10 things I wish all new MFP members knew

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  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
    Apparently every lb lost is fat and every lb gained is water.. I didn't know this until I started reading MFP forums.
  • toutmonpossible
    toutmonpossible Posts: 1,580 Member
    I agree with the following:



    "3. Yes, it is okay to eat XYZ in moderation.

    4. Yes, you do need to workout if only a little.

    6. Not everyone wants your unsolicited advice and judgments, even if you're only trying to help. Respect boundaries. [But don't post if you can't take responses that disagree with your view.]

    7. It's okay to keep your diary closed- or open for everyone!

    9. Indulging sometimes is totally okay.

    10. We're all here with a common goal, so don't be a jerk.

    BONUS: Everyone's got a different body! We are all shaped differently, we work differently. Get to know your own and don't compare it with others. "
  • ksimmons19
    ksimmons19 Posts: 223 Member
    6. Not everyone wants your unsolicited advice and judgments, even if you're only trying to help. Respect boundaries.

    Pot, meet kettle. Kettle, meet pot.

    ^^^^^:smokin:
  • anewlife1980
    anewlife1980 Posts: 225 Member
    Great list!!
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    bahaha..i love it:drinker:
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    Please don't tell me what to do, eat, or how to live my life. :)
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    One thing I wish all MFP members knew is to not make self-righteous posts about newer people who are beginners and ignorant as if they themselves came here knowing everything.

    How is this self-righteous?
  • Warchortle
    Warchortle Posts: 2,197 Member
    Please don't tell me what to do, eat, or how to live my life. :)
    If I wanna make mai sketti with kachup... ima gunna dew it!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    One thing I wish all MFP members knew is to not make self-righteous posts about newer people who are beginners and ignorant as if they themselves came here knowing everything.

    How is this self-righteous?

    Because it imparts a "holier than thou" attitude towards beginners. Not only that, but it is only partial information. I understand that it can be frustrated seeing the same posts and mistakes everyday by new people, but they are starting from the beginning, just like most of us, and are overwhelmed with the sheer amount of misinformation there is out there. Starting a "Things I wish new members knew" post doesn't particularly help anyone as much as it is chest puffing. The OP, for example, just two months ago was wondering if a slice of pizza would sabotage her weight loss attempts. She has since learned better.
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
    Please don't tell me what to do, eat, or how to live my life. :)
    If I wanna make mai sketti with kachup... ima gunna dew it!

    hahaha yu make all the sketti yu want with kachup!!! wee nuh judge haha
  • melchmr
    melchmr Posts: 2 Member
    Thanks !
  • sassy616
    sassy616 Posts: 7 Member
    Yes!
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    One thing I wish all MFP members knew is to not make self-righteous posts about newer people who are beginners and ignorant as if they themselves came here knowing everything.

    How is this self-righteous?

    Because it imparts a "holier than thou" attitude towards beginners. Not only that, but it is only partial information. I understand that it can be frustrated seeing the same posts and mistakes everyday by new people, but they are starting from the beginning, just like most of us, and are overwhelmed with the sheer amount of misinformation there is out there. Starting a "Things I wish new members knew" post doesn't particularly help anyone as much as it is chest puffing. The OP, for example, just two months ago was wondering if a slice of pizza would sabotage her weight loss attempts. She has since learned better.

    Well from what I am reading I don't think she is being a know-it-all. However I do think that from this post she will receive numerous FR from people thinking that she can offer a solution to their problems. Please understand, that post such as these comes with responsibility. I would never post anything of this caliber because, the reality is I do not have the answer and the last thing I need is to have people asking me what to do. My answer to everything is often to drink vodka.
  • TArnold2012
    TArnold2012 Posts: 929 Member
    Well put
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    One thing I wish all MFP members knew is to not make self-righteous posts about newer people who are beginners and ignorant as if they themselves came here knowing everything.

    How is this self-righteous?

    Because it imparts a "holier than thou" attitude towards beginners. Not only that, but it is only partial information. I understand that it can be frustrated seeing the same posts and mistakes everyday by new people, but they are starting from the beginning, just like most of us, and are overwhelmed with the sheer amount of misinformation there is out there. Starting a "Things I wish new members knew" post doesn't particularly help anyone as much as it is chest puffing. The OP, for example, just two months ago was wondering if a slice of pizza would sabotage her weight loss attempts. She has since learned better.

    Well from what I am reading I don't think she is being a know-it-all. However I do think that from this post she will receive numerous FR from people thinking that she can offer a solution to their problems. Please understand, that post such as these comes with responsibility. I would never post anything of this caliber because, the reality is I do not have the answer and the last thing I need is to have people asking me what to do. My answer to everything is often to drink vodka.

    Therein lies another issue. Those people looking for answers may be getting only half-truths. :frown:
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    One thing I wish all MFP members knew is to not make self-righteous posts about newer people who are beginners and ignorant as if they themselves came here knowing everything.

    How is this self-righteous?

    Because it imparts a "holier than thou" attitude towards beginners. Not only that, but it is only partial information. I understand that it can be frustrated seeing the same posts and mistakes everyday by new people, but they are starting from the beginning, just like most of us, and are overwhelmed with the sheer amount of misinformation there is out there. Starting a "Things I wish new members knew" post doesn't particularly help anyone as much as it is chest puffing. The OP, for example, just two months ago was wondering if a slice of pizza would sabotage her weight loss attempts. She has since learned better.

    Well from what I am reading I don't think she is being a know-it-all. However I do think that from this post she will receive numerous FR from people thinking that she can offer a solution to their problems. Please understand, that post such as these comes with responsibility. I would never post anything of this caliber because, the reality is I do not have the answer and the last thing I need is to have people asking me what to do. My answer to everything is often to drink vodka.

    Therein lies another issue. Those people looking for answers may be getting only half-truths. :frown:

    You win this round... I just took off my left sock.
  • taylorckt1
    taylorckt1 Posts: 263 Member
    Love this post!
  • toutmonpossible
    toutmonpossible Posts: 1,580 Member

    Well from what I am reading I don't think she is being a know-it-all. However I do think that from this post she will receive numerous FR from people thinking that she can offer a solution to their problems. Please understand, that post such as these comes with responsibility. I would never post anything of this caliber because, the reality is I do not have the answer and the last thing I need is to have people asking me what to do. My answer to everything is often to drink vodka.

    I think everyone is occasionally tempted to post their "rules" for success. But then we remember that everyone is in a different position, we don't have all the facts, and almost none of us have any formal medical or nutritional training. If someone asks, I'll happily tell them what I do, but it's never meant as a universal answer.

    People eventually learn to observe what works for them and to use their own judgment or they don't.
  • twinketta
    twinketta Posts: 2,130 Member
    And there ends the `potential car crash`?
  • amoeba15
    amoeba15 Posts: 38 Member
    If you must weigh in daily remember, the scale does NOT only weigh fat, it also weighs bones, clothes, stomach contents, organs,water, and waste. You did not gain 5 pounds of fat overnigt, nor did you lose it.

    I weigh first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, after pooping, naked, and with a scale that accounts for body fat. Check. Mate.
  • angelcurry130
    angelcurry130 Posts: 265 Member
    great summary...very true!
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Bump and this should be stickied.
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    No, it should not. Sorry.
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
    One thing I wish all MFP members knew is to not make self-righteous posts about newer people who are beginners and ignorant as if they themselves came here knowing everything.

    I think you just broke rules #6 and 10 :laugh:

    No, the OP's post broke rule #6. And I'm not being a jerk, I am being blunt. There is a difference.

    You're right dude!:flowerforyou: I'm also pretty blunt. I don't like that the OP used the word "jerk" and assume that everyone is here for the same goals.
  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
    Apparently every lb lost is fat and every lb gained is water.. I didn't know this until I started reading MFP forums.

    Don't confuse the newbies!
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    Pretty good for the most part, but I disagree with eating back workout calories. There are days when I spend 6 to 8 hours doing yard work, gardening, general farm work, and I'd have to eat like a football team to eat all that back. I'm always under my calorie plus exercise "goal", and it works for me.
  • brower47
    brower47 Posts: 16,356 Member
    If you must weigh in daily remember, the scale does NOT only weigh fat, it also weighs bones, clothes, stomach contents, organs,water, and waste. You did not gain 5 pounds of fat overnigt, nor did you lose it.

    I weigh first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, after pooping, naked, and with a scale that accounts for body fat. Check. Mate.

    I weigh first thing in the morning, on an empty stomach, right after pooping, naked, standing on my head after spitting into the sink for 20 minutes with a scale that tells me I'm still fat. Check. Mate.
  • Tendlr
    Tendlr Posts: 17
    Bump.....great post
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    Well from what I am reading I don't think she is being a know-it-all. However I do think that from this post she will receive numerous FR from people thinking that she can offer a solution to their problems. Please understand, that post such as these comes with responsibility. I would never post anything of this caliber because, the reality is I do not have the answer and the last thing I need is to have people asking me what to do. My answer to everything is often to drink vodka.
    I thought the answer to everything is either sex, alcohol, or bacon... even better when they're all rolled up into one :love:
  • leebesstoad
    leebesstoad Posts: 1,186 Member
    One thing I certainly wish all new MFP members knew and remember is that we were all in their shoes at one time. We all were at the beginning of the journey at some point. Scared of where we were headed. Not knowing if we could do this. Fearing failure. We've all been there. So don't worry, newbies. You aren't alone. And for the most part, it can be a pretty supportive bunch.

    And I also wish they would know that it is okay if you blow your food goal for one day. A set back of one day isn't the end of the world. It isn't a reason to give up, and throw in the towel. Failure isn't fatal. You learn. You grow. Because we are human and we all screw up from time to time. I do. We all do. It's how we learn and overcome the little bumps in the road that make us stronger and better as people.

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