getting over a relationship

Time...and keep busy...

I think the expression is time heals all wounds.....I like to say all wounds heal in time! Vent and stay busy and lean on your friends and listen to Sara Evans - A Little Bit Stronger

Set a personal goal and work toward it. Reward yourself lavishly when you reach it. If you still aren't completely over it, rinse and repeat.

I personally think you need to get laid, as long as you are not going to cry in the middle of it.

its hard tho. especially if it was a nasty one.

Go out and do all the things you enjoy! Make new friends. Laugh lots. Pamper yourself. Go shopping for gorgeous clothes and shoes!

Heck, my ex broke up with me, I ended up becoming a singer for an awesome band (something I always wanted to do, and he put me down about it) and making new friends meant I met my current boyfriend who I've been with for nearly half a year now.
Never thought those things would happen when he broke up with me, because let's face it, you only seem to focus on negatives, but I've had such a fabulous time without him.

I made my life about me again and I think that is the best you can do!

Heck, my ex broke up with me, I ended up becoming a singer for an awesome band (something I always wanted to do, and he put me down about it) and making new friends meant I met my current boyfriend who I've been with for nearly half a year now.

AWESOME. I love a good break up story.

Mine - I lost almost 20kg and met the love of my life who I've been with for the past 2 years. Also had the satisfaction of having my ex (who was a massive see-you-next-tuesday) begrudingly tell me that I was "looking really good" and ask me out again. Not ashamed to say that rejecting him was all too sweet!

Give yourself ONE day of ice cream, cookies, and whatever you need, a tear-jerk movie, and if possible - a really good friend/s to help you through the wallowing. but you only get the one day - so the make the best of it. Write a letter to him but DO NOT SEND. write everything you want to say to him and then shred it. cheesy, cliche-y , and yet it works.

then - force yourself to move on, keep busy, and do something you've always wanted to do (different hair style, go horseback riding, learn to macrame, whatever).

Delete them off facebook, delete their phone number, delete their photos from your phone.

I could not move on until I did this. Any time he contacted me, it brought me back to square one. Trust me, cut him out.

Also i find exercise is a great lift for your mood

This is the best advice! I did this and it gave me lots of perspective. 6 years later we are on speaking terms, but not friends (there are still some mutual friends so we still see each other every so often). There is no bitterness or anger, just a mutual acceptance that we have both moved on.

Also, keeping good friends around, and a fabulous holiday if you can and shopping. And remember - Time heals all wounds.

Maintain your self esteem. Don't have random sexual activity. Your health is number one. Don't have a binge day. Delete the person from all communication and memory devices. Now.... set a goal for your weight... your appearance.... and focus on that. Focus on YOU. Then, when you look like a million bucks, or even in the journey of getting there... get outside. Listen to the birds sing. Enjoy a starlit night. Exercise, Walk. Reorganize your living space to new positions.. Put chairs and tables in a different corner of the room... New actions... New YOU ............................and allow yourself to be happy.... When YOU are happy... you are more attractive.... and Love will be there ...... I guarantee it. ( I am old. < I know these things.).... Love yourself...:flowerforyou: