Stop deleting your friends with an ED!

I have and will continue to delete those who are active in their disorder, eating vlcd and overtraining, those that need constant hand holding, those who expect a pat on the back for EVERYTHING they do, those who are preachy about certain certain diets, and frankly anyone I don't feel I have anything in common with. I wouldn't be friends with them in RL, so why would I be friends with them here?

I do. I don't feel guilty about it either.

I'm not a psychologist and I'm not qualified to deal with such things. I'm not a parent, counselor, teacher, or anyone else who's involved in their life. Being an 'online friend' leaves you with a very limited ability to help and often times, with my complete inability to bite my tongue, I more often than not, will do more harm than good.

I also can't deal with irrational and often overly dramatic status updates. I've had people with ED's on my list and I treat them the same way I've treated them with people in my real life that have gone through addiction. As soon as their willing to help themselves and make smart choices I'm with them 100% but until they make that decision their on their own.

OMG, Yes!
Agreed.
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I don't have any desire to delete them, for no reason in particular. They're the ones who usually add me.

I am bad because when I read ED, I was thinking but I dont delete people with erectile dysfunction...That would be mean...

PS: I realize eating disorders are serious and people with them need help def not deleted.

How YOU doin....

I delete those who promote unhealthy eating habits. 1 = My own health/well-being, 2 = Other people's health/well-being. To an extent, we are all ED but I'm triggered into unhealthy habits by certain people (never by large ppl). I still support those who struggle and encourage people who are doing well.

I need to get in tune with internet abbreviations more.. I really came to this thread thinking it meant

"Stop deleting your friends with an Erectile Dysfunction"...

lol I was talking to my friend and used "ED"... He thought the same thing. It took a bit of time for him to figure out what I was talking about. 0_0 I would have thought it obvious, but no... :laugh:

I delete all people equally. If you ignore my advice or don't talk to me about it. Bye bye.

i'm with you!! i have /had an ed and i still deal with it. if i'm under a lot of stress i tend not to eat. and it gets to where one feels out of control at least food is something one can control.
i may not look it now but i was way under wt . i deal with my ed every day like i said when i'm under a lot of strss ( like i am now!!! ) i have to remind myself to eat something no matter how small it is.

please add me to your list of friends ( emmietoby) love to talk to you as will as anyone else love to get a lot of friends!!!!

i do straightaway i had bulimia and anorexia as a young teen and don't need to see it on my profile im trying to eat healthy i still freak out when i go over 900 cals but i make myself eat 1200 having people on my page who freak out at going over 600 makes me start to panic about what im eating.

People who have an ED shouldn't be on a calorie counting site counting calories. Period.

Recovering people shouldn't be on a health site to try and stay healthy and try and stay recovered??? smh

It is often a trigger for disordered thinking and sends them into relapse. Most don't need to worry about calories, etc...most need to work on developing a healthy relationship with food. If you've been around here long enough, I'm sure you see how obsessive calorie counters can be...it is often not a healthy environment for someone recovering from an ED.

This.

I quit calorie counting due to bulimia (which I didn't have, incidentally, until I begun calorie counting). I don't count on here but I stay in touch with friends, and I discuss my training and activity, now that I am recovering I am training for a 100 mile bike ride - I had always been a cyclist, but I had no energy to train during the period when the ED really took hold, so I am extremely happy now to be able to pursue what I love.

My friends on here are sane, they do not do VLCDs or appear to have disordered eating (but this is an internet site, so I appreciate that a lot of what I'm seeing may not be the absolute truth). My personal opinion about calorie counting and low calorie dieting is that in most cases, it doesn't work long term, and for some individuals it can be harmful, and the gateway to eating disorders.

Good post, as usualy Minimal.

I have and will keep deleting anyone I want to delete. It's not your FL it's mine, you deal with that you want to, as will I.
Don't want to be mean, but I delete people who make excuses, recently out of the blue I had a friend request from a woman who was fine for a while, but she was very upset that I pointed out that 60% of her calories was from sweets and snacks. and posted half a page of "reasons" from "it was a lot less than she would have eaten before" to "it was a holiday outing and what was she meant to do when her family were all eating worse." I don't have the time to explain all the reasons, so I hit the ban hammer and she was gone.
If you don't like it, then Rule#5 applies.

totally agree i delete people for loads of stupid things i need people around me that keep me in the right direction not the ones aiming to be underweight or the ones who log when ever they feel like it i dont even accept half the add's i get due to no message which is says on my profile.

I don't mind "friends" with an ED. But I mind people who don't admit they have a problem. If you're honest and say you're struggling with an ED, that's cool with me. But if people freak out when they eat 600 calories in a day because it's "too much" and try to make it sound like that's totally fine and healthy, I can't deal with that. Neither can I with people that are below their healthy weight and still here to lose. Those people don't need support from strangers on the Internet, they need a professional to help them.

I've got an ED, I'm honest about it. I don't comment too often about whatever I'm thinking anyway, but I'd like to have 'friends' who are going through the 'get-healthy-stay-healthy' journey (whatever the individual characteristics are) who don't look at my frustrations like their A-bombs and I'm somehow different in a way that makes me on chronic probationary status.

The people I delete are the ones using my feed as an advertisement thread for their awesome new 'I-dont-even-have-a-B.Sc.' weight loss and fitness regime. Either get an infomercial or stfu.

What I really like is having MFP friends who are diverse and whose diaries I can creep to see how the different approaches to health that people take are working out, and what they're actually doing. If anything, it helps me keep down my sandwich cause I go "hey soandso2390542097540 eats more than me and is doing well" and a plethora of other similar ideas that pop into my head and interrupt the disordered voice of mia.

I don't want you to coddle me and I'm not looking for someone to be a BFF and stick with me through the really rough times yo! I have a therapist. I have friend's who I've made tactile contact with. I expect that from them. But I HOPE for people here that will have me and who I will have in return, to just share the fitness and health journey, regardless.

So fat people, thin people, in-between people, EDs, Drug addictions, princesses, whatever, ya'll can hang with me and I'll read ur posts and if you're open to it, I will totes be creeping your diaries to see how people REALLY eat. And Ill be thankful for what you've brought to my experience.