Hubby still finds me sexy, I don't get it...

That is cute!! Would you rather he say mean things about how you look? It takes a long time for self esteem to recover if your guy says mean things about weight even if its true and needed to be said. Not that it would jump start weight loss.

Be thankful that you have someone that loves you regardless of your size.

So you don't understand why the man who married you finds you sexy? Did you ask him? You should then listen to him. I think the only person you need to question is yourself.

^This

MY boyfriend does the same (I'm not saying I'm seriously overweight).

But even when I am bloated, my hair is up, make-up is off, and i'm in sweats having a cheat day pigging out, he reminds me that's i'm so beautiful. And I look at him and stare and say "shut the hell up, no i'm not"

I told him my goal was to get into a bikini. He has seen me in one ONCE (and I was very uncomfortable with it). He's all "let's start working out, let's get healthy" and I'm all" you just want to see me in that damn bikini..."

I know where you are coming from. I find it hard to believe too. But I just go with the flow and if whatever I do makes him happy and he thinks me in my sweats is beautiful, then ok. I've gotten better at taking the compliment. I may not understand it, but I must be doing something right.

PS - you ARE PRETTY! I can see your photo! He loves you for you, that should be enough, even if you don't see it. I don't see it in me either, but others do, so I guess I have to go with it.

He loves YOU! How cool

So you don't understand why the man who married you finds you sexy? Did you ask him? You should then listen to him. I think the only person you need to question is yourself.

Perfectly said.

And don't keep saying bad things about yourself to him. Not only are you insulting the woman he loves, but eventually he may start seeing you the way you see yourself. Try to change the way you see yourself to how he sees you, not the other way around. Trust me on that.

My husband is the exact same way!! I've always been heavier than he is, but he still loves me...We were in the mall the other day and he tried to get me to go into Victoria Secret (Bahahahaha)...I said 'Honey, the only thing I can wear in there is the perfume"...lol...He, too, thinks thin women are sexy- he's an equal opportunist...lol..I often wonder why he likes my big ol' booty, but he does...we're lucky to have the husbands that we have!

My fiance is primarily attracted to blondes and starlets.
Somehow he loves me and finds me sexy and beautiful.

I'll take it.

Embrace what he finds sexy in you, show it. He'll find you even sexier.
The more you embrace it, the sexier you'll be!

Maybe you husband just loves you enough that he can be sexually attracted to you no matter what your body looks like? And you can find more than one body type attractive, it's not an all or nothing thing.

Take the compliment. You have a guy who genuinely loves you (which a lot of women don't) and he thinks your super sexy. Embrace that sexiness and run with it.

Be happy that means your man truly loves you!! My husband loved me and was hot for me at 210 lbs just as he is now that I am down to 158 it's like he never ever saw the weight and I love that because it means that he truly loves me and thinks I'm beautiful no matter what. It kind of sucks cause he doesn't to much notice the weight loss except when we are in intimate positions of course hehe but who cares he loves me and thinks I'm gorgeous what else can a woman ask for!! Now put on those seksie short shorts and give your man what he wants girl!! I know from experience even when I was heavy and didnt feel confident he wanted me to wear lingerie and thought I looked hot still praise jesus lol

THIS!!! My hubby is the same way... Thank God... It's TRUE LOVE when they love you just the way you are... Be grateful and appreciate your hubby and more importantly yourself... From your pic, you look beautiful, start believing in yourself... I am also trying desperately to heed to my own advice, sometimes it's hard...

I think it's quite common for us to judge ourselves the most harshly, and to hold unrealistic standards of ourselves and our appearances. Sadly, it's understandable with the images thrown at us everyday.

I agree with the advice here, although I'm such a hypocrite, since I have always thought along the same lines as you ><

THIS IS SO TRUEEEEE. If a person hears something enough, they must start to believe it! Love yourself and love him... enjoy his encouragement!

My husband loved my figure no matter how fat or thin I was and I've gone up and down many times. We are lucky to have such men. Some are horrible expecting a perfect in their eyes woman and life isn't like that.. we change when we have children or life throws things at us. They should be loving us for what is inside anyway not just what they see with their eyes.

My husband is the same way......and while I adore him for loving me now matter what, I don't understand it either. That, however, is due to my own self-esteem issues....not because I think he's nuts.

I grew up being told by my father that I was fat and ugly and stupid. That I'd never find anyone dumb enough to marry me. That I'd never have kids because nobody would ever be dumb enough to have kids with me. And those were the nice things he said to me. Because I heard that for a good 15 years of my life, it diminished any self-esteem I had.

I have been with my husband since 1992. It has taken me until the last couple of years (and some damn good therapy sessions) for me to stop saying "oh shut up, you're blind" after he'd tell me I'm beautiful. Now I smile and say thank you. I may not get it...but again, that's my self-esteem talking. My husband has never made a negative remark about my size and he never will. He loves me no matter what and that's pretty freakin' awesome.