Eating through heartbreak

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  • ggxx100
    ggxx100 Posts: 520 Member
    Just sleep with someone new.

    Always works for me.

    Next time a girl breaks your heart, let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I can't stand to see you suffer!

    Sorry you're having a tough time, OP. I am an emotional eater, and it is difficult.

    MFP should have a personals section for this very reason :laugh:

    Maybe this will be the new calorie counting match.com..ya never know.
  • RandiLandCHANGED
    RandiLandCHANGED Posts: 630 Member
    Just sleep with someone new.

    Always works for me.

    Next time a girl breaks your heart, let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I can't stand to see you suffer!

    Sorry you're having a tough time, OP. I am an emotional eater, and it is difficult.

    MFP should have a personals section for this very reason :laugh:

    Maybe this will be the new calorie counting match.com..ya never know.

    Great idea! Although I still believe that making a less than classy pass at someone in a random thread is the surest way to find true love :wink:
  • DancingDreams1234
    DancingDreams1234 Posts: 165
    You my friend have the sympathy of a tablespoon.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    Ugh I know how you feel. When I'm hurt I get numb and cannot eat. Then days later I want all the food. It's not easy, rejection hurts. It will get better:flowerforyou:
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    MFP should have a personals section for this very reason :laugh:

    Maybe this will be the new calorie counting match.com..ya never know.

    It kind of already does . . It also kind of already is.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/forums/show/299-single-peeps-

    Oh and RandiLand PM me.
  • saghorse
    saghorse Posts: 2
    You have my mypathies - like you my partner and I came to an end on Thursday - not mutual I hasten to add and I'm still in shock. It's hard to concentrate on anything and to stay motivated but I absolutely agree with your tip that it's important to feel like you are in control of at least one part of your life - hence I am sticking to the diet fanatically.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    A lot of us got where we were by using food to deal with emotions. Eventually, some people realize that it only really makes things worse in the long run.
  • Josalinn
    Josalinn Posts: 1,066 Member
    :hug:

    When I am really depressed/broken I don't eat or I eat lots of cake. But something I did in college (which all my friends yelled at me for) was go running....in the middle of the night. I would run and run all through campus and something about it felt very freeing and uplifting. Sometimes I sat under a tree and cried, but then I would get up and run some more. I thought "If I put enough distance between me and my sadness, things will be better." And in a way, running helped me move on.

    However, at least here in PA, the weather is gorgeous. Even if you don't like to run, go for a walk in a park. Being in nature is a medicine all on its own.

    Hang in there, and if you feel like you want to eat your way through this heartbreak anyway, get a lot of berries and keep them in the fridge :heart:
  • ggxx100
    ggxx100 Posts: 520 Member
    It kind of already does . . It also kind of already is.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/forums/show/299-single-peeps-

    Who would've thought.

    I met my boyfriend the traditional way: the seafood section at Whole foods...:wink:

    Also I forgot to mention OP, have you considered taking up a new sport? It seems counterintuitive to just distract yourself, not to mention a little cliche, but it definitely works. Having a new passion (that's not towards a person) will center all of that emotion away from the fridge.
  • Cockney365
    Cockney365 Posts: 52 Member
    :hug:

    When I am really depressed/broken I don't eat or I eat lots of cake. But something I did in college (which all my friends yelled at me for) was go running....in the middle of the night. I would run and run all through campus and something about it felt very freeing and uplifting. Sometimes I sat under a tree and cried, but then I would get up and run some more. I thought "If I put enough distance between me and my sadness, things will be better." And in a way, running helped me move on.

    Ha ha no way! I did this! Well, it was walking rather than running but yeah, I'd just get up and go for a walk round the park, 3 miles, whatever time of night I couldn't sleep, I'd just go. I just had to get out of the house, had to get away. For those first few days burned off a lot of anger/sadness/depression/humiliation/frustration/energy just walking round the park (along the roads, it is well lit). Had time to clear my mind, use my energy to get me round the park without being kidnapped or eaten by squirrels, and meant I was tired by the time I got back and could get a few hours sleep. Probably not my most sensible idea but I think it helped. Helped me anyway, and after that I joined WW, hit the gym and lost 2st. Since put it back on but that's because I left WW and the gym.

    I know it's not the right way to think about it but, I throw myself into exercise in the hope some other dude will like a fit, happy me, and use that as my motivation to get over the one before. I'd like to point out, yes I want to lose weight for me blah blah but I also want to be attractive to men, although it's not my priority. If they like a fit me, great. If they don't, I'm still going to be fit so I win either way and it's a great way to keep yourself distracted. Good luck with moving on :)
  • Buff2022
    Buff2022 Posts: 373 Member
    I am very sorry for your heartbreak. Going through a break up is hard.

    I am also going through heartache, but different from yours. My best friend of 20 years is dying. I am now just waiting for the call that she passed.

    But try this take on it.
    1. Take care of you. Gaining weight is not going to bring him back. I said the same thing to myself. Gaining weight is not going to make her live.

    2. You can't control what he did or said. But you can control you...what you eat and if you work out. As much as I wanted to the day after I got the news that it would be days. I wanted to stay in bed and cry. Instead I went and worked out. I still wanted to cry but I felt better.

    I hope you feel better soon. Remember losing you is his loss and the next one will appreciate, cherish and love you more.
  • kaylabrose
    kaylabrose Posts: 71
    Just sleep with someone new.

    Always works for me.

    I hope you know that your replies to posts make my day hahaha :flowerforyou:
  • AngelHeart1986
    AngelHeart1986 Posts: 7
    Any updates 1 month after? Is it getting any easier? I am going through the same thing, feeling pretty down and looking for a little hope that it will get better :)
  • FeelingLessChubby
    FeelingLessChubby Posts: 152 Member
    Hey AngelHeart, how are you doing yourself? :)

    I feel LOADS better, but I still miss him very much and I think about him a little too much. When I'm at work Mon-Fri it's easy to forget, but weekends are still hard. Also I'm coming up to the 1st anniversary of our meeting/first date and I'm thinking too much about "we didn't even make it to one year".

    I've lost 10lbs since I joined MFP and this helped me feel so much better! I've now reached a point where people are noticing the weightloss. 20 more lbs to go. Every time I felt down, I texted one of my friends for support and they were always there to say a few motivational words. It helped to no end.

    A lot of good things happened to me since I got dumped, and the day before yesterday I made a list of them - to see black on white what a lucky girl I am. They probably would have happened if he was still around, but they helped me focus on "me, me, me". You see, before I met him I was very happily single and I'd like to go back to that state, so having good things happen to me really helps focus on me alone :)

    I've gone full speed back into my hobbies and I've updated my CV, hopefully a new job will top it all off soon.

    Let me know how you are hun xxx

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