Well, why can't you?

Sometimes it's just not that simple.....you don't know the struggles some of these people have been through.

I'm getting very tired of seeing posts whining that I can't stop bingeing, I can't stop eating or drinking thus and so, I can't stop falling off the wagon...well, why can't you? Is somebody standing there holding a gun to your head and forcing you to eat that cupcake or pizza or whatever? Do you really want to lose weight and get healthier or do you want to shovel in pop-tarts? You don't need hand-holding and people constantly reassuring you, you aren't a baby and don't need to be treated like one. If you don't want to do it, muscle up some self control and don't do it, and if you haven't got the self-control, that's nobody's fault but your own. This isn't being harsh, it's REALISTIC. Get some willpower. If you don't you WILL fail. Nobody can do it for you, you have to do it yourself.

Kind of hypocritical ...I'm sure this is not your first attempted to lose weight.

Never underestimate the power of a support system to help people. Some like you might not need it, but others do. Humans are pack animals.Our brains are programmed to succeed as a group.

There are different reasons. For instance, I'm an overeater. If it's there, I'll want to just finish it even if I know I'm full. I also eat when I'm stressed, emotional and bored. I've used food as a coping mechanism.

it's not an excuse for being overweight. Not at all.

You CAN absolutely stop binge eating and such, but sometimes it takes time to teach yourself control and to realize that you are just making excuses to continue your bad behaviour.

Good habits take time to create and turn into, well, habits. But I agree that the people who post this need to realize that it's about what they are choosing to do and why, and not blame the food, spouses, environmental stresses, etc. Because you can overcome and accomplish what you want as long as you make a commitment to do so.

You're lucky to have never endured an eating disorder. While of course I hope you never do, I also hope you can open your mind and understand that the "why can't you" is a very deep and difficult question for those who suffer from binging or some other ED. It simply is not that simple. You are not helping anyone by coming here to a "Motivation and Support" forum and telling people who often need therapy and someone to work through this with them that they just need to pull it together. That is not support for someone who has a mental issue that makes them perceive their body in a distorted way.

Actually, this IS my first attempt. I have lt weight before due to work stress, but I certainly wasn't trying.

Good. I'm glad you are finally doing it. Just dont mess it up, or you become like us ( people who has tried and failed many times but not giving up) Lol

I can see that you are coming from a place of good intentions, but your post doesn't display any of that. I suggest you educate yourself on mental health issues that lead people to have a poor relationship with food and hope that you'll be able to get an understanding even if it's just a little understanding, then reevaluate your post.

I'm getting very tired of seeing posts whining that I can't stop bingeing, I can't stop eating or drinking thus and so, I can't stop falling off the wagon...well, why can't you? Is somebody standing there holding a gun to your head and forcing you to eat that cupcake or pizza or whatever? Do you really want to lose weight and get healthier or do you want to shovel in pop-tarts? You don't need hand-holding and people constantly reassuring you, you aren't a baby and don't need to be treated like one. If you don't want to do it, muscle up some self control and don't do it, and if you haven't got the self-control, that's nobody's fault but your own. This isn't being harsh, it's REALISTIC. Get some willpower. If you don't you WILL fail. Nobody can do it for you, you have to do it yourself.

I'm with you OP. Sure, there are some who have eating disorders but many people are just flat out lazy, sabotage themselves and make excuses.

:huh:

Since when does belittling someone give them the determination to succeed? So you've never had a problem with overeating or food or what have you....why are you here then? You said you wanted to lose weight., so it would be safe to assume you're heavier than you should be. How'd you get there?

That's what I was wondering.

Reread the post. I am not belittling anyone.

"I'm getting very tired of seeing posts whining that I can't stop bingeing"

So you are calling people whiners

," shovel in pop-tarts"

Now you are using negative imagery to describe these people

" you aren't a baby and don't need to be treated like one"

Now you are calling them weak and "baby like" for asking for support

". Get some willpower."

you are implying they have no willpower. You didnt say to get more willpower, you told them to get some


" If you don't you WILL fail"

YOu already made people feel crappy for their binge, so you make them feel incompetent and now you tell them they will fail when most on here are trying their best.

:huh:

Since when does belittling someone give them the determination to succeed? So you've never had a problem with overeating or food or what have you....why are you here then? You said you wanted to lose weight., so it would be safe to assume you're heavier than you should be. How'd you get there?

That's what I was wondering.

Reread the post. I am not belittling anyone.

"I'm getting very tired of seeing posts whining that I can't stop bingeing"

So you are calling people whiners

," shovel in pop-tarts"

Now you are using negative imagery to describe these people

" you aren't a baby and don't need to be treated like one"

Now you are calling them weak and "baby like" for asking for support

". Get some willpower."

you are implying they have no willpower. You didnt say to get more willpower, you told them to get some


" If you don't you WILL fail"

YOu already made people feel crappy for their binge, so you make them feel incompetent and now you tell them they will fail when most on here are trying their best.

This.

Its like any other problem. Unless you can identify with it, its difficult to empathize. Some people are afraid of mice. I'm not, so I don't really understand it. But I have other phobias that a person with a fear of mice don't...and they wouldn't understand it. But that doesn't mean they ( or me) can just suck it up and get over it. Doesn't work like that.

Well said. Unless you have walked a mile in someone shoes, you don't know what their journey entails. Everyone has their own struggles. Life is hard enough, don't be so judgmental.

other people's ways dont really concern you so i dont get why ur so worried or whatever u wanna call it about other peoples complaining abt binging etc and while i do hope you never develop one, you clearly do not have an eating disorder like so many of us do so you wouldnt understand it in the least. :grumble:

Well my dear, here's to wishing you never have a bad day on here. And here's to wishing when you do, you don't get this thrown back in your face.

Insulting people is never the way to go, when you are kind of in the same glass house.

it be must feel amazing to be so much better than other people.

"What are you hoping people get from your post?"

I'm hoping they get the determination to succeed. What else?

Really? Harsh and heartless more like. Not supportive or motivating in the slightest! Who are you, who are any of us to judge one another?