Venting
avrobin03
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Along with my nutrition I have been trying to pump up my exercising, (completely out of shape) when does it get easier? Seriously, I walked/jogged for a mile and a half with a group of “fit” people and I get really discouraged… I know what everyone’s response to this is going to be, “keep going”, “you will get there”, and I know all of these things. BUT I just feel like giving up seriously, so my question is… Is there anyone out there that can relate to me right now? I know what you all thinking pity party over here.. But really don't really have people that would even remotely understand to talk to so it's just easier to type out my frustration.. Thanks for reading..
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Well, (said in the most kind and respectful way possible...) suck it up, buttercup! Most all of us have been there and experienced these feelings. When I started with the work out program I am currently on, I did 20 squats, 10 push ups, 30 jump rope, 20 sit ups and 20 back extensions and I was throwing up before I could even finish the rest of the "WARM UP"... but I went back and I went back and I went back. I've been at this for 2 years and while I haven't gotten where I want to be, I am so much better, so much stronger, and so much more driven than I used to be. so yeah... "hang in there" and "keep it up". It takes time and the only thing that will hold you back is you. Get out of your head and don't think about how hard it is, or how tired you are. Think about that next step, and then the next one, and then the next one... Don't give up, be tough, be strong!
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What has helped me is to stop comparing myself to others. Try focusing on setting small reachable goals for yourself. Next time, try to go 2 miles. Or 1.75 miles. Or even 1.55 miles. Just a little more than you did last time. Keep a log. After a month or so, look back at where you started. It's a great motivator!
And remember your "fit" friends had to start somewhere too. They didn't get fit overnight and neither will you. Compete only with yourself. Try to do a little more than you did last time.
Like TheApocalypse said.....yeah, "hang in there" and "keep it up." It's the only way you'll get where you want to be.0 -
About anyone who didn't workout for a long time and then started can relate. You just need to suck it up and keep going.0
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Well, (said in the most kind and respectful way possible...) suck it up, buttercup!
^^ This. This isn't what people like to hear, but this is what actually gets it done. Ask anyone who's in shape how they got there. They pulled up their big kid pants and went to work. Good luck!0 -
Keep going.
You will get there.
Seriously. We've all felt like giving up.
But that's what separates the one's that make it and the one's that don't..
It does get easier.0 -
I've always felt that way about running, no matter how fit I am. So I do something else for exercise.0
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I think everybody has been there, and will continue to be. It's hard work. If you're doing it right, it always will be. Once it starts paying off though, the momentum and motivation build up. You can draw off of that to get you through those days when you just want to quit. You've got this.
When all else fails, watch a Rocky movie.
"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!" - Rocky Balboa0 -
i feell ike that
i wont give up cuz i want t o get to onderland0 -
it never truly gets easier. you get more accustomed to the "workout feeling" though. the first few days are THE worst. but it does get better. when I started lifting, I couldn't get out of bed the first couple days. it was terrible. now it kinda sorta hurts, but not nearly as bad.0
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Find an exercise you like. Try a bunch. I'd shoot myself if I had to run, but I love Zumba, and full body conditioning classes, and Pilates. Try them all. You'll find something that speaks to you.0
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I'm right there with you. I did the first day of C25K yesterday and thought I was absolutely going to die. I can't imagine the day I jog 30 minutes solid. Seems impossible, but I'm not giving up yet - I just started! Trust me, I HATE IT, but we can do this girl!!!0
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It never gets easier, you only get better and then when you get better, you need to find new challenges.0
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The thing about running is that we can all do it, but we really can't. I mean, anybody can run for a minute. It's getting past that minute that takes a whole lot of conditioning and work. All runners felt like dying before we *really* learned how to run. I was convinced that it was physically impossible for me.
What you need to do is slow WAAAAY down. Run by yourself or with people at your same fitness level and build up your endurance over a period of weeks. If you have an iphone or an android, download a Couch to 5k app and work through it. Most of them are about 9 weeks long and require 30 minutes three times a week. Let me know if you want more suggestions to get started.0 -
I had 2 back surgeries and was completely stagnate the last 5 years...
I started doing a bodyweight circuit to try to get back into some sort of shape, along with walking.
Yes, it sucks...it sucks ALOT..but you know what....after a couple of months now......I'm now doing many pushups, pullups, bw squats, etc.. and when I walk, 1 mile doesn't do it for my anymore, I have to walk 2-3 miles now.
You will adapt. Focus on small goals, don't go overboard, that is the recipe for stalling or "talking yourself" out of it.
I wish you great success!0 -
I think everybody has been there, and will continue to be. It's hard work. If you're doing it right, it always will be. Once it starts paying off though, the momentum and motivation build up. You can draw off of that to get you through those days when you just want to quit. You've got this.
When all else fails, watch a Rocky movie.
"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that!" - Rocky Balboa
Thanks for THIS. Perfect timing for me. :flowerforyou:0 -
Along with my nutrition I have been trying to pump up my exercising, (completely out of shape) when does it get easier? Seriously, I walked/jogged for a mile and a half with a group of “fit” people and I get really discouraged… I know what everyone’s response to this is going to be, “keep going”, “you will get there”, and I know all of these things. BUT I just feel like giving up seriously, so my question is… Is there anyone out there that can relate to me right now? I know what you all thinking pity party over here.. But really don't really have people that would even remotely understand to talk to so it's just easier to type out my frustration.. Thanks for reading..
If you're feeling blue and frustrated, watch this true video about a guy named Arthur.. and bookmark it for the next time you feel down:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qX9FSZJu448 0 -
Sounds like me when I started! Honestly, don't run/jog with people who are far more advanced than you. I had to make myself run alone (with my music or on a treadmill watching Netflix on the ipad) before I would run with anyone else. My finacee used to run track, but now I can beat his mile time when before, I wasn't even able to jog a quarter mile! Dedicate yourself to a specific training program with people who are at or near your current fitness level so you can improve together, or do it alone with people to support you.
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Do you NOTICE it getting easier at all? By that I mean...could you ALWAYS walk/run a mile or a mile and a half? I can only DREAM of that right now. Today (so far...gonna try to get more in) I did 8.5 miles on a stationary bike...not all at once, but in 5 segments. 2 months ago I would have told anyone they were crazy if they said I'd be able to do more than 3 in a day.
I have accepted the following FACTS:
1. I'm not going to wake up tomorrow and be an athlete. I cannot focus on the END RESULTS I want...I have to focus on the RIGHT HERE/RIGHT NOW changes and improvements I notice. Today I did a 3 mile stretch on that stationary bike...all at once without stopping and without nearly dying and keeping at a 7-8mph pace. That might not impress some...but it makes ME feel pretty damn good considering I could only manage 3/10 of a mile at a time when I started out. Over the last two months I've only lost 8lbs. BUT when I got in my truck after my son had used it...I FIT. I didn't have to adjust the steering wheel or anything. LITTLE things like that I have come to embrace!!
2. I want to lose a LOT of weight...but I have made that a secondary goal. My PRIMARY goal is to FEEL GOOD. I want to be able to play with my grandchildren and nephews. I want HEALTH and the weight issue will resolve itself (Hopefully).
3. I'm ME...I'm different. There is NO magic formula...no "one size fits all"....EVERYONE has to find their OWN way in this journey...that's not to say you cannot try things that work for others or share thoughts/ideas...but it's NOT a team effort when it comes right down to it....all the support in the world won't make a damn bit of difference if the INDIVIDUAL doesn't want it.0 -
When I feel like giving up, and it's hard and I want "x" result *now* I just have to remind myself that it took a long time to get fat and out of shape and it's gonna take just as long to lose the fat and get in shape. I know that can be discouraging to some people, but to me I see it as a more realistic and attainable time-table.0
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I felt like that last August when I started just walking for exercise. It was hard. But it got easier. And then I lost more weight, and it got even easier. And now I'm tackling more things, and it's awesome.
Don't give up!0 -
The first time I attended a Zumba class (last August) I thought I would die 10 minutes into the class. I stuck it out, huffing and puffing, because of peer pressure only. But I went back the next week and the next, and kept doing treadmill (with increasing incline) and doing water jogging. I exercised 5-6 days per week for about an hour each time. Now I've lost about 70 pounds and I ENJOY the Zumba class! You really do have to just keep pushing yourself.0
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Along with my nutrition I have been trying to pump up my exercising, (completely out of shape) when does it get easier? Seriously, I walked/jogged for a mile and a half with a group of “fit” people and I get really discouraged… I know what everyone’s response to this is going to be, “keep going”, “you will get there”, and I know all of these things. BUT I just feel like giving up seriously, so my question is… Is there anyone out there that can relate to me right now? I know what you all thinking pity party over here.. But really don't really have people that would even remotely understand to talk to so it's just easier to type out my frustration.. Thanks for reading..
If you're feeling blue and frustrated, watch this true video about a guy named Arthur.. and bookmark it for the next time you feel down:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qX9FSZJu448
Can't help it, that video made me cry.0 -
Honestly I found it better to run alone. If I run with someone else I compare myself to them and try to keep up even when I shouldn't be. I did the C25K and ran a little more each week and for me that was perfect. There were days when I didn't want to do it but I forced myself to get out there and do it and felt so much better afterwards. If running isn't your thing find out what is. Find a video, take a class, dance, walk. Find what works for you and what motivates you. It will never be easy but one day you will realize that you like it and you will set small attainable goals for yourself and then keep push yourself to do more.0
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Honestly the thing that has helped me soooooo much is the couch to 5k running app! I have never been an active person nor have I ever enjoyed sports or any type of physical activity. In high school I was notorious for skipping gym class. However, I wanted to get into shape and so I started with how I ate - incorporating smaller portion sizes and healthier snacks. Then I decided that I should be doing some sort of exercise so after hearing great reviews on this c25k app I decided to give it a try. Without even realizing it I fell in love with running - it gave me such a satisfaction to finish a workout that I never thought possible. You just have to stick with it and for me this app took all the guess work out of it. I felt accomplished after every run.
Running with a group may discourage you because you are running at the groups pace. You need time to figure out what your comfortable jogging pace is - and if you are a beginner it will most likely be a lot slower then you think you should be going. Work on your endurance and then speed will come.
Just keep with whatever physical activity works for you though - if you are enjoying it and having fun then it is no longer a workout 0 -
I'm right there with you. I did the first day of C25K yesterday and thought I was absolutely going to die. I can't imagine the day I jog 30 minutes solid. Seems impossible, but I'm not giving up yet - I just started! Trust me, I HATE IT, but we can do this girl!!!
I was the same way. I thought I was crazy for even attempting it but now I can easily run 3-4 miles at a time and am so grateful that I stuck with it.0 -
Thanks so much everyone for all of your responses, and I totally understand when you say, find something that you like to do, however, I know I'm not going to EVER like jogging, but I WANT to be able to do it.. I don't want to do it or find something else because it's something that I CANNOT do.. (Sorry about all the ",'s" ) I will fosho try out the C25K app.. If anyone else has some good tips please share, I'm always looking for more motivating MFP friends.. And I definatly couldn't keep up with the group even if I wanted to (which I don't want to fool anyone, I did want to). It's a work thing so it's not people that I would normally associate with, but again I want to be able to do it thats kinda what I'm gettin at.. **sigh** Thanks for all the good advice love you all!0
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I've thought about packing it all in a few times. Like when my joints decide to flake out on me. Or when I've eaten complete crap for three weeks and I feel tired, heavy and in pain.
But then I realise I'm wearing clothes four sizes smaller, and they're baggy. My bracelet and necklace that were so tight, I had to get somebody else to help me get them on, are hanging loose on me.
I've had guys hitting on me (in a nice way) when I'm out. I can keep up with an aqua zumba class where others are barely able to catch their breath or complete a single move.
And I can shift some serious metal poundage.
I couldn't do and didn't have any of those things when I started.
Which is why I'm not giving up.0 -
I think being in a group can sometimes be discouraging especially if you tend to be more of a loner. I might focus more on exercises I can do alone and monitor my progress.0
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I've always felt that way about running, no matter how fit I am. So I do something else for exercise.
Yep - this is thr truth for me. 2 things I HATE and cannot seem to improve on: Push-ups, and running. So I do other things (i.e. weights and kettlebells) because I like them, so I don't get discouraged - just challenged.0 -
If it's easy then you are not doing it right. It does not get easy. However you recover quicker and start to look forward to it. Just keep going.0
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