Do you ever think: how did I get to this point?

Most of us have probably had that "how could I let this happen" moment. Awful as it feels I think it's important, because personally if I don't know why I ended up overweight, my fear is that I'll make it a pattern. If you can understand it, you can conquer it.

But beyond that there's no point in ruminating. Focus on the moment you're in, and the choices you will make today to achieve your goal. And when you slip back into the "how could I" thinking, just kindly remind yourself there's nothing to be gained by dwelling on that. Eventually it will become a very positive new habit.

This is the story of my life!

I think my problem is that I don't get big in one area, I just get wider but stay relatively flat. So it's really hard for me to tell on myself that I have gained weight.

One thing I've often wondered is why didn't someone tell me? I mean I know it's a touchy subject but omg I wish my mom, my husband, my sister, ANYONE would have been like hey you've put on some weight. I'm not blaming anyone else but me, but like 50lbs ago I wish someone would have said something to me, and now I wouldn't be 100lbs overweight.

Also going months at a time without getting on a scale doesn't help.

When I started in January, I did wonder how I let myself go. I was thin my childhood and through my 20s. Why did I put on weight when I was 35 and then was able to take it off so easily? What changed between then and now?

Why did I think it was OK to be heavy and to then let myself gain a total of 50 pounds through January 1, 2013?

I had to face the brutal fact that I eat to cope with stress or other issues I don't want to face. That was hard. In fact, the hardest part of this journey is realizing why I ate and then breaking the self-destructive nature of my eating habits. Do I really feel better eating that comfort food? Why would I select that salty, sweet and fatty thing to nibble on when I was worried? Is my anxiety cured by that snack?

No.

It's fixed by facing the issue, the person and the trouble head-on.

When I start maintenance, I will need more discipline, as I still have a slightly distorted view of what a portion size is for me. This is truly a story of a journey and not a destination. Stay tuned!

The only people not thinking, "how did I get to this point", are sleeping in the ground. And even they thought it.

God! yes! I think about my weight all the time. How come I became so fat? I'm still in process to find the reasons why I have so much problems to get an healty weight. I have a younger sister who is healty, fit and never had those troubles.
Why me? Well, I love food. I don't eat junk food but I absolutely overeat. I don't exercice enough. And I think too much about my weight.( that's stressful) That's what I found so far.

Now, i'm working on myself to get more fit and have an healty weight. For instance, my Dr. told me that I was obese (based on my IMC). I was shocked. I'm really trying to change that every single day. It's hard, and my weight lost is so slowwwww. (About 10 pounds in 4 months)

I don't give up, if others can do it, I surely can do it too.
So I think it's good to think about what brought us there to never fall again in bad behaviours. Most important: You are asking questions about yourself, so you are conscious that there's something wrong out there.

Keep it up! We worth it!!

Don't think about it like that, just think that this time next year you'll be glad you started today.
I honestly feel like you have to have a cut off point where you think, 'I am never going to be over X weight'. It's probably easy for me to say because I don't have kids but the minute I feel my jeans get tight I sort it out. I never buy a size up, that's just giving in. Consequently I have never been overweight. It's just a 'keeping myself in check' attitude.

Once upon a time, I was a skinny, vain cheerleader who was almost underweight.

At my highest, I weighed 300.1 lbs.

Yup, can definitely relate.

I KNOW how I got to this point. By paying attention to my job/friends/ family/farm/obligations/art and never bothering to pay any attention to what was going on with me.

Of course, we all do that. You're not alone. I do think that guilt and shame are the two most detrimental emotions to a healthy self-assessment. When I was in high school, I was 5'10" and weighed 190 lbs, which is roughly 15 lbs overweight for me. I thought I was as big as an elephant and quit going to amusement parks because I was afraid I wouldn't fit on the rides! It's true. The guilt and shame of being heavier than the other girls made my self-assessment so far off kilter that I never loved myself. It only got worse after high school. The more I felt "how did I let myself get this fat?!?!?" The fatter I got. At 5'11" and 385, my max weight, I had weight loss surgery. I finally started to love the body that was forming with two a day two hour workouts, and of course, restricted eating. I reached my WL goal, but I wasn't done with the negative head noise. I had a catastrophic accident that nearly took my life and required the WL surgery to be reversed. Over the course of 10 years, I regained all but 50 lbs, and I again asked myself "how did I get here?" That question is almost irrelevant. Once I started concentrating on what I needed to do to get healthy, I stopped asking that self-defeating question. I have lost 55 lbs and would like to lose 80 more, but the number isn't important. As long as I get rest, drink plenty of water, eat what's good for me, and move my body every single day, I know I am living the good life. I've never been so happy eating and living right.

I think about it all the time and believe me, it bothers me. I left the Air Force in '98 after hearing for 13 years how fat I was, 5'10 at 184 lbs. Once I was out, I just didn't let weight worry me anymore. Fast forward to Jan 2013 and I'm touching 300 lbs on the scale, it was a moment that stopped and slapped me around a little bit.