What do you think of fat people after losing weight?

My fatness wasn't because I'm lazy...I work harder and stay more active than most thin people I know. However, binge eating disorder did me no favors at all. Once I went to counseling and was able to get a hold of my emotions, the weight started coming off.

So, yes, I do think a lot of people are just lazy. However, many of the obese are dealing with emotional difficulties as well that make a life change more difficult. I do my best not to judge...I just wish they were willing to listen to how easy weight loss can be. Honestly, if I could do my college career over again, I would have majored in psychology/nutrition to help obese people lose weight and deal with the emotional aspects of it.

I somewhat agree with you - I, personally, am over weight because I ate too much and exercised too little - plain and simple! At least I'm trying to make a change I guess!

I think everyone fights their own battles on their own timeline and for their own reasons.

Exactly!

Honestly, I think "How could they let themselves exist like that without changing anything??" then I remember that we all started somewhere and for most people it isn't one single decision or day that you just change and start being healthy. It is a process. And who knows? They could have already lost 20, 30, 100 lbs... you never know about people you just met.

Mine defiantly wasn't being lazy ,I worked 40+ hrs a week unloading trucks. Mine was bad food choices and I believe part of it is hereditary. I am built just like my grandmother, mother, sister , Although some of us have lost weight we still have the big *kitten*/ big thighs and wide hips.

For me I had to be ready mentally to solidly commit to the change. I hope they find the same mental readiness.

The reasons they give are the obstacles they are feeling at that time. But, the conversation will possibly stick with them and they will begin to think about it. As they try a little bit at a time, they may begin to feel more ready. Hearing your story and your progress will be motivation and proof that with work it is possible. Sometimes people don't want to put the work in if they think it will be ineffective. They need to learn that while it does not happen right away, the consistency pays off. They also just need to know that they can do the work and still enjoy life. They just need to make some shifts in their priorities, time, and their mindset about how to enjoy life. This is not a 5 second shift. It takes a thought process and the first response is resistance and all the excuses that have held them back. Provide the helpful information. Let them take the time to think about it and decide for themselves. Everyone has challenges. That part is real. Just, not everyone knows that there is always always a way to work with the challenges that they have. Whether the challenges are physical, mental or both.

This is my first post because I think about this a lot. I have a lot of compassion for obese people. I know that for the most part it is because of bad habits, but I think most of them are miserable about their situation. I don't have a huge amount of weight to lose but I never look at my reflection in glass doors or in store mirrors because the sight of myself makes me sick. They must feel even more unhappy because they are so far from their goal (I'm talking about people who are not attempting to lose weight or increase fitness).

Another thing that makes me feel compassion for them is our culture's insistence on meeting a standard of attractiveness that does not allow for body shape differences. If you did not win the genetic lottery you will never be on the top of the beauty scale here.

I lived for a time in another country and I was amazed at how many people classified people of all shapes and sizes as attractive. Not ragging on the good ol' USA, love it, but I did notice a difference.

Inspiration is what I call "fat" or "big" or "thick" people after they lost the weight makes me think and gives me strength that I can do that too! I'm way fat before but when I started doing some home workouts (that I found funny before doing it) I feel great about myself losing weight everyday, it's kinda hard to adjust to your diet since I eat way much before but I think I need more control on my appetite with that aside, for those who have some thyroid problems (most reason I hear) even though they say their diet is good, they can't have a good diet if they just sit down all day.

I try to be a role model for those who are still obese. I am a Nurse Practitioner and when my patients asked how I did it, they are very disappointed when I don't tell them about some magic pill that I took. I just talk to them about making small changes in diet and exercise and don't sugar coat it. I let them know that it is hard work but I am an example that it can be done. I also tell them that excuses are just that and I know what the excuses are because I have heard them out of my own mouth. The biggest thing is just continue to try to be a positive influence on them without being pushy or judgemental. If they are good friends, invite them along to join you in the exercise, pass on healthy eating tips and be supportive of their efforts.

I've lost over 60lbs I am still obese. I would never take your bike because I lift weights and run. Sooooooooooooooooooooooooo. Oh yeah, I don't judge people. When they have had enough they will do what they need to do to get healthy.

I think everyone fights their own battles on their own timeline and for their own reasons.

Other than this, I mind my own.

Yeah, now that I 'finally get it', it is very tempting to want to share my new found wisdom with all those I see that are where I was 8 months ago. I mean, if I can do it, why can't they? But I have to be very careful to remember that they are not in the same place I am now, and they will come to change when they are ready.

I personally didn't gain my weight by just being lazy. I had a disabling injury and slowly gained weight over 15 yrs. Sometimes when I hear of someone who eats 8000-10000 cals a day, I feel a bit angry for a minute. I mean, I gained weight on 2000 cals a day. How can someone just gorge themselves like that, day after day, and not care what it is doing to their body? Then I have to remember that we are all dealing with our own demons. No one's sins are worse than my own.

But it is a frequent struggle to not fall into judgment or jealousy. I mean, when that person who gained weight on 10k a day, then switched to 3k a day and lost 300 pounds in a year, I feel first, a bit of jealousy as they made it look so easy, and I have had to work so hard to get to this point. then a bit of resentment that they are showing the world that everyone is obese because they eat like that and are too lazy to do something about it.

But again, I have to take a step back and realize that I don't know their situation, or their struggles. I know it is clique, but all I can control is myself.

But yeah, we are all human and we would be lying if we said we never had any negative thoughts towards those who are considerably overweight and appear to not be willing to do anything about it. It is very easy to forget where we came from.

I think everyone fights their own battles on their own timeline and for their own reasons.

Yeah, I agree also. And people's challenges show in different ways. For some people that means a large weight gain, for other people it is something different. I don't judge another person's challenges because I can't judge what is not my own experience. And I know I've had my own challenges (many). My challenges just didn't show up as weight gain that was noticeable to anyone.

I have found it rather odd now I am small ( 111lbs ). Fat people look at me funny and almost with a nasty look. I was fat because I ate too much, ate high calorie and didn't move. I live in a country town and I started a small facebook group for weight loss support plus I had my name as "lose weight " on my facebook profile so everybody knows who I am now. Thing is I am rather over being asked how I did it, mainly because when you tell them I ate a calorie controlled diet and sweat buckets on my exercise bike they like you say " glaze over ". I also have found that If I order a foot long subway ( half for my husband ) the fat people stare at me as if to say " you wont eat all that " as they are getting footlongs for themselves. buying a chocolate treat gets a few looks as well. I hate to say it but overweight people can be quite " fattist " against slim people. Maybe anyone reading this who is still losing weight, please don't judge or give looks to slim people, I have been called a " skinny ***** " in jest but I don't find it funny at all, I mean I don't call people a " fat ***** " it is a whole new world being small I tell you.