Completely at a loss

That was very low of her. I would love to say "don't let it effect you", but we all know it does and will no matter what. Unfortunately, it probably won't get better with her.

At the same rate, if really the only thing she has over you is that she's skinny, well then, you're still FAR better off!!! I'd rather be heavier and overall a better person, than skinny and a total witch with a capital B.

Keep your chin up. We all have these kinds of people in our lives. They just want to tear you down and make you lose hope/motivation because they have none.

Internet Hugs and kind thoughts going your way.

Wow, sounds like you are dealing with a real piece of work. Sorry to hear that. On the fitness side of it: don't try to lose weight just to "show somebody up". It'll never last. You need to work on you for YOU. To make YOU feel better and good about yourself. When you are ready to do that you will find you have tons of support available if you want it (whether it's friends, family or even strangers on here!)

If I were you I'd ignore her to the best of your ability. Focus on you and your kids. Your kids have the best mom they could possibly have. Do your best to get fit and healthy for you and for them. That means healthy food and exercise. It doesn't mean being an 80 lb drug addict.

Facebook, Twitter, Text-Messaging --- wish they could all be abolished -- they cause such problems. Lots of drama.

I know my daughter had so many problems caused by Facebook and MySpace.

Turn off Facebook. If you want to know what's going on with your friends - or you want to share personal information with them -- pick up the phone and call them and/or make a date for lunch.

Don't let the b*itch get the better of you. Recognize she's a loser and stay away from her. If someone tries to talk to you about her tell them to change the subject. Your boyfriend has to deal with her -- YOU DON'T.


Focus on yourself and your children and do what you have to do to make your lives better.
Your good health is important! Stay strong - you can do it. Don't let ANYONE tread on you! :flowerforyou:

I believe in Karma. Live good and life will be good. Live bad and eventually you'll suffer consequences.

While your feelings are understandable they are not productive. No matter how thin or fit or beautiful you get, this person will continue to taunt you as long as it produces a result. She may continue even if it doens't. You can't control this woman so it's best to not let her control you. Lose weight for you. Get fit for you. You deserve it. She doesn't deserve your time or your thoughts.

I hate to hear this..All I would say is continue to do the best you can and make the changes for you. She should be a non factor. The way I picture what you described of her lets me know... I'd take my 3 children, stretch marks and stomach and be proud of myself . Don't let anyone steal your joy and the happiness of what you are trying to do. Hang in there, you'll have the last laugh.!

You poor thing you must feel very hurt at the moment but you can turn this around. SOME People love the idea of being cruel and it makes them feel better. You need to raise that middle finger and laugh at her. Most people will be laughing at her honey.
I am an older mom I have a little boy of 5 and I look ok in a bikini . I don't have any stretch marks and people tell me I'm attractive bubbly fun person to be with . I have a happy marriage and a beautiful home.

Now the truth.
I struggled for years to have children and had to bribe my husband into IVF . He too had a child from a ex . She also was a nasty ***** who taught her son to call me Barbie and be generally rude.
Eventually I got pregnant naturally and gave birth at 26 weeks to a baby weighing 540 grams.
Our life was a roller coaster and our little boy had numerous operations . I was exhausted and although my body didn't stretch and I never got fat my face is like a walnut whip.
I think I aged overnight from sheer desperation to get my child to live.
Ironically no one notices my face they tell me I am known as the get up and go mom.
I notice my face i think i am ugly and used to criticise it daily.
My dad died recently and that floored me again.
I lost my looks again crying daily . My body shrunk , I stopped putting cream on my face or any pampering. I survived to keep my family going.

So I decided I wouldn't live like this anymore and I made changes slowly I am feeling better.
You too need to write a list of all the good things going for you
I will start you off

You have your own children wow. You grew them brought them into the world and that's the most amazing thing ever.
You may have stretch marks but there are some fab swimming costumes out there and you can look wicked
You can always have nice hair. So pamper it
A smile is an easy one
Now I am sending u a big (((((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))
Don't get wrinkles like mine stressing x

Don't let crazy rule your life. The opinion of some jacked up junkie shouldn't determine your self-worth. Be the best Mama you can be to those kids, the best you that you can be to yourself and don't worry about anyone else. Karma will deal with her.

I know how it is having C-sections. The flabby belly, stretch marks worse than a tigers LOL. Your beautiful, and know that you are healthy she is obviously not. Top put something like that on facebook directed towards you must show that she is jealous of what you have. (Old school, yes but it is so true) If you want messageme I have been in a similar situation. Best of luck to you. And ROCK what you got LOL

Oh and are you still with the guy? Is this the mother of his kid? I would re-evaluate that relationship. All this stress might not be worth it.

Weight loss is a long road. By the time you're bikini ready that boyfriend of yours may not even be in the picture and that 80 lb ***** might not be in the picture; thus your motivation will be gone. Do it for you. Do it for the future you, whoever happens to be there with you will enjoy the new you with you.

If I were in your shoes I know I would be sooooooo tempted to post a picture of you nestled tight in your BF's arms with a big grin on your face with a caption "He's with ME now".

But that would be stooping to her level but I do hope the idea at least puts a smile on your face :happy: :flowerforyou:

I think I might begin to wonder about the guy who thought she would make a good mother to his child. This doesn't sound like a good situation on any level. Might be a good time to step back and reevaluate.