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Guys ALWAYS say "confidence matters" LOL.

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  • Posts: 6,998 Member
    I don't know what appeals to men. They don't hit on me very often.
  • Posts: 2,747 Member
    Well, what if you guys get a hot girl in the sack and she's obsessing over her looks... as if she's not hot enough (or skinny enough). You're thinking in your head, "WTF is wrong with this girl? Where's her confidence?" Are you not?

    So is it safe to say that a girl can be hella hott, but her lack of confidence would turn you off at some point?

    So what if the butterface is good in bed and confident as hell with her sexuality, wouldn't you rather get with her and over time her butterface wouldn't matter as much?

    LOL

    ETA: sorry, I made it all about sex. But isn't that the meat and potatoes of attraction? The ultimate goal? I agree. Everyone should be nice. Not everyone has the same requirements for attraction, but it does matter.
  • Posts: 4,676 Member
    I think the thing is that confidence make people appear more attractive, and lack of takes away from your attraction

    ^^^^ I have dated girls that were not 10's or the size of a model and it had to do with how they carried themselves. Confidence can make an average girl that I am attracted to above average and an above average girl HOT. A confident girl that I have no attraction to will not catch my interest. I have dated a size 2 soccer player almost half my age and a woman a size 20 that was older. So, it is not like a woman has to be a certain size or less.
  • Posts: 1,893 Member
    I don't know what appeals to men. They don't hit on me very often.

    Yeah right. Pull this leg and it plays Jingle Bells.
  • Posts: 4,676 Member
    Well, what if you guys get a hot girl in the sack and she's obsessing over her looks... as if she's not hot enough (or skinny enough). You're thinking in your head, "WTF is wrong with this girl? Where's her confidence?" Are you not?

    So is it safe to say that a girl can be hella hott, but her lack of confidence would turn you off at some point?

    So what if the butterface is good in bed and confident as hell with her sexuality, wouldn't you rather get with her and over time her butterface wouldn't matter as much?

    LOL

    Yes. One girl I dated would not let me see her nekkid with the lights on and had to shower before sects. I crushed on her for almost 6 months before asking her out dated a while and her lack of confidence drained me to the point that I hated to give compliments.
  • Posts: 262 Member
    Well, what if you guys get a hot girl in the sack and she's obsessing over her looks... as if she's not hot enough (or skinny enough). You're thinking in your head, "WTF is wrong with this girl? Where's her confidence?" Are you not?

    So is it safe to say that a girl can be hella hott, but her lack of confidence would turn you off at some point?

    So what if the butterface is good in bed and confident as hell with her sexuality, wouldn't you rather get with her and over time her butterface wouldn't matter as much?

    LOL

    Confidence is an important factor for both parties i feel, I myself currently lack any form of self confidence even when hiding behind a keyboard! Didn't even have the confidence to say anything to SoDamnHungry above you lol.

    A partner really should have equal mixes of all desirable attributes, yes whilst the butterface may be confident in bed, and such, as shallow as it sounds, there needs to be a physical attraction as well?
  • Posts: 6,998 Member

    Yeah right. Pull this leg and it plays Jungle Bells.

    To be fair, I don't walk around in a bikini all the time.
  • Posts: 1,299 Member

    To be fair, I don't walk around in a bikini all the time.

    And why not? Damn society and its stupid judgement of others.
  • Posts: 262 Member

    To be fair, I don't walk around in a bikini all the time.

    Even so, your figure is amazing, and so long as you aren't wearing clothes 5 or 6 sizes to big guys will notice that :flowerforyou:
  • Posts: 4,676 Member
    I think it really depends on the guy. Most guys just go for the hot or not aspect though. But eff 'em.

    At your age you are probably right but I know going through school girls wanted someone that would treat them right but dated the hotter guys that were bad boys or had some reputation.
  • Posts: 2,747 Member

    Yes. One girl I dated would not let me see her nekkid with the lights on and had to shower before sects. I crushed on her for almost 6 months before asking her out dated a while and her lack of confidence drained me to the point that I hated to give compliments.

    Okay, so confidence "nekkid" is a BIG DEAL! As well as confidence in yourself. But I get what the OP is saying. If he ain't attracted, and he pulls out the confidence card, he just wasn't into you. It doesn't mean someone else won't be.
  • Posts: 7,010 Member
    Well, what if you guys get a hot girl in the sack and she's obsessing over her looks... as if she's not hot enough (or skinny enough). You're thinking in your head, "WTF is wrong with this girl? Where's her confidence?" Are you not?

    So is it safe to say that a girl can be hella hott, but her lack of confidence would turn you off at some point?

    So what if the butterface is good in bed and confident as hell with her sexuality, wouldn't you rather get with her and over time her butterface wouldn't matter as much?

    LOL

    ETA: sorry, I made it all about sex. But isn't that the meat and potatoes of attraction? The ultimate goal? I agree. Everyone should be nice. Not everyone has the same requirements for attraction, but it does matter.

    No. I would not have to choose between these two. I would find an attractive girl who is good in bed and confident (my wife). Sorry....Can't speak for the less attractive guys on here.
  • Posts: 418 Member
    Being confident does make someone more attractive, but if they look like a wookie dressed like lady gaga no amount of confidence is going to make that attractive.
  • Posts: 7,010 Member

    To be fair, I don't walk around in a bikini all the time.

    Is that a batman bikini? I think we are destined for each other.
  • Posts: 61 Member
    I agree. I think confidence and charisma are definitely attractive, and can make an average looking person seem super hot, but if there's no attraction there in the first place, there never will be, no matter how much confidence they have.
  • Posts: 2,747 Member

    Confidence is an important factor for both parties i feel, I myself currently lack any form of self confidence even when hiding behind a keyboard! Didn't even have the confidence to say anything to SoDamnHungry above you lol.

    A partner really should have equal mixes of all desirable attributes, yes whilst the butterface may be confident in bed, and such, as shallow as it sounds, there needs to be a physical attraction as well?

    A butter face has an awesome body. So you can be attracted to her body if not her face. Hence, "but her face..."

    ETA: feel the need to add "perception is reality" and "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Anybody can be a butterface to anybody. Not trying to categorize people.
  • Posts: 6,998 Member

    Is that a batman bikini? I think we are destined for each other.

    Yes, yes it is! :wink:
  • Posts: 262 Member

    A butter face has an awesome body. So you can be attracted to her body if not her face. Hence, "but her face..."

    And someones face doesn't play a role in physical attraction? I'm sorry but if im sexually involved with someone their face is kind some something i spend a lot of time looking at, eyes are very important to me (as sad as i am )
  • Posts: 2,925 Member




    You should be nice to a person REGARDLESS.:huh:
    Really?
  • Posts: 83
    Really?

    Yes, really. Is it so hard?
  • Posts: 262 Member

    Yes, really. Is it so hard?

    Common courtesy and good manners, thats all it is, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
  • Posts: 1,893 Member

    Is that a batman bikini? I think we are destined for each other.

    Is that a tramp stamp? On a dude?
  • Posts: 262 Member

    Is that a tramp stamp? On a dude?

    Yes, yes it is! :tongue: :wink:
  • Posts: 6,998 Member

    Yes, yes it is! :tongue: :wink:

    :laugh:
  • Posts: 2,925 Member

    Yes, really. Is it so hard?
    I have a problem with the word regardless? Maybe I am missing the context.
  • Posts: 276 Member
    My amazing sex makes up for my lack of confidence :smokin:
  • Posts: 83
    I have a problem with the word regardless? Maybe I am missing the context.

    Example: You should be nice to a person REGARDLESS of your initital impression of them.
  • Posts: 41 Member
    I think it's fair to say that confidence in a woman is more attractive then it's opposite. To me. If there were two identical women that were equally attractive to me and one of them is a down on herself shoe-gazing mope and the other projects well and is *comfortable and happy with herself and her life* - meaning she doesn't need me to like her then the winner is pretty obvious. But yeah I'm not likely to stick around and find out either way if I don't think either is attractive unless we work together or otherwise spend a regular amount of time around each other... then again that's not an absolute. It's all relative and also depends on what other choices a guy has; sometimes there's a tipping point.
  • Posts: 307
    I'd much rather be with a chubby confident girl than a hot timid one.
  • Posts: 506 Member
    You totally lost me at Kesha.

    If you feel the need to reference her in any type of personal comparison, all the confidence in the world that you have doesn't matter to me.

    Just sayin...
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