Deciding not to date while losing weight? Your thoughts?

Dating? What's dating? Haha. I don't date and not by choice haha.

Honestly ? I looked at your picture and I think you are a knock out ! I'm surprised with your lovely face and red hair that men have turned you down. What do these men look like any way ? I'm sure they're not easy on the eyes, foolhardy.

I didn't date when I was near the top of my weight, because the thought of dressing up - or down - was very stressful to me.
All of the clothes in my closet were either too small or large.
On my first date in four years, I wore a pair of jeans held up with safety pin.
Now I can walk up to my closet, pull anything off the rack and it fits fine.

Keep losing weight until you are confident enough to take that first step and I guarantee you will find someone who deserves you and treats you like a goddess. As for the food, most restaurants have lighter options if you ask. Just put all sauces on the side and get something with grilled chicken about the size of your palm.

I know exactly what you are saying, I went on a blind date one time, I was very fit, (unlike now ) & the guy really liked me , I asked him what he would have done if I was overweight, he replied , " I would have turned around & left". I didn't see him again.

I do believe that there are guys out there that are not shallow & will accept a girl for who she is regardless of size..
I am currently single & wont be looking for a partner until I am at my goal weight, because I feel that I cannot truly love someone until I truly love me,& that's going to take time.

All the best on your journey

Yeah, I've done that before too. I've also done the OKCupid thing and had guys message me with, "Wow, I expecting nothing but fat girls on this site, but you were quite the find!" Nope. Go screw yourself, buddy.

I'm thinking of not dating while I work on improving myself here. Two reasons behind this.
1. Simply tired of the rejection based on my size. I know physical attraction is important, but the constant rejection is really getting to me.
2. Most dates involve getting drinks and/or food, and this just makes it harder to lose.

Has anyone done this or currently doing this? I've always wondered if men who seemed turned off by my size would suddenly be interested in a smaller me. And if so, will I have some sort of resentment towards them for it? Curious what others' thoughts on this are.

My best relationships (my marriage to my wonderful late husband) developed from friendships. I met my husband doing volunteer work... when I wore no makeup and could have cared less about what I looked like. Volunteer at something you enjoy or find meaningful, don't worry about dating, make friends with new people, and you never know what could happen. When you are friends first, people know what you look like and know about your diet, etc.

I honestly do want to improve myself right now, I don't feel the confidence to date. In general though, I've decided not to actively seek out someone, it may sound weird, but I'm not interested in men my age. I would rather wait until I'm older to date. ><

There are times when a person needs to focus on himself/herself. Actually, it's always fine to not go looking for something. It's your life, so live it in whatever way gives you the best shot to make the most of it. If dating (or the possibility of doing so) is causing you stress, it makes total sense not to bother with it. The odds of guys suddenly ceasing to exist is fairly low (or so my limited research into the subject indicates), so they'll (likely) still be around once you feel ready to dive back into the stresspool.

Funny, but when I quit looking I found love!!!! I was in San Antonio attendin a medical conference, and was not dating, and not looking....focusion 100% on myself. I was walking around the outside of the hotel, which was on the Riverwalk when I noticed a ton of bicycles fly by. There was a police officer on a bike, talking to another guy on a bike (turned out to be a lawyer, I found out later), and I asked what was going on. They told me that they were part of a Thursday night ride. They got together at a local bike shop after rush hour, ride bikes all over downtown and all meet-up at a German bar. What started out as a get together of 10 people had grown to a weekly event involving close to 300! Anyway, they told me they were meeting their wives there, and invited me along, as it was a safe place. Under usual circumstances I might have turned them down, but was feeling social so I showed up at the place an hour later. Anyway...the lawyer introduced me to a guy named Dan. Hot and sweatty from the bike ride, and me not looking and not interested...we talked briefly and exchanged business cards, and that was it. I got home and he had sent me a postcard, I sent him a post card back with a pic of something in my town, and we did this for a while...then we started swapping emails....and 3 months later it was time for another visit to Texas, one month later he came to Tennessee.....and one year later we were married. ...that was in April 2005, and we are as happy as happy can be. So....go ahead.....choose not to date, but do keep an open mind!

eazck...you sound like a great guy!

I haven't dated by choice for just over a year now. Going through a D-vorcy and decided to focus on my kids as my health has been in question to say the least.

I lifted the ban on womenz just recently, but I am really busy in summer time, so the only women I meet are married and want to cheat or much much younger ladies. I'm in no hurry, although its getting hard to say no to the beauties lately.

My best relationships (my marriage to my wonderful late husband) developed from friendships. I met my husband doing volunteer work... when I wore no makeup and could have cared less about what I looked like. Volunteer at something you enjoy or find meaningful, don't worry about dating, make friends with new people, and you never know what could happen. When you are friends first, people know what you look like and know about your diet, etc.

^^This. All this.

I think I'd find it too distracting to date when I'm trying to better myself already. Plus, I'd like to date guys who are also into fitness, but not being fit myself (or just not being at my goal weight yet) is kind of hypocritical. While sometimes it can DEFINITELY get lonely, I feel better knowing that once I've reached my goal, I'll have more confidence and I'll therefore be ready to date someone then.
I'm keeping my mind open though in the off-chance that someone special comes along!

No way am I putting my personal life on hold until I feel that my body is perfect. I've always had plenty going on in that area, even when I was at my fattest. Life is for living!

If I weren't with someone right now, I probably wouldn't date.
I'd still be stuck in the 'no one could possibly love me' mindset. Glad to be wrong.

Not everyone is going to turn you down based on looks, and those that do aren't worth your love in the first place.

I find it's better for me to concentrate on losing weight and getting fit for the moment. While I like the idea of dating, it would doubtless involve alcohol at some point plus food and be totally counter productive to my goals.