Comments From FB Friends... Awkward?

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  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    Yeah, how DARE people who love you compliment you on your hard work? It must be so terrible to know your efforts are finally paying off and other people can see it.

    The nerve!
  • momofJandA
    momofJandA Posts: 1,035 Member
    wait . . . you're upset because people are COMPLIMENTING you? :noway:
  • tomomatic
    tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
    Wear it like a badge of honor. You worked hard for what you've got. And it seems like they're being supportive! I wish I'd get more compliments like that. Keep rocking.
  • Flab2fitfi
    Flab2fitfi Posts: 1,349 Member
    I don't many pics of me on Facebook and don't really mention what I've been up to fitness wise.. I do post about tough mudder as I'm seeing if anyone wants to join my team.

    I post on here more often then facebook too but will probably post a pic when I've lost a bit more or when I've completed my tough Mudder.
  • citizencrp
    citizencrp Posts: 228 Member
    I don't know that I have much to offer on this topic other than "Yes! me too!" I do add new pictures to FB, just not a ton. And when I do, they tend to get a lot of comments. It's all very positive, but it's just all so STRANGE. here are some of my simultaneous thoughts:
    -I am proud of myself.
    -I look better than I used to.
    -Thank you for your compliments.
    -Shut up with your compliments.
    -I'm smaller, but I'm still so big, so stop patronizing me.
    -Was I really so hideous before?
    -No, I am not on a diet.
    -No, REALLY. I am not on a "diet".
    -Seriously, the fact that you can't understand that I'm not on a "diet" with a name and a book and bottles of supplements and a work out routine and I have still lost 60 lbs, makes me doubt your intelligence, so stop talking, now.
    -I feel objectified physically in a sometimes positive and sometimes sexual way and I just do not know how to handle that. I have 30 years of feeling objectified negatively under my plus size belt and that feels so much more comfortable. Terrible, but true.
    -I sometimes feel the need to apologize for taking some attention: "Thank you, but really, all I did was finally get my freaking act together, and besides, I still have to lose another 60lbs before I'm lovable" ok that's subtext, but you get my drift...

    So, yeah, I'm basically a mess, but I am so much less of a mess than I used to be.
    As much as I want to hide from everyone, more and more of me wants to be seen. So I share pictures every once in a while and I let them comment and I cringe and have my inner dialogue and then I just keep doing what I'm doing hoping it gets easier.

    PS: Have you noticed how much nicer people are to smaller people. I mean, I'm still obese, but 210 lbs is much more normal sized than my former weight and people *see* me now. It's bizarre. I know it's not because my attitude changed. Because honestly, I've always been pretty nice and outgoing and lately I feel like I'm too busy to be as nice as I used to be, but people are holding doors and looking me in the eyes and stopping at crosswalks... It's freaky.
  • bigsargemoss
    bigsargemoss Posts: 1
    Take the compliment! Honestly, if given the choice, I'll take "cheerleaders" over "haters" anyday. I motivate myself, but the encouragment is always nice!

    I'd say don't make it weird, and just say "thank you"!!
  • ozigal
    ozigal Posts: 173 Member
    I guess that when I was obese I would cringe when people spoke about my weight. Now that I have lost a lb or 2 I still expect to feel the same way. I hated photos of me before and was rarely in any pictures. I'm still the same... hate photos.

    i hadnt told any of my fb friends what I was up to for 6 months. My closest friends knew and the people I saw regularly knew but that was about it.

    Now that I have "come out" on fb and people have seen the difference, I got loads of compliments and yes, they make me feel a little uncomfortable but i am getting used to trying to be gracious.

    It's the non-fb IRL friends (yes, there are people who choose not to use fb) who I have to warn before I see them and they are still shocked and yep... for someone who has never had compliments, it really is a little awkward sometimes.... but sort of nice at the same time :)

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