Wife's Birthday... I NEED HELP LADIES!!

BL_Mark
BL_Mark Posts: 183 Member
OK!! I'm stumped as to what to do for my wife for her birthday and need some help. She's turning 33 in two weeks, we've been married for 6 1/2 years, we have two kiddos, who's she's home with full time. She's been rocking the Curves Complete Program and has lost 32lbs since March. I used to take her out for dinner to her favorite places (Olive Garden or Red Lobster) or pick up an ice cream cake for her... but since she's on a strict protein diet and she feels majorly guilty when she goes off of it, what should I do?! Anything I can pick up or get her? I was thinking about some new... ahem... pretty stuff since she's two sizes smaller now, but that's just typical and cliche... any help or suggestions would be great! I'm TERRIBLE at birthday presents. I have a bad history of getting the WRONG thing... :o/
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  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    She's been working hard, buy her a massage!! Something totally for her enjoyment :)
  • JDBLY11
    JDBLY11 Posts: 577 Member
    I like flowers and maybe a night or two at a hotel without my son. Both of those would make a great birthday.
  • nndiaz
    nndiaz Posts: 18 Member
    My suggestion would be to get a babysitter for the evening and take her out. Theatre, movies, concert, whatever she would really enjoy but would never do for herself. A day off or a shopping trip with you on her arm would be nice too. My favorite gift from my husband was a blouse he gave me one year. It was horrendous but the thought of him taking the time to go out and think of me while he made this purchase was the best gift he ever gave me! Good luck!
  • Nonya81
    Nonya81 Posts: 145 Member
    I think you should get her a spa package where she can get pampered and when she gets home...
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
    expensive perfume.......
  • KeepCalmNGetyaSweatOn
    KeepCalmNGetyaSweatOn Posts: 361 Member
    I agree with the massage. Maybe a manicure, pedicure, and massage? Then after tell her to buy a pretty new outfit and take her out somewhere for a night on the down? Dancing, a movie, something you know she would like to do. Something she's talked about but hasn't done yet? That would be the best birthday I could think of =D
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    Treat her to a night in. Cook her a healthy meal with her ideal macros, run a hot bath with bubbles or scents if she's into that and find a sitter to get it to be just you and her. Also if she won't mind wine a glass of that or two and a personal massage with oils would be a great top off. Honestly not sure if she would like it but it is a thought.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    She's been working hard, buy her a massage!! Something totally for her enjoyment :)

    My husband booked me a treatment at the spa - He had an appointment time set for me and pre-paid a service, including tip. I just had to show up, have a little wine and choose which thing I wanted to do. Some ladies like massages, some like mani-pedis, some like to get their hair done. It was unexpected and fun for me. I'd never been to a spa before. :drinker:
  • Alison12121
    Alison12121 Posts: 198 Member
    She's been working hard, buy her a massage!! Something totally for her enjoyment :)

    I agree! A day at the spa with a nice long massage would be great!
  • gmallan
    gmallan Posts: 2,099 Member
    I love the idea of a massage or spa treatment. Something fitness related sounds like it could also be a good choice. HRM, workout clothes, new shoes etc.

    In terms of the cake, either bake her a healthy but yummy protein cake or buy one slice of a really good quality splurge cake that you could split instead of buying a whole cake. Half the calories, she still gets to indulge but there won't be any left overs to tempt here the next day.

    Maybe ask her where she wants to go to dinner. That way she can decide whether she wants to splurge or aim for something a little healthier but still yummy. Either way she'll be able to plan her day accordingly so she doesn't get too far off track
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    i like these ideas but i always want workout equipment. not sure if that would be cool with her or not.
  • maisid
    maisid Posts: 69 Member
    I would say a day at the spa sounds great, but she might not want to go alone, so either you would have to go with her, or you could get her best friend to go with.
  • Honestly, every woman is different. I'd personally not like any of the suggestions you've gotten. Maybe you could give more information about her that isn't food related to help. What does she do for fun? How family oriented is she? Is she the sort who would like a spa or salon trip or time away from the kids? Has she mentioned anything that she may like?
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    First off, you married her, so I'm surprised you don't know what would make her smile.

    That said, you should help her realize that moderation is the key to success so she can actually enjoy her favorite things occasionally.

    Finally, a massage or something would probably be a good idea.
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
    IF you have kids, get rid of them for a day, a night, as long as you can. Seriously. Or build a sound proof room for the kids or the two of you to enjoy. wink, wink.

    Pay for a massage but still take her out. Remind her she can still enjoy her favorite places, especially if she's working hard.
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    You, as her husband should know what she would like...

    But yes, a spa treatment would be nice.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
    She'll probably appreciate a new vacuum, or maybe a dishwasher. If that's too much of a big ticket item on short notice, a new mop and floor waxing set will probably go over well.
  • trud72
    trud72 Posts: 1,912 Member
    She'll probably appreciate a new vacuum, or maybe a dishwasher. If that's too much of a big ticket item on short notice, a new mop and floor waxing set will probably go over well.

    UMMM no she won't you don't know what women want do you!

    like all the the GIRLS have said, and try a hrm,weights,and real girly stuff like nail polishs,hair done ect for the more romantic side! cook her a healthyish dinner with flowers ect! :bigsmile:
  • Kymmu
    Kymmu Posts: 1,650 Member
    Ask her to dress up - and pack an overnight bag.
    Take her to a quality restaurant, tickets to a show and book a hotel room.
    That's what my hubby did for me last year and we had the best time!!
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    You should know what she'd like, but then again, men are clueless in this department hence your call out of help.

    Heart rate monitor
    Gift voucher for a work out clothing store
    Massage
    Manicure/pedicure/fake nails
    Hair done
    Night out at the movies
  • spidey11186
    spidey11186 Posts: 141 Member
    She'll probably appreciate a new vacuum, or maybe a dishwasher. If that's too much of a big ticket item on short notice, a new mop and floor waxing set will probably go over well.

    LMAO

    You've got cojones!

    cojones3rs7.jpg
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    Im big into tattoos - maybe get her a tattoo?
    If she likes working out, try to figure out what she is needing...maybe get her a treadmill or elliptical, etc...
    And if you REALLY love her...get her a new vehicle.
  • prozac5489
    prozac5489 Posts: 33
    Hey! Don't knock the dishwasher idea! Honestly, if my fellow surprised me with a new Vitamix blender, I'd be over the freaking moon. I'll take that over a massage any day of the week!

    That being said, my dad always sent my mom and her best friend to a day spa for her birthday, then the friend watched us kids for a weekend while Dad took Mom someplace special the following weekend. Her favorite was the year he rented a cabin on a lake, and they basically spent the whole time water skiing, drinking beer, eating pizza, and making out like teenagers.
  • Buddhasmiracle
    Buddhasmiracle Posts: 925 Member
    She'll probably appreciate a new vacuum, or maybe a dishwasher. If that's too much of a big ticket item on short notice, a new mop and floor waxing set will probably go over well.

    :love:
  • kxxooo
    kxxooo Posts: 434 Member
    NOTHING to do with cleaning, or kitchen!

    Shoes
    Shoes
    Shoes
    Voucher for shoes

    voucher for amazing lingerie!,....
    win win (unless you are not adoring!.... need the whole story, not just "hey baby I bought lingerie!")
    phfft!....ummmm no

    Handbag


    lots of v v good champagne
    and if you have been a truly crap husband

    ALL of the above and a HUGE diamond!.... oh and Missoni towels! Oh yeah!!!!!
    and thankyou!
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    She'll probably appreciate a new vacuum, or maybe a dishwasher. If that's too much of a big ticket item on short notice, a new mop and floor waxing set will probably go over well.

    UMMM no she won't you don't know what women want do you!

    like all the the GIRLS have said, and try a hrm,weights,and real girly stuff like nail polishs,hair done ect for the more romantic side! cook her a healthyish dinner with flowers ect! :bigsmile:
    I'm a woman and I would LOVE a dishwasher for my birthday, or any other day of the week. I also don't currently have one and do dishes by hand. Don't knock it.

    Spa day. Romantic dinner out and a night in a hotel if there's kids at home.
  • BL_Mark
    BL_Mark Posts: 183 Member
    95% of your ideas are great... those 5% you know who you are.

    I like the spa ideas. She's mentioned getting her hair done, getting a manicure so I think I'm going to go that route. I'd LOVE for us to have a night off from the kids. My folks always offer to watch the kids but it's on THEIR schedule and they won't watch them over night.... long story.

    Thanks for all your suggestions. YES, I do know what she likes, I'm just a terrible gift giver! ESPECIALLY when it comes to Birthdays
  • Maribel_1986
    Maribel_1986 Posts: 457 Member
    She'll probably appreciate a new vacuum, or maybe a dishwasher. If that's too much of a big ticket item on short notice, a new mop and floor waxing set will probably go over well.

    WOW! You sound like you would be an amazing BF/husband/SO...
  • happywithme12
    happywithme12 Posts: 477 Member
    OK!! I'm stumped as to what to do for my wife for her birthday and need some help. She's turning 33 in two weeks, we've been married for 6 1/2 years, we have two kiddos, who's she's home with full time. She's been rocking the Curves Complete Program and has lost 32lbs since March. I used to take her out for dinner to her favorite places (Olive Garden or Red Lobster) or pick up an ice cream cake for her... but since she's on a strict protein diet and she feels majorly guilty when she goes off of it, what should I do?! Anything I can pick up or get her? I was thinking about some new... ahem... pretty stuff since she's two sizes smaller now, but that's just typical and cliche... any help or suggestions would be great! I'm TERRIBLE at birthday presents. I have a bad history of getting the WRONG thing... :o/


    I have been married to my husband for 15 years and I can say the best thing to do is to do something nice that would make her feel great like give her a whole day of not only no kids but relaxation that i am sure she doesn't get, i have 3 kids and work full time so i know how hard it is. Treat her to a day at a spa, even if it is just for a nice massage and then maybe take her to one of her favorite clothing stores and let her buy a few things that make her feel as good as she should after accomplishing that. Then maybe after that take her to a nice dinner and I think you will be number one on her list of people and she will totally love it. What women doesn't love a day of pampering and feeling special!
  • rosemaryhon
    rosemaryhon Posts: 507 Member
    OK!! I'm stumped as to what to do for my wife for her birthday and need some help. She's turning 33 in two weeks, we've been married for 6 1/2 years, we have two kiddos, who's she's home with full time. She's been rocking the Curves Complete Program and has lost 32lbs since March. I used to take her out for dinner to her favorite places (Olive Garden or Red Lobster) or pick up an ice cream cake for her... but since she's on a strict protein diet and she feels majorly guilty when she goes off of it, what should I do?! Anything I can pick up or get her? I was thinking about some new... ahem... pretty stuff since she's two sizes smaller now, but that's just typical and cliche... any help or suggestions would be great! I'm TERRIBLE at birthday presents. I have a bad history of getting the WRONG thing... :o/


    We recently went to a restaurant to celebrate our anniversary and I very much enjoyed a surf & turf (lobster/filet mignon) and a couple cosmo's. I'd suggest asking her or picking out a eatery that has things she can fit in to her diet plan. In the past we usually celebrated at a delicious Italian place nearby, but I didn't want to totally blow my calories and realized my favorite meal would have taken me WAY over the top. There's no reason she can't eat in a restaurant, especially if it's got plenty she can fit in to her food plan.

    Oh and arrange for a babysitter sounds like a great idea!

    Just to add I'm not big on spa days, that's not a guaranteed 'hit' in my opinion.

    Very sweet of you to want to make it special, have fun!