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    FRs without messages

    Posts: 1,937 Member
    edited January 25 in Chit-Chat
    I don't mean to be a troll, but don't you just find it really annoying when you get a friend request without a message, especially when the first sentence on your profile states very clearly that a message or note is required when sending a friend request?

    How many of you here get FRs without messages when you've made it clear that one should be included? As much as I hate doing it, I ignore FRs with no messages. I don't care how hot the person in the avatar is!

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    • Posts: 126
      Honestly, I don't put that much thought into it. I usually just click "accept" and that's that.
    • Posts: 34,463 Member
      :ohwell: Good luck controlling the Human Race. :flowerforyou:
    • Posts: 588 Member
      I ussually check out the person's profile, give them about a week to interact with me and if they at least acknowledge my existence lol they get to stay :) But I also don't have it written in my profile... so that would show right there they didn't read about who you were before clicking that add friend button... but you never know, maybe they saw you in a forum and knew they wanted to request from that? :)
    • Posts: 531 Member
      First world problems
    • Posts: 1,937 Member
      I suppose I'm making too much of a big deal out of it! Maybe I need to take a chill pill!
    • Posts: 293 Member
      What's the big deal just add them if they don't offer no support, delete em'? simple, the more motivation the better :)
    • Posts: 279 Member
      Most of the FR that I send are based upon peoples comments in the forums (encouraging, advice given, their success with losing weight, etc). I will SOMETIMES look at their profile to see if their similar in age, etc, but more often than not, I dont check the profile first.
    • Posts: 301 Member
      I don't accept any friend requests, however if I did I would rather them send a message with the request too.
    • Posts: 446 Member
      Honestly, I don't put that much thought into it. I usually just click "accept" and that's that.

      I don't always write a note if we've been posting on the same thread...and I certainly don't require someone to include a note to me.

      On a side note though - doesn't it feel a bit like asking someone on a date when you do write one? "Hi, um, I thought what you said in the post was really interesting and I totally checked out your profile and I think you're cool, wanna be friends? Check Yes or No" LMAO
    • Posts: 41,865 Member
      I just hit the decline button if there's no message, no profile pic, and no information filled out. It's no sweat off my back.
    • Posts: 126
      I don't accept any friend requests, however if I did I would rather them send a message with the request too.

      Conformist.
    • Posts: 29 Member
      dont mind not getting a note. New here so I'll accept about anyone.
    • Posts: 10,413 Member
      Nope. I never understood the need to require messages. They are usually stupid anyways.
    • Posts: 2,295 Member
      I won't accept without a message.
    • Posts: 1,264 Member
      How bout messages with out friend requests.

      I had one this morning
      "Hi, how r u? Do u run? Just wanted to say ur really good looking."
      Haha. Looked at his profile and all his friends are young females. I just deleted it haha.
    • Posts: 844 Member
      I'm with you. I don't accept FR without a message, as stated in my profile. It's not that I don't wish the best for everyone, but I use MFP as a tool toward success and maintenance, and this includes knowing each person on my list, not getting overwhelmed with status updates or bogged down with folks who may not be ready to commit and support. (Yes, yes, it IS all about me. :happy: ) It's a formula that's worked for me, and I appreciate every single person on my friends list.
    • Posts: 976 Member
      I always include a nude with mine...no other messages....nothing else is really needed. :smokin: :smokin:
    • Posts: 166
      Just sent you a FR....

      ....without a message
    • Posts: 492 Member
      Where do you get all the time to worry about such things?
    • Posts: 2,170 Member
      I only accept requests now if people tell me why they requested me. I then send a message (usually) to those I declined explaining I would like to know why they would like to be friends. Honestly most people reply to the question of why they added without a message "lol oh I don't know you must have said something I thought was cool, or I liked your profile." To me that only shows they didn't put much thought into adding me and for me its about quality not quantity. I am a really cleaning out my list of one month inactive members plus and those that haven't commented on anything I have posted in weeks OR who haven't posted anything in weeks. :) but that's me.
    • Posts: 454
      I don't require a message but I do prefer one just so I know a little about this person (most messages are saying how we have similar goals or views)

      what I do require is for the person to have info on their profile. if i'm going to share my goals and motivations, I expect the same
    • Posts: 6,664 Member
      I don't accept any friend requests

      Speaking of famous last words...
    • Posts: 2,835 Member
      I already have more friends than I can easily support, so I certainly do not add friends who don't add a note with a really good reason as to why they want to be friends. And even then I am starting to have to be really selective.

      It's irritating, but at the same time if someone's too dumb to follow a simple request on the first line of my profile, or too lazy to even read it, I don't need them clogging up my feed. Pretty simple way of weeding out people who I would only eventually end up deleting anyways.
    • Posts: 446 Member
      I always include a nude with mine...no other messages....nothing else is really needed. :smokin: :smokin:

      Now THAT'S the spirit! :drinker: LOL
    • Posts: 4,676 Member
      Honestly, I require a massage...or a junk pic or just a FR...but hey, I am a bit fickle
    • Posts: 14,025 Member
      I will typically decline without a message unless I've noticed them around the forums, we have mutual friends, or something in their profile strikes a chord.
    • Posts: 3,763 Member
      It depends. If I get a FR, I click on their profile to see if we have anything in common. I have found that if they don't send a note with a FR, they most likely won't post anything over diary entries, exercises and weight lost. It's kind of a bummer seeing as I'm more a social person with a wry sense of humor.
    • Posts: 118
      this little journey is very personal to me, and i actually took time to write out my profile (which of course, does say that i don't accept requests without messages.) if someone sends me a request without a message, it proves to me that they didn't care enough to actually read my profile, so why would they care in supporting me on my journey?
    • Posts: 293 Member
      You should create a template, like an application to be your friend (Sarcasm).
    • Posts: 247 Member
      I appreciate a message and am more inclined to accept an FR if there's one with it, but I'm not terribly annoyed if there isn't one. I'm just more likely to decline the request. I really do make an effort to support everyone that I friend, so I don't want to over-extend the friends list.
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