WTF? I've been loosing and now I'm told I'm fat.

First of all, I hate you got that double whammy!

You are doing what you need to do, and the weight is coming off. Don't let this get you down or derail you. For every jerk out there making rude comments, there are many more here, waiting and willing to support you.

It seems to happen all at once for some people. One day nobody notices and the next day so many people will notice your improvements, you will think you are being punk'd. Do it for you and remember that YOU are the important one!

Sounds like a bad week. Let me just say, ignore them & also ignore any nagging little voice in your head that you can't do it.
You CAN.
They will soon feel pretty foolish.
However, they should be ashamed of themselves for picking on you anyway.

Use this as your motivation to KEEP GOING. Take out your frustration in your work out.
If you are not working out or find it is too difficult to do cardio, start walking as far and as fast as you can.
You have the advantage of having extra weight that sheds like crazy right now - the shock & awe will be quick!!

Meanwhile, don't forget to incorporate weights so you can start building fat-burning muscle. Sometimes as we lose weight we might also lose muscle which makes us look flabby if we aren't building muscle (happened to me!)
Start with your own body weight first & add light weight when you find yourself getting stronger.

When you find the courage, feel free to politely explain to those around you that this is a process and to please respect your dignity. Remind them that you wouldn't and don't say things to them concerning their health habits and don't personally feel it is within their right to criticize yours, especially at this most crucial time. Encourage your boyfriend to support you by joining you in your walks. It'll show him you take this seriously and so should he - it'll also encourage catching up time after long days at work.

Be good to yourself and remember: It took more than a year to put it on, it will take more than a year to take it off.

Good luck!

Wow, so sorry you got blasted like that. Be strong & don't let it deter you. You will get there and get into your smaller clothes, and it will be noticed. Hang tough!

I lost my first 20lbs and was rewarded with my mother asking if I was 5 months pregnant. Thanks Mom, I was feeling pretty proud for like 10 whole seconds.

I'm sorry this happened to you, but I would guess that they are seeing your actual weight loss, realizing you look different, but they're not looking closely enough at you on a daily basis to realize what the actual difference IS. Often this results in the "did you get a haircut?" comment.

I started MFP in January and no I did not tell friends/family. I know myself and I will do better without stressing over whether they see me fail or not. I have lost 15 lbs since starting MFP. Not a lot considering I was 255 starting but still weight loss. I'm trying to stay positive and realize it has to be slow to stay off.

Last week my boyfriend told me I was getting fat and needed to loose weight (joking statement but still) and my boss made a comment about needing to slim down before I reach 40 and have to start taking all kinds of meds. (cholesterol, etc.). I can't help but think WTF. Here I am trying and given it's not showing yet but its not like I'm gaining either and I have been about 255 for at least the last 4 or 5 years.

Anyone else getting insulted instead of complimented?

Ok This is me to a T!! I just started in Feburary and I have lost 15 pounds. And my boyfriend and some family member have made comments about my weight. I know its concern or joking, but I know how you feel. I am very short and also 255 so I know it will be awhile before its noticable. Stick in there we will get through it !!

Are you tall? I am 5' 9" and it took about 25 pounds down before anyone started noticing. Give it time and keep on the path! You will get there! We all will with support and dedication. Good luck!

I'm 5'10" and have this problem...God only knows all the places my body was storing fat. Ugh.

Easier said than done but try to stay on your path and don't listen to these debbie downers. Do you feel different/better with your loss? After my 1st 10, I didn't feel or look amazing but what I did realize was "I can do this!" That was enough to keep me going. I hope you can feel the same way and be proud of your loss to date and envision what it's going to feel like if you keep losing.

I agree with the other poster - try to incorporate strength training if you can. I only did cardio and not strength training that first 45 days of being on MFP because I had a hectic schedule but I wish had done both now.

Maybe the weight loss has changed the way you carry your weight has changed your appearance somehow. So they have noticed a change and they assumed you have gained or something. just keep on going you can do it!

Hi, when i first started this i was having trouble with my knee's. the Dr just said, your too young to have a knee replacement, you need to lose weight and exercise. Well, that was March of last year. I saw the same Dr in Nov of last year beause i was still having knee problems, he walked in the room, looked at me, looked at the chart, and asked if I was the same person. i told him i just did what he told me too. i still am!! Too bad it hasnt stopped my knee's from hurting though!! Hang in there, you can do this!! You are worth it!!

Good job! I bet that Dr. wishes all his patients did the same! cqp1- hang in there, I have been losing and gaining the same 5 lbs for the past month and am at my wit's end, but last year I lost quite a bit. It took about 25 pounds before anyone noticed, but I sure did because my jeans were so loose I had to wear a belt.

this is resolved in a 2 step process

step 1: break up with him
step 2: prove him wrong

I've proved many a YouTube troll who've said I'll never be able to lose weight and yet I've lost 13lbs so far.

15lbs is a lot! Maybe it doesn't show much but it is a lot! I have lost 25lbs and I have a long way to go so to me it isn't a lot but in retrospect it is. It's always nice to hear someone ask you if you have lost weight so it's natural to want to hear it so I feel bad for you when it goes the opposite. Keep your chin up though because you are doing what you are supposed to. And soon enough people will notice. No one has really said much to me beside my husband and my MIL. Sometimes I think they are just being nice so I don't believe them anyway, lol.

Remember after you lose weight it takes a little bit for the skin to bounce back since it will have that deflated look. Which looks terrible and makes you look fatter.

So during that period if the general shape stays the same it is going to look like you are heavier.

If the scale says you are going down just recognize that it is just a sign of losing.

I always get those "helpful" comments from my family, too. People who haven't "been there" actually think all you need is for them to tell you you're fat and you will magically see the light and slim down. Do they really think we don't know we have put on weight? Ugh. Their comments are more damaging than anything else since it causes stress and, in my case, makes me too self-conscious to even want to go out. This is one of the main reasons I love living so far from my family, and why I hate going back home to visit, sadly. It isn't the reason I left, of course, but I feel a lot better when I'm not constantly hearing how awful I look.

It will be awhile before you get compliments on your weight loss, but it will come. I find my family will jump to point out a five-pound gain, but hardly mention a twenty-pound loss.