Surely I'm not the ONLY one here...

Whoops I assumed incorrectly on your gender (small pic on my phone)

it doesn't bother me, think of Maslow's needs pyramid. We are all at different levels and different journeys and here for our own reason.

Maybe the lack of confidence is why people decided to make a change. Being worth saving verses having high self esteem are two separate things altogether. Maybe some of these people want higher self esteem and would have more if they lost weight, gained muscle, have friends on here, etc.

Have a beer, a coffee, a chocolate bar, or your favorite..... and wish these people luck.

Surely I'm not the only one here who is not annoyed and disappointed in the over abundance of women on here with low self esteem?

my looks is something I know I am good in. I have looked at a 1,000 mirrors in every angle imagineable. I have measured my face, nose - width ratio ect.... I have studied what makes people attractive.

my looks is something I know I am good in. I have looked at a 1,000 mirrors in every angle imagineable. I have measured my face, nose - width ratio ect.... I have studied what makes people attractive.

So your confidence comes from being pretty/attractive?

Personally, I find desperation very sexy in a woman!

it doesn't bother me, think of Maslow's needs pyramid. We are all at different levels and different journeys and here for our own reason.

I hadn't heard anyone else talk about Maslow's pyramid since my MBA classes in 2006, but it most definitely applies here! Some are just starting out, some are at a plateau, and some like me are stretching toward the finishing line with their goal in sight. Keep looking - you'll find people of all stages out there.

...who is annoyed and disappointed in the lack of confidence of people on here.

Too many outisde influence beat down even the strongest people over time. Some crack earlier and some later, but everyone can get down. What is good, or supposed to be good about this type of environment is that you can find that encouragement and support to help keep you off the edge, so to say. So no matter how down someone might be, or how belittled the world might make them feel, we can help people with the simplest of words and encouragement.

Or something like that.

Surely I'm not the only one here who is not annoyed and disappointed in the over abundance of women on here with low self esteem?

Nope, you aren't the only one. I makes it easy for me to get the ladies.

I can understand that. I saw a lot of really beautiful ladies and men on that rate yourself thread giving themselves low numbers...IDK if it was fishing or honest lack of confidence, but either way. I don't think people should let their weight alone define their outer beauty. I am overweight, and I realize that I am just slightly above average on the looks scale. I have been told differently, but I disagree. Part of it is my weight, but I think at any size I will always see myself the same way.

My personality kicks *kitten*, though.

YES!!! Awesomeness kicks a**!!! Above all else!!

Being over weight (especially women) = low self confidence...Been there. Some have had years of this which makes it difficult to over come. (bad habits are hard to break)

However...even still being over weight for some reason i find working out 5 days a week has kicked my confidence into high gear. I feel better about myself even if the mirror doesn't show a sexier me yet. How we feel inside shows on the out side.

And yes - confidence is sexy in any size!

More annoyed and disappointed with the over abundance of arrogance in general on here

True confidence doesn't need to be touted, it's evident

Just be true to yourself OP

You want to hear from confident people? Okay. I made the decision when my niece was certified as a fitness trainer and volunteered to set me up with MFP and guide me through the program. At this point I was 64 years old, retired, happily married for 42 years, led a lifestyle with steady, moderate exercise around the farm ( a lot in the summer and fall, less in the winter), had no serious health issues, and I weighed more than I liked but was nonetheless a warm, happy, confident person with a group of close friends and a respected reputation in my hobby as a gourd and fiber artist. I was happy with who I was and what I accompllshed in my life but would prefer to lose about 30 lbs. I started the program, ate sensibly under my niece's guidance, logged everything I ate, exercised a lot more outside as the weather improved, did cardio indoors on the elliptical machine, and did a Funcercize beginners workout DVD using 5 lb. dumbbells several times a week, on a more or less random schedule for the DVD part of it as suited my personal convenience. I never went over my calorie goals for the day, was almost always under, never did a "cheat day", kept to the plan with no difficulty due largely to determination and self-control, was down in weight at every weekly weigh-in, and now at 90 days in I have lost 10 lbs. and about 12" off my waist, have more strength, stamina, and energy than before starting, my arms no longer jiggle, my butt is firmer, my legs are stronger, I am pleased with my progress and happy with my appearance, as is my husband. I wanted to take it slow because my skin is 64 years old and too-fast weight loss would leave me looking like a half-melted candle. I never HAD any bitterness, bad self-image, lack of confidence, body image issues, or an ED in the first place. If my neice had not reccommended this program, or If I hadn't lost an ounce, I would still have been a happy, confident person who thought I was a damned good artist and designer and really liked myself. Yes, I have had success, and have been very pleased with the results, and I find this site a great tool. I have not had any bumps in the road, nor have I ever fallen off the wagon. It is true that I don't know my BMR, body fat percentage, or any of the other technical stuff, and don't feel I need to. I intend to lose weight as long as I look good for my age and do not start getting too wrinkled; if I do, I'll stop there and just maintain. Probably I won't try to go smaller than a size 12 as I cannot afford to replace my wardrobe. That sums it up at three months in.