10 things I've learned so far

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  • hmg90
    hmg90 Posts: 314 Member
    I agree with them all, but not sure about 10. The fact is, losing weight requires a great deal of sacrifices and social ones as well. My job involves a lot of socializing and after work parties, with appetizers and wine/champagne. If I would let myself "live a little", I simply wouldn't lose any weight. I have to turn down most of it. It sucks that you can't join girls for a cocktail, or have a slice of cake at the office party or a glass of wine with a new business connection. In fact, the social aspect of weight loss is one of the hardest, especially in terms of alcohol.
  • losnolt
    losnolt Posts: 3 Member
    Wow! You hit it all on the head so well!

    Thanks!
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    I agree with them all, but not sure about 10. The fact is, losing weight requires a great deal of sacrifices and social ones as well. My job involves a lot of socializing and after work parties, with appetizers and wine/champagne. If I would let myself "live a little", I simply wouldn't lose any weight. I have to turn down most of it. It sucks that you can't join girls for a cocktail, or have a slice of cake at the office party or a glass of wine with a new business connection. In fact, the social aspect of weight loss is one of the hardest, especially in terms of alcohol.

    I don't necessarily agree with that. I personally believe that you can, and should participate in just as many social activities as you have in the past. The point is to make it about being social, not about the food. There are plenty of healthy people who drink cocktails and have appetizers, there's no reason why you or I can't be one of them!

    Getting to that point takes time though. I think you are absolutely brilliant for realizing your triggers. But eventually you have to laugh in the face of temptation and enjoy your social circle!
  • adaowerri
    adaowerri Posts: 34
    immmm soooo guilty of all of these ! this summer im planning on lifting my butt off !
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    immmm soooo guilty of all of these ! this summer im planning on lifting my butt off !

    Why are you waiting til this summer? If you already go to the gym you can start now!
  • niellari
    niellari Posts: 3
    2 nights ago, i rolled my eyes while my husband ate a burger with fries and a coke. I also count my calorie intake in front of him.

    I guess maybe because im new at this thats why im like this.. my supportive husband isnt complaining . . . Yet.

    But reading this post made me realize i have to change this habit.

    I dont want to lose my husband while losing weight..

    I wil from now on turn to MFP for my daily dose of rants!
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    I meant point 6 lol ... my bad

    Lol not a problem.. Point 6 is definitely just a personal opinion of mine.. I have seen better results doing high weight, low rep; however there are definitely people that could benefit from the opposite..

    Again, thanks for pointing that out! I just hope we can get more people lifting in general:smile:
  • crazy4fids
    crazy4fids Posts: 173
    This would be great to print off and carry it around for great motivation when needed. Thanks for the great post!
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    agree on all counts.... I think this post should be stickied.
  • MsGoblin
    MsGoblin Posts: 25 Member
    You look too young to be this wise. :smile: Good post!
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    Just want to say thank you to everyone that has posted! You are all so inspiring and positive and people like you are the reason I log into MFP every day!!!!
  • Velum_cado
    Velum_cado Posts: 1,608 Member
    This is a good post and you should feel good.
  • PlayerHatinDogooder
    PlayerHatinDogooder Posts: 1,018 Member
    10/10

    Great post OP!

    :flowerforyou:
  • mem50
    mem50 Posts: 1,384 Member
    Everything you said is so true. This should be a standard reading for all. HOW did you get so smart so fast? It took me years!!!
  • jeslaughter
    jeslaughter Posts: 131 Member
    Thanks OP...It is awesome that you took the time to write all that for me...and others as well. :flowerforyou:
  • KellyBurton1
    KellyBurton1 Posts: 529 Member
    # 10 hits with me. I done that and Im paying the price for it! I wouldnt go anywhere and lost alot of friends and now Im a lonely girl :brokenheart:
  • Fruit4dessert
    Fruit4dessert Posts: 150 Member
    Thanks for this post! I especially needed to hear #8 -- I have lots of people who are supportive but eat their ice cream and stuff. I need to let them go about their lives and appreciate their support. :)
  • ikudbne12
    ikudbne12 Posts: 63 Member
    bump
  • Izzwoz
    Izzwoz Posts: 348 Member
    Very nicely sums it up!! :-)
  • mobilelady22
    mobilelady22 Posts: 3 Member
    I love this post because I do have to weigh myself every morning because I am doing my health buddy through the va program and I get so bummed out if I go up a pound or two. Although I have a friend who has told me countless times that the body does hold more water sometime and a variety of things can happen overningt. I try very hard to eat well and excercise but I must say I have been afraid to up my weights that I pick up, thanks to you that has changed. Again thanks this came right on time for me now I can stop beating myself up and enjoy dinner out sometime and not worry so much about the scale in the morning:drinker: :drinker:
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    I love this post because I do have to weigh myself every morning because I am doing my health buddy through the va program and I get so bummed out if I go up a pound or two. Although I have a friend who has told me countless times that the body does hold more water sometime and a variety of things can happen overningt. I try very hard to eat well and excercise but I must say I have been afraid to up my weights that I pick up, thanks to you that has changed. Again thanks this came right on time for me now I can stop beating myself up and enjoy dinner out sometime and not worry so much about the scale in the morning:drinker: :drinker:

    That's what I like to hear!
  • MandaJean83
    MandaJean83 Posts: 675 Member
    I love this!!! I had to learn these lessons myself, and I learned them the hard way! I am finally becoming brave enough to give up my daily weigh ins. I haven't weighed myself in over a week, and it feels awesome to not be tortured by that number. Instead, I will keep working hard at the gym and making better choices, and keep an eye on my body to notice how it's changing (for better, OR for worse). Because THAT'S the ultimate goal...not some number on the scale! :)

    Thanks for posting! :flowerforyou:
  • themedalist
    themedalist Posts: 3,218 Member
    This is truly one of the best posts I've ever read on MFP. As others have said, should be required reading for all newbies. I'm bookmarking it in EverNote in my "Best of MFP" note.

    The 1200 calories a day is a real headshaker. You nailed it! It's not like Amazon...there's no guaranteed delivery of your 2 pounds weekly fat loss by Saturday because you told MFP that's what you wanted. Work with your body and not against it and over time you'll get the results you want.

    Kudos to you!
  • verasdaughter
    verasdaughter Posts: 71 Member
    Awesome post!
  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    :drinker:
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    Shamelessly bumping my own post. From the looks of some of the topics posted today, it needs to be reviewed again :smile:
  • bryn10
    bryn10 Posts: 44
    2. You don't have to cut anything completely out of your diet. Unless you have a food allergy or a medical reason not to eat anything, have chocolate! Have french fries! Have a glass of wine! The best way to lose weight is to make sustainable changes, not make yourself miserable.


    LOVE this! Completely agree :)
  • TBird135
    TBird135 Posts: 43 Member
    Thank you for this awesome post!
  • srk369
    srk369 Posts: 256 Member
    Great post!
  • Alda45
    Alda45 Posts: 1
    Love this post Completely agree
    Thank you