Obsessed with my weight loss

holliebevineau
holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
in Motivation and Support
My friends seem to think that I'm obessed with loosing weight. We eat at a diner twice a week and I always order oatmeal or egg beaters and I ask the waitress lots of questions like how many oz of cheese and to use cooking spray because I need to log it accurately. And I try to log it while Im waiting for the food to arrive. I cant believe that that one of them acutally said," I'm worried about you And your becoming obsessed" while she was eating her pancakes, cheese eggs, hashbrowns and sausage. I want to be healthy and fit. maybe I should stop going for breakfast with them. Has anyone eles experienced this? how did you handel it.
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  • freddi11e
    freddi11e Posts: 317 Member
    hey lady... no shame in tryin to take care of yourself. Some people have different lifestyles and that's okay. I'm the same way when I go out to eat. I care about what i put in my body... and at diners you really never know what they use to cook.. You're not alone... i ask a ton of questions when i eat out too and I try to log it before i eat. Hopefully you're friends can embrace your healthy lifestyle soon... but in the meantime keep doin what you're doin.

    p.s. If I have to eat at a diner I get oatmeal and eggs too. And coffee hold the creamer.
  • Whipppets
    Whipppets Posts: 267
    That word obsessed I always hear it.. Co-workers, in laws, I tell them not obsessed, They laugh because I eat an apple
    for dessert while they eat cakes and pies.
    Funny how unhealthy people do not like people that want to be healthy.
    Wake up everyday thinking how can I be fitter today. That includes eating healthy.
  • st0dad
    st0dad Posts: 23
    My friends never showed concern; instead they'd try to tempt me with unhealthy food knowing I'm weak-willed.

    One time we were playing boardgames and one friend showed up with cookies and said "want one?" I replied "no thanks," and then another suddenly held out lindor truffles, "what about these?" "...No, no thanks." and then my other friend held out another bag of a different type of truffles, "and theeeeese?"

    I gave in and had the bag of milk chocolate. They laughed at me. I'm sure they were just messing around, but I felt so pathetic and awful. I decided I wasn't going to make a big deal of my diet, but I wasn't going to let them treat me like I'm a bad person for wanting to like how I look in my body and feeling good.

    A good way to look at it is the last sentence you posted, about them "worried" while devouring fattening pancakes. The three men who did that to me are all out of shape and fat. When I am at optimal health, and they offer me chocolates, I can eat one and not feel awful because they'll all be looking at me and saying "Wow, she looks great"

    Your friends aren't concerned as much as they are annoyed. They probably find your questions irritating. TOO BAD. When you look better than they do, they might decide they want to know how many calories they're consuming in a single sitting, too!
  • manique45
    manique45 Posts: 99 Member
    I am the same way unless its a special night/dinner out. I still try to pick the healthiest thing on the menu and usually MFP has the time of restaurant we are at in it. Anyways my husband says similar things... that it annoys him that I am obsessive with logging... But he more so says I'm silly... Don't let your friends get to you. They may just feel guilty about their mindless eating. Most people don't understand the commitment and dedication it takes to get 'that body' ! I'm logging over 6 months strong now and don't plan on letting other people dictate my life. Have fun with your friends and continue to be the GOOD example Setter. You are not doing anything wrong... I track cals to make sure I am fueling my body properly. Thats what you can tell them, better yet why not challenge them to track for a day to see how much they are really eating. MFP teaches portion control as well as cal counting! Your awesome keep going!!!

    *Its a lifestyle not a diet anyways....
  • Butterfly2022MD
    Butterfly2022MD Posts: 246 Member
    Do what is best for yourself, and surround yourself with others that support your efforts.
  • bellaa_x0
    bellaa_x0 Posts: 1,062 Member
    hell i do the same thing when i order out particularly at this health food spot that i love! i will ask them what type of protein they use, how many scoops, etc. it is not being obsessed.. you're looking out for your health and as you mentioned i want to be able to log as accurately as possible!
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    My friends never showed concern; instead they'd try to tempt me with unhealthy food knowing I'm weak-willed.

    One time we were playing boardgames and one friend showed up with cookies and said "want one?" I replied "no thanks," and then another suddenly held out lindor truffles, "what about these?" "...No, no thanks." and then my other friend held out another bag of a different type of truffles, "and theeeeese?"

    I gave in and had the bag of milk chocolate. They laughed at me. I'm sure they were just messing around, but I felt so pathetic and awful. I decided I wasn't going to make a big deal of my diet, but I wasn't going to let them treat me like I'm a bad person for wanting to like how I look in my body and feeling good.

    A good way to look at it is the last sentence you posted, about them "worried" while devouring fattening pancakes. The three men who did that to me are all out of shape and fat. When I am at optimal health, and they offer me chocolates, I can eat one and not feel awful because they'll all be looking at me and saying "Wow, she looks great"

    Your friends aren't concerned as much as they are annoyed. They probably find your questions irritating. TOO BAD. When you look better than they do, they might decide they want to know how many calories they're consuming in a single sitting, too!


    Thanks, great story!
  • holliebevineau
    holliebevineau Posts: 441 Member
    Thanks Everyone!!! I love MFP! Where I know I will get support and motivation!
  • wcugirl04
    wcugirl04 Posts: 26 Member
    I understand completely! I have lately gotten into the pattern of obsessing over exercise, (maybe I wouldn't call it obsessing, but it is very important to me). I also eat mostly healthy and log in every single day. However, if I do eat something that is not great for me, my first thoughts are,,well now I need to schedule an extra session. My friends are supportive in that they are always telling me how much better I look, but then when I tell them I am going to be late for card night because I have to finish up my workout, they give me a hard time. All the while Im thinking to my self, my body didn't start changing because I was slacking. If I was still slacking, I would still be obese. Bottom line is, you have to do what works for you. There are nights when I want to cuddle on the couch with my hubby, but if I still need to fit in my workout, that comes first. (then we can cuddle) I have always tried all of my life to please other people, but I know no matter what, I need this for myself. No shame in it!!! Good luck girl!!:smile:
  • 5ftnFun
    5ftnFun Posts: 948 Member
    Tell your friends you are dedicated, not obsessed. See if that makes a difference in how they treat you. If not, keep on doing your thing anyway. I like how you continue to go out and hang out with your friends instead of being one of those "Oh no, I can't eat out" kind of people.
  • popsicklestar
    popsicklestar Posts: 166 Member
    There's nothing wrong with ordering a healthy option when you go out, but having worked in the service industry, I don't think it's appropriate to interrogate your server about minutiae. A question or two is okay, but you have to understand that the server probably doesn't know. They're often really busy, and they don't have time to go interrogate the cook who may or may not speak English and probably doesn't have time for it either. It's annoying for everyone, and it's really not necessary to lose weight. I've found that going by the ingredients and guesstimating has been just as effective for me. As far as your diet and weight loss goals, it doesn't make you obsessed, but you should be more sensitive to the people around you. Your friends may be embarrassed that you are being a difficult patron.
  • babydiego87
    babydiego87 Posts: 905 Member
    There's nothing wrong with ordering a healthy option when you go out, but having worked in the service industry, I don't think it's appropriate to interrogate your server about minutiae. A question or two is okay, but you have to understand that the server probably doesn't know. They're often really busy, and they don't have time to go interrogate the cook who may or may not speak English and probably doesn't have time for it either. It's annoying for everyone, and it's really not necessary to lose weight. I've found that going by the ingredients and guesstimating has been just as effective for me. As far as your diet and weight loss goals, it doesn't make you obsessed, but you should be more sensitive to the people around you. Your friends may be embarrassed that you are being a difficult patron.
    I agree.
  • mkevans
    mkevans Posts: 9 Member
    I hear that all time...I always consider the person or people saying it and its usually unhealthy people!!!
  • Beautyandthebeef
    Beautyandthebeef Posts: 80
    I know where you're coming from has happened to me too. And I have bartended and served much in the past so I also feel like I am being a pain, and am gonna agree with posickle. What I have started to do is make sure I know where I am going, look up the menu online and see the healthy options and things I can substitute to make it healthier (like sub broccoli for mac and cheese for example). If I know where I am going does not have a menu with nutrition facts available online I decide what I am going to have before I even go. I have had the "obsessed" comments from people and usually it is from people who have never really been aware of what they were eating. Don't let it discourage you! Losing weight is important to you and keep doing what you got to!!
  • randee95
    randee95 Posts: 13 Member
    I think some people are not ready to eat healthy so they use their own insecurity in their poor eating habits and take it out on you. Just keep doing what you're doing! I wouldn't stop going out with them though, because friends are one of life's greatest joys :)
  • SuzyLy
    SuzyLy Posts: 133 Member
    I would continue with the questions, but refrain from logging while out with them. You probably know what you're going to order anyway & it shouldn't be too hard to remember until you have some logging time alone.
  • nak1a
    nak1a Posts: 69 Member
    my sister is on this journey with me and she called me obsessed yesterday. i go a little harder than her when it comes to diet. i am very strict and read everything and i'm always on mfp (like i am now) but its just part of my personality. when i do something, i like to do my best and be the best so as far as I am concerned its a healthy obsession. :)
  • gaterbear
    gaterbear Posts: 68
    I agree. Not only can it create a difficult situation for the staff to me it would be rude to have a friend posting and interrigating folks when in a social (and public) setting. Chose healthy items and try not to let your food choice control your life to the point it interfers with your relationship with others. You are more than what you eat and record. Just the humble opinion of an old (70) man who has fought the weight issue all my life. Former WW lecturer, teacher who is saddened to see so many people on MFP letting their weight control issues mess with their personality, health, and total well-being. You are much more than that number on the scale or tape measure. :smile:
  • babydiego87
    babydiego87 Posts: 905 Member
    I agree. Not only can it create a difficult situation for the staff to me it would be rude to have a friend posting and interrigating folks when in a social (and public) setting. Chose healthy items and try not to let your food choice control your life to the point it interfers with your relationship with others. You are more than what you eat and record. Just the humble opinion of an old (70) man who has fought the weight issue all my life. Former WW lecturer, teacher who is saddened to see so many people on MFP letting their weight control issues mess with their personality, health, and total well-being. You are much more than that number on the scale or tape measure. :smile:
    :flowerforyou:
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
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  • MyPureSteez
    MyPureSteez Posts: 265 Member
    "Obsessed is just a word the lazy use to describe dedicated." ~ Unknown
  • MindyG150
    MindyG150 Posts: 1,296 Member
    I would say I was like that at first, but I was also trying to learn portion control and how much was a portion and so on. So till I got that down I did the same thing.
  • ilmb87
    ilmb87 Posts: 216 Member
    I got called that by my mom just this morning! I'm sure most of the people I know feel that way too, even though I do have my splurge days.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    If you didn't eat there twice a week, I'd say you were obsessed. But since you eat there pretty often, you would of course want to be fairly accurate.
  • MyPureSteez
    MyPureSteez Posts: 265 Member
    ^^^^ Beat me to it
  • CouleeRunner
    CouleeRunner Posts: 256 Member
    This:
    There's nothing wrong with ordering a healthy option when you go out, but having worked in the service industry, I don't think it's appropriate to interrogate your server about minutiae. A question or two is okay, but you have to understand that the server probably doesn't know. They're often really busy, and they don't have time to go interrogate the cook who may or may not speak English and probably doesn't have time for it either. It's annoying for everyone, and it's really not necessary to lose weight. I've found that going by the ingredients and guesstimating has been just as effective for me. As far as your diet and weight loss goals, it doesn't make you obsessed, but you should be more sensitive to the people around you. Your friends may be embarrassed that you are being a difficult patron.

    ..and this are words of wisdom:
    I agree. Not only can it create a difficult situation for the staff to me it would be rude to have a friend posting and interrigating folks when in a social (and public) setting. Chose healthy items and try not to let your food choice control your life to the point it interfers with your relationship with others. You are more than what you eat and record. Just the humble opinion of an old (70) man who has fought the weight issue all my life. Former WW lecturer, teacher who is saddened to see so many people on MFP letting their weight control issues mess with their personality, health, and total well-being. You are much more than that number on the scale or tape measure.
  • michellechawner
    michellechawner Posts: 892
    My boyfriend and I fight every other day over it. He keeps saying "it's ok to indulge every once in awhile!" But I see him 3 times a week and all he wants is junk food - i keep telling him once in a while yes but all 3 times when I see you you want to go out and eat horrible food and it bothers me that he doesn't support me. While waiting I usually log my food and he's all you're obsessed with adding in all your calories, just enjoy yourself.

    It's been extremely frustrating but lately he hasn't mentioned it because i finally told him to just take a long walk off a short pier and I wasn't going to let him bring me down because I'm doing what I need to my health and medical issues. He needs to hit rock bottom before his health gets to him, but that's his issue, not mine. His father died young and his family has all sorts of health issues, but at his age he thinks he's invincible.

    Just keep on keeping on and you'll be ok.
  • johnny059qn
    johnny059qn Posts: 163 Member
    That's not being obsessed. That's being in Control. You have control over your food. They clearly do not.

    Keep eating with them. It may eventually rub off on them.
  • Jusjerzy
    Jusjerzy Posts: 26 Member
    I get that all the time! If I'm eating out I tend to log while waiting for the food as well......my reply to my 16 year old daughter the last time she said "mom, your obsessed" was "I'm really not obsessed........I'm old and if I don't log it now, I won't remember what it was later".....nothing wrong with trying to be accurate with logging!!
  • Crochetluvr
    Crochetluvr Posts: 3,290 Member
    This:
    There's nothing wrong with ordering a healthy option when you go out, but having worked in the service industry, I don't think it's appropriate to interrogate your server about minutiae. A question or two is okay, but you have to understand that the server probably doesn't know. They're often really busy, and they don't have time to go interrogate the cook who may or may not speak English and probably doesn't have time for it either. It's annoying for everyone, and it's really not necessary to lose weight. I've found that going by the ingredients and guesstimating has been just as effective for me. As far as your diet and weight loss goals, it doesn't make you obsessed, but you should be more sensitive to the people around you. Your friends may be embarrassed that you are being a difficult patron.

    ..and this are words of wisdom:
    I agree. Not only can it create a difficult situation for the staff to me it would be rude to have a friend posting and interrigating folks when in a social (and public) setting. Chose healthy items and try not to let your food choice control your life to the point it interfers with your relationship with others. You are more than what you eat and record. Just the humble opinion of an old (70) man who has fought the weight issue all my life. Former WW lecturer, teacher who is saddened to see so many people on MFP letting their weight control issues mess with their personality, health, and total well-being. You are much more than that number on the scale or tape measure.

    My sentiments exactly!

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