to be interested in you.

3. My worse experience was last year, I was waiting for the bus and this older man (maybe in his 40's) asked me questions about the bus route. I'm a very friendly person and I try to give everyone a chance so I talked to him because I was being polite, but just in case he got the wrong idea, I made sure to mention my husband. Apparently this was the wrong thing to do because our casual conversation about weather and the City soon became an extremely awkward turn of events when he asked me if I wanted to be in a "no strings attached relationship" with him. It was such a weird thing to me that I didn't process what he said right away and just smiled and nodded.....then I thought about it for a moment and said "I'm sorry, what did you say?". He repeated himself and I just got this horrible feeling in my stomach. I politely said "I'm flattered that you find me attractive but I'm married and not at all interested". That should have been the end of it but nope. He then says "But you're not dead. Have you ever tried it?". This was making me feel very very uncomfortable. I felt like my inner peace was being invaded. I told him that I loved my husband and really had no interest in complicating or ruining my marriage. Then he made some quip about how I was so young and didn't know what I was missing. That's when I saw my bus and was like "Well there's my bus. Nice meeting you and have a good day!".
The only problem was......he got on the same bus! So I sat all the way in the back behind the crowd.

Bottom line. When a girl says no, that's that!!

On the other hand, I have had some guys tell me that I had nice hair, or a cute smile, or that I have good style. That is all ok and really makes my day.

I don't exactly know how I feel about getting hit on. I am 19 years old and I have boys/men of all ages hitting on me almost every day. There once was a man in his 50's that kept asking me if I was a model and, when I said no, he kept trying to convince me to be one. I found it cute, but maybe that is because I have a soft spot for those older than me.

However I have had people really brusquely ask for my number, I did not like that.
I was dressed up for a girl's night out a couple months ago, when a guy yelled from across the street, "Hey you girl with the skirt! You have a nice *kitten*!" Needless to say, I was not impressed and actually VERY annoyed at the situation.

I agree with all the other women here: It really is the way you approach us that will determine how we react. Treat us respectfully, and we will (most of the time) do the same.

I was shopping at Wal-Mart of all places, and a guy approached me. He just said hi, My name is Clint, how are you, what's your name, etc. Then he surprised the hell out of me and said, "I think you are the most beautiful girl I've ever seen." I couldn't do much more than gape and stutter out a flattered "thank you". He said, "You're probably married, though, huh?" I smiled and said yes, I'm sorry, I am. (I was) He said he had to at least try, then he shook my hand, told me to have a good day and walked away.

He wasn't the best-looking of guys, but if I had been available, I would have for sure given him my number and at least one date, if for no other reason than having the balls to come up and take a chance.

If you make the lady who has attracted your interest feel insecure or unsafe, you wont get a good response.

Your approach seems great. Just striking up a casual conversation and asking the girl out in a non-gimmicky way at the end. I usually use the "I have a boyfriend" excuse, but if a drunk guy is trying to pick up on me, I can be mean. So he gets the point.

I was in a bar with some girlfriends and we had a candle on the table. We were there from some time, so the candle went off.
Then a guy walks to our table, puts a new candle on it, tells me that he could no longer see my face in the dark and walks away. Now that was super sweet, too bad for him I had a bf.

So I hear a lot of you say don't be creepy about it. Some examples are....?

Just be NORMAL, talk to us like we are just a normal person. Don't leer, don't compliment body parts, one compliment like "you're beautiful" is enough, don't tell us what you want to do to us, don't fawn, don't use pickup lines, take no for an answer, etc. All those things are creepy.

A nice smile is a must otherwise it's creepy if someone comes up talking to me.

I like it if they use humor of any kind to start talking to me. If they make me laugh a lot they can have my shirt off by dinner.