Skinny Boyfriend vs. Chunky Girlfriends

I'm in somewhat of the same boat. My boyfriend weighs 20 lbs less than me and is an absolute stick because he's so tall. I feel like a marshmallow next to him. And he's told me the same thing, that he loves me the way I am and doesn't think I need to loose weight. Sweet, but so not helpful!!! I'll add you as a friend since I could use some motivation too!!

This winter, I FINALLY got to the point where I weighed less than my husband. He's 6'4" and struggles to get above 180...I'm 5'9" and struggling to get below 170.

There's certainly power in numbers!!! Here's to weighing less than our significant others! : )

UGH! i hear u lol
my boyfriend is a bit over 6 feet, 160 lbs. 6 pack. slim. and can eat pizza all day and still look like that! well he CAN but he actually loves cooking with me and stuff.

my problem: his portions and the frequency of his meals could feed a whole family. and he expects me to eat like him!!!!!!!! and when i dont eat like him he gets all like "ummm ok ur getting too obsessed with this health crap now .. its pissing me off.... " and im like seriously tho.. we JUST ATE LOL!

when i make him food i try to fatten him up HAHAHA. like ill do extra cheese on his eggs and things like that.
ummmm ya it doesnt make a difference AT ALL! he gets seconds, and thirds and im like "what the......"

oh and he can drink all the alcohol he wants .. still FLAT belly!:explode:

I'm SO with you!! My boyfriend is gorgeous, 6 ft., 150 lbs, former Marine and firefighter. Everytime we go out to dinner, I can almost hear the old nursery rhyme "Jack Spratt could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean"... He eats EVERYTHING... I eat veggies... He eats his Little Debbie snacks, Chef Boyardee, pizza, pie, cake, fried _____ (insert whatever you want)... I eat... veggies. :huh:

I can relate too! My husband is skinny and can eat all the delicious bad stuff and not gain a pound. I gained all my weight since I met him over 7 years ago because we LOVE TO EAT, it's our way to celebrate anything in life, hehe.

He always told me the same thing: that he'd love me no matter what and that I always looked beautiful. BUT when I got to my highest weight (20lbs over, which can be a lot for me since I'm only 5'1.5) I was soooo unhappy with myself that my self esteem problems where starting to affect our relationship. I complained about every pic we took together because I looked so chubby next to him and every time we would go out, he had to put up with me complaining about the way I looked and how all my clothes where tight.

Since then, he changed his attitude towards this and started pushing me to lose weight. Not because he thought I looked bad but because I was becoming the devil (haha). He came up with an exercise plan for me and gave up fast food so I wouldn't have the temptation. Also, now every time I tell him anything about my weight loss he says "good, keep it up" instead of the "I'll love you at any size" comments I used to get. When he first changed his attitude I felt a little uneasy because I was so used to hearing the lovey dovey things all the time. I guess his comments were subconsciously encouraging my over eating problem and not having that made me open my eyes. It "only" took 7 years for us to understand that the comments were sweet and all, but not very motivating.

Now, I'm 1lb from reaching the weight I was when I met him and 9lbs from a new goal. I finally feel like I can be at the weight I always wanted to be!!

Keep it up guys!!! and add me as a friend for motivation if you'd like!
But most importantly just let your men know about this and perhaps they can help you more than you think!

Weighing less than hubby is sort of any unoffical goal for me. My guess it won't happen until early next year. I'm 5 4 and he is 6 1

I wouldnt say my boyfriend is skinny by any means, and i actually weigh less than him.....by 20 pounds. The thing that gets me, and is one of the reasons i starting thinking it was time to get serious is when he told me he wieghed 240 and i was like what? At that time I weighed 230. He is 6'4 and i am only 5'6, almost a foot difference. I knew that it wouldnt be to long before i weighed more than him. It was pure motivation and i have started going in the right direction. And everytime i need some inspiration i may need him to jump on a scale :laugh: Good Luck Everyone!!!

OMG! Girl I am the same way! It's bad enough I am a little taller than my husband, and since we have been married for a year I have put on 30lbs, and look the same way in pictures. Since I'm really not ashamed of my weight, I'm 273 and my husband is 165, and I think most of that is in his head! LOL I just thank God that I'm tall. He is in the army so he can eat what ever he wants and doesn't gain a pound, but me is another story. What goes between my lips, ends up on my hips! LOL Since he just got deployed August 9, my plan is to at least be down to 230, but my goal is 180. I know I can do it because he was gone to training for 3 weeks, and in those three weeks I lost 10 lbs, but it came back because he love home cook meals. I have already laid the law down to him that if I loss the weight I want his support or I will stop all the home cook meals, (LOL) and I really mean it because I really loved how the old me us to look. Wish you the best in you weight loss goals!

P.S. My boyfriend sits on his butt all day and smokes cigarettes. His 5K calories are not being burned off by diet control OR exercise, I can guarantee you that. And please try not to be so harsh... Coming into a motivational thread and slamming everyone about how they are starving themselves just isn't the kind of support I am looking for.

Not trying to 'slam' anyone. My appologies if you took it that way.

Your boyfriend has a different genetic makeup than you do...obviously. Not that this is a bad thing, it's just something you have to cope with and LEARN how to deal with. My post was strictly for educational purposes. Education is the single greatest asset you will have in any battle...especially against one's weight. Learning about Insulin and Metabolism will grant you wisdom in your journey towards a HEALTHIER you.

Cheers!

This may not be too helpful of an insight, but personally I think this a wonderful dynamic.
His unwavering love and devotion to the real "you" , your inner and outer beauty is motivation enough.
Your personal quest for the body you desire will be gained in due time, but rest assure gauging yourself with other female body types is not fair to yourself. Your unique and special the way you are and thats why he's in love with you. Believe me your health and happiness is very important to him, so dont mistake his devotion as nonchalance. * Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder !!!! The MFP family is behind you 150 % !!!! Find your groove and work it !!!!

sorry, lady! you are all on your own with the boyfriend thingie. i got myself a humdinger of a hunky hubby, though.

where are you girl finding all these guys!!!!??!!! you lucky ducks!

I think a lot of guys won't a girl that isn't slim and good looking because it makes them feel safe. Make sure you reassure your man as you loose weight. Most guys are very concerned about being stronger and more fit than their ladies. It makes us feel better about ourselves. Make sure to stroke his ego by telling him how much you love his body.

Yeah, with flaming red hair and a personality to match... I am hardly his "safe girl". :smokin: