Do you receive neg comments about your weight loss?

I will get to my goal weight and if folks don't like it, oh well.

:drinker:

Not worth your time, people like this need to be superior to you in some way, and your weight was the only thing they had, lose the weight, and lose about 280 more pounds when you ditch these "friends"

I have plenty of experience with this and I have found that it generally stems from one of three things:
1. Jealousy/Insecurity/Needing to relate things to themselves
Most people try to relate things to themselves and their own experiences in order to feel engaged, so when someone they know starts a new lifestyle change, it often makes them aware of their own failings or insecurities (however founded or unfounded they may be). When I was in my lower teen years I suffered from anorexia. I was painfully thin and one of the most common comments I would get would be "if you think you're fat, what am I," which completely ignores the fact that EDs are about one's own insecurities, body dysmorphia and need for control, not one's absolute view of fat and thin (i.e. my ED was about my own mental problems, it wasn't that I thought everyone my size or bigger was fat). People will often take everything you do personally, even if it is not at all related to them or your view of them. Even now, when I recently announced I wanted to get more in shape and start eating healthy, I still have people telling me to stop, saying that they are more out of shape than I am and that they are fine. While they direct it at you, it's usually subconsciously directed at themselves. They might feel threatened that you are doing something they should be doing too and that you might judge them for it.
With these people, I usually try not to bring up my new fitness journey. I know it makes them feel (unnecessarily) self conscious about themselves, so I try to divert conversation away from it to more positive things going on with them. I don't blame them either, there are many times someone has told me they are doing x, y, and z to better themselves and I get really self-conscious that I am not doing that myself.

2. Trying (and failing) to be helpful/supportive
When I had my ED, people were always telling me I was too thin, or that I was thinner than them and they were a healthy weight, etc. Most of the time, thought it sounded mean to me, it wasn't intended to be. Sometimes people try to be supportive by telling you that you look fine the way you are, thinking that it's what you want to hear. A lot of people are lacking in tact or really don't know what to say to encourage you in your fitness goals. Before I started trying to improve my health, I saw my doctor and a nutritionist in order to monitor my progress and make sure I was maintaining healthy practices. Whenever someone tries to be "helpful and supportive" by telling me I don't need to eat healthy or work out, I simply tell them that I enjoy what I am doing and that my doctor and nutritionist both think what I am doing is great and not at all being done for unhealthy reasons.

3. Cultural Norms
When I got to college I was about 125 lbs, with a low, but healthy BMI. I packed on about 15 lbs during my undergraduate career and ended up at about 140 lbs with a BMI of 21. I was definitely still at a healthy weight/BMI, but was looking to drop a few pounds and "tone up." I lived in the US and people were constantly telling me it was unnecessary and that I was thin enough already. Not long after, I moved to Switzerland, where it seems like nearly everyone my age was super svelte (in the city at least). When I recently told my friends about my intention to lose a few pounds and generally improve my fitness, all of them were encouraging and not one said anything about me being "thin enough." Obese and overweight people are so prevalent in the US, and "couch potatoes" so common, that we really lose sight of what is a "normal" weight range and what a healthy level of fitness looks like. With a BMI of 21 in the US, I was one of the thinnest people around, whereas here in Switzerland, I am definitely more "middle-of-the-road." There's no real way to correct for this and even I fall victim to it a lot. Girl that I would consider painfully thin in the US, I would consider active and fit here.

I think the moral of the story it that people need to understand that each person's weight loss/weight gain/fitness journey is their own. No one enter into it because of how they view others, but because of how they view themselves. Someone trying to get fit or lose weight doesn't mean they discount others for not doing the same thing. In addition, weight loss/gain is okay as long as the person is maintaining a healthy weight and/or not going to extremes with their diet.

Sounds like they're not your friends.