What's on your mind ?

rhia575
rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
in Motivation and Support
A place for you to vent and talk about the things that are getting you down whether it be weight loss problems, family troubles, relationships or work related issues. Anything. If you feel like you need to vent about it, do it.
If anyone needs someone to talk to feel free to message me personally and i'll be there for you.
As someone who has spent a lot of time feeling alone, dealing with personal issues I just want to make sure that I could at least help just one person feeling a similar way.
So anything that's on your mind, say it.
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  • Terree_G
    Terree_G Posts: 69 Member
    I do most everything in my life alone on a daily basis, and sometimes it gets to me. How about you? If I drop you a line and tell you mine, will you tell me yours?
  • lambchoplewis
    lambchoplewis Posts: 797
    I do most in my life alone and I am married!! I am a loner at heart and enjoy time alone but... sometimes I get lonely. I have been able to tell my hubby and then he is really attentive for a few weeks and then it goes back to normal. He loves me and our relationship is fine but.. sometimes it is lonely.

    So.. now to what is on my mind. I had a great day yesterday - good eating and exercise. Got errands run and woke up feeling GREAT!!! I have to keep this feeling to have another good day and keep going. I am maintaining and have gained back 5 lbs that need to come off. It will be gone soon!!!
  • SpleenThief
    SpleenThief Posts: 293 Member
    I'm thinking of leaving my wife.
  • lambchoplewis
    lambchoplewis Posts: 797
    I'm thinking of leaving my wife.

    Think hard about this as the grass is not always greener and dating in today's world is tricky. Just give it a lot of thought.
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    I do most everything in my life alone on a daily basis, and sometimes it gets to me. How about you? If I drop you a line and tell you mine, will you tell me yours?
    How come you do everything on you're own ?
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    I do most in my life alone and I am married!! I am a loner at heart and enjoy time alone but... sometimes I get lonely. I have been able to tell my hubby and then he is really attentive for a few weeks and then it goes back to normal. He loves me and our relationship is fine but.. sometimes it is lonely.

    So.. now to what is on my mind. I had a great day yesterday - good eating and exercise. Got errands run and woke up feeling GREAT!!! I have to keep this feeling to have another good day and keep going. I am maintaining and have gained back 5 lbs that need to come off. It will be gone soon!!!

    You should try spend idk about 15 minutes or however long it takes of your day each day expressing to your husbands the trouble your having that day and really letting him know you need him. Make sure he realises it. It's your husbands duty to ensure you are never feeling lonely and try do the same for him.
    Good luck with your weight loss glad you had a good day(:
  • SurfyFriend
    SurfyFriend Posts: 362 Member
    Why do none of my girl friends reply to my messages or return my phonecalls?
    What am I lacking? Lost weight and I still have no friends. I go out with people once and they never invite me out again. They say they had fun but I never hear back.
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    Why do none of my girl friends reply to my messages or return my phonecalls?
    What am I lacking? Lost weight and I still have no friends. I go out with people once and they never invite me out again. They say they had fun but I never hear back.
    Girl seriously f them! you are worth so much more than them! seriously it doesn't matter if you need to lose weight or not, they aren't worth it. Don't try force a friendship with these kind of people they are really not worth it because at the end of the day they're just fake. I finished highschool and last year i was in a group of "bestfriends" there were 8 of us and i always felt insecure because when one of us wasn;t around others would talk about her so judgemental they would be mean not invite people to things. It seemed like everyone hated each other. I got rid of those people in my life and surrounded myself in true friends and i am very happy right now. I know it can be hard but just reach out try find some friends who really appreciate who you are because if they are going to ignore you like that they aren't worth any of your time, stay positive x
  • SurfyFriend
    SurfyFriend Posts: 362 Member
    Thanks :) I left a bad circle of friends too, but it has left me feeling insecure so I am really nervous putting myself out there, being afraid of rejection. haha but you just have to keep at it I guess. There are some really awesome people out there somewhere I am sure :P
  • melindasuefritz
    melindasuefritz Posts: 3,509 Member
    my husband wont stop swearing
  • melindasuefritz
    melindasuefritz Posts: 3,509 Member
    the murderer of my sisters husband wa s entenced today.. he got 75- 150 years............
    JUSTICE FOR CHUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • ced1389
    ced1389 Posts: 96 Member
    My boyfriends dad had quintuple, yes QUINTUPLE, bypass surgery in December 2012. He has done nothing since to change his lifestyle... He eats out at least 4-5 nights a week, still drinks, and doesn't take it easy. He is now having issues again and told the doctor last week when they said he'd need a catheterization to see what was going on that "if you have to open me up again, I won't do it, so don't waste your time." He's only 57....... It's so frustrating and it's putting a really big stress on our relationship. My bf feels like his dad is giving up on himself and his kids, as he should, but he won't just break down and say something to his pops. I always feel stuck in the middle and he's a closed book when I try to talk to him. It's an added stressed that I surely don't need. I have a very hard time not taking things my bf says/does personal when this is weighing on his mind. It's hard. Advice?
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    the murderer of my sisters husband wa s entenced today.. he got 75- 150 years............
    JUSTICE FOR CHUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


    That's great!! I'm glad to hear you are at least getting some justice for what he did, still will never make up for the loss but that is definitely a lot better than nothing! Sorry for your and your families loss x
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    My boyfriends dad had quintuple, yes QUINTUPLE, bypass surgery in December 2012. He has done nothing since to change his lifestyle... He eats out at least 4-5 nights a week, still drinks, and doesn't take it easy. He is now having issues again and told the doctor last week when they said he'd need a catheterization to see what was going on that "if you have to open me up again, I won't do it, so don't waste your time." He's only 57....... It's so frustrating and it's putting a really big stress on our relationship. My bf feels like his dad is giving up on himself and his kids, as he should, but he won't just break down and say something to his pops. I always feel stuck in the middle and he's a closed book when I try to talk to him. It's an added stressed that I surely don't need. I have a very hard time not taking things my bf says/does personal when this is weighing on his mind. It's hard. Advice?
    My step father was an alcoholic and nothing ever changed him sometimes there is nothing you can do for an addiction. But if I was you instead of trying to convince his dad, just keep working on your boyfriend trying to convince him to talk to his dad and tell him it is important for your relationship and its something he needs to do for you himself and his father. Just take it slowly and persistently try to convince him, good luck
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    Thanks :) I left a bad circle of friends too, but it has left me feeling insecure so I am really nervous putting myself out there, being afraid of rejection. haha but you just have to keep at it I guess. There are some really awesome people out there somewhere I am sure :P
    Indeed I was like that too and then you get to a point when you realise there is really no need at all and exactly there is no point wasting our times on the people that suck
  • michellemybelll
    michellemybelll Posts: 2,228 Member
    i wonder what life would be like if i wasn't such a sketchy fukc when it comes to hanging out with dudes i like.
  • gracekelli
    gracekelli Posts: 26 Member
    Tomorrow (well today now) my family and I are going to a beautiful resort for a nice two day break...I took PTO from work and the kids are off school...well this resort has an amazing water park with a lazy river and lots of fun water themed things to occupy anyone. But-this means a lot of time in a swimsuit in front of a lot of people. Now, I am working hard on my body and have changed the way I go about every day in terms of eating and exercise...but for the time being I'm still fat. and I hate it.
  • TheNoLeafClover
    TheNoLeafClover Posts: 335 Member
    I am tired of being patronized and berated.
  • cynthiadmail
    cynthiadmail Posts: 90 Member
    Were moving our oldest into his apartment near his school 3 hours away on Saturday and I am really stressing about letting go. I know I have to , I know he needs this to grow into his life as an adult. I did at one point to. Just hard letting go of your babies when its that time. I already did this once when he left for training for the marines, but he got hurt and was sent home before he finished. Now I have to do this again and I know how much I missed him then. Now is different. I can talk to him and even go see him when I want. I know theirs others that would give anything just to be able to talk to their kids so I know I got it way good. I am very thankful for that.. Well just letting ya know what was on my mind. Plus what alot of people are worried about paying the bills. So I understand that my worries are nothing compared to others,that's what keeps me going ( it could be worse) .
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    i wonder what life would be like if i wasn't such a sketchy fukc when it comes to hanging out with dudes i like.
    What do you mean by that ?
  • Sylvitryinghard
    Sylvitryinghard Posts: 549 Member
    I hate work right now and I want to leave
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    Tomorrow (well today now) my family and I are going to a beautiful resort for a nice two day break...I took PTO from work and the kids are off school...well this resort has an amazing water park with a lazy river and lots of fun water themed things to occupy anyone. But-this means a lot of time in a swimsuit in front of a lot of people. Now, I am working hard on my body and have changed the way I go about every day in terms of eating and exercise...but for the time being I'm still fat. and I hate it.
    That sounds really amazing!! Don't let your insecurities ruin your time their just enjoy it, why don't you get like a dress or some sort of cover up to wear when your not in the pool so you feel more comfortable ? Just don't worry about it I'm sure you'll look great
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    I hate work right now and I want to leave
    Ugh true dat I'm at work right now, so bored!
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    Were moving our oldest into his apartment near his school 3 hours away on Saturday and I am really stressing about letting go. I know I have to , I know he needs this to grow into his life as an adult. I did at one point to. Just hard letting go of your babies when its that time. I already did this once when he left for training for the marines, but he got hurt and was sent home before he finished. Now I have to do this again and I know how much I missed him then. Now is different. I can talk to him and even go see him when I want. I know theirs others that would give anything just to be able to talk to their kids so I know I got it way good. I am very thankful for that.. Well just letting ya know what was on my mind. Plus what alot of people are worried about paying the bills. So I understand that my worries are nothing compared to others,that's what keeps me going ( it could be worse) .
    Aw I'm sure it'll be fine probably get easier as time goes by. My mum is like the opposite to you, I'm 17 I think she is counting down the days till I leave home (clearly don't have a good relationship lol)
  • rhia575
    rhia575 Posts: 212 Member
    I am tired of being patronized and berated.
    Who patronises you and why?
  • Sylvitryinghard
    Sylvitryinghard Posts: 549 Member
    yeah Im jealous of ppl who love their job. I mean I cant complain but it just sucks to be away for 8 hours plus.....sitting in a office...would rather do things i love. but no money no honey huh. I like my job tho....but every single f****** day why do I have to get up and go to work j09r8034ztowajgpÜUTGJG BLAH
  • grimendale
    grimendale Posts: 2,153 Member
    The stress of working six day, 70 hour weeks on night shift is starting to get to me after almost 3 straight months. All I do is work and sleep (and not nearly enough of the latter). Doing Insanity is the only real break I have anymore. I'm tired of the schedule and I'm tired of being nearly 1000 miles from anyone I know. I really wish they would give me a timeline for being able to go home.
  • Cbefitforlife
    Cbefitforlife Posts: 83 Member
    I am the adult in all situations. I may be the youngest of 6, but for those who live in town still, i am the adult. My sister has bi-polar, i have a brother with scizophrena, my mother-in-law has the beginning sign of dimenta, and my parents are mentally stable...just aged, and can't keep up with my little kids.

    I feel i have nobody i can count on. I get jealous of friends who have young grandparents, or able ones that play with thier kids, take them for a weekend, and spend time with them. I get jealous of thier siblings relationships. My sister and i can't just go out and hang. She gets parinoid about "everything".

    My M.I.L is young. She is 59. That hurts the worse. Most 37 year olds are not taking care of ill parents yet. Normal if i were 50 and my kids are raised. I still have a 2yr .old.

    She has the look of a young grandma, but she is child like inside. I have to repeat myself over and over, and she can't think of simple words. She comes over 3 days a week. It is like taking care of a adult child. Unfortunatley...she has one son. My husband! So we are her help. All her siblings live out of town, and her mom passed away.

    Just very stressful, and it is crazy that i have that many people in my personal life that have mental issues. I often think...be thankful you are not the one with the mental illness. At least i have a large group of friends that are stable. I dont' see them often, for they are busy with their families, but i do catch up with them, and when i do...i let lose and have fun!!!!!!!! ;)
  • Phrick
    Phrick Posts: 2,765 Member
    Warning, major rant / emotional dump ahead:

    I'm about fed up to death with my husband and his lack of ability or willingness to do anything about his health. He's 39, 5'6" tall, and around 315lbs. He is a compulsive, mindless over eater who doesn't give a f--k that he's going to leave his children fatherless before they're even out of high school if he keeps going like this. Does not care that I'll be husbandless either. Food is his priority not family. Food and Television. He watches from 9am to 11pm, dead serious if it's between those hours the TV is on either in his office (he works from home) or out in the main room when he works out here. He wears headphones that are tuned in to the TV too so he effectively cuts himself off from the family dynamic almost completely. It's damn near impossible to get his attention, he's not involved in parenting except to yell and be irritated with the kdis. Oh work. Work is another issue, he works from 7am till 11pm with only short breaks for lunch, dinner, and to yell at people who are too loud (the dogs or our 9 year old mostly). He isolates himself and as a result isolates me. On weekends when he does manage to take a break it's to.. go to the movies with a friend, so more screen time, more "Phrick and Kids Are Missing Him" time. And I know that a massive knock down, drag out brawl is what it's going to take to get his attention... and I know that it will last all of a month before he slips back into his old ways. Because that's been the pattern for the last 16 years (our anniversary is next Saturday. We both forgot till yesterday, that's how "into" each other we've become).
  • ced1389
    ced1389 Posts: 96 Member
    Warning, major rant / emotional dump ahead:

    I'm about fed up to death with my husband and his lack of ability or willingness to do anything about his health. He's 39, 5'6" tall, and around 315lbs. He is a compulsive, mindless over eater who doesn't give a f--k that he's going to leave his children fatherless before they're even out of high school if he keeps going like this. Does not care that I'll be husbandless either. Food is his priority not family. Food and Television. He watches from 9am to 11pm, dead serious if it's between those hours the TV is on either in his office (he works from home) or out in the main room when he works out here. He wears headphones that are tuned in to the TV too so he effectively cuts himself off from the family dynamic almost completely. It's damn near impossible to get his attention, he's not involved in parenting except to yell and be irritated with the kdis. Oh work. Work is another issue, he works from 7am till 11pm with only short breaks for lunch, dinner, and to yell at people who are too loud (the dogs or our 9 year old mostly). He isolates himself and as a result isolates me. On weekends when he does manage to take a break it's to.. go to the movies with a friend, so more screen time, more "Phrick and Kids Are Missing Him" time. And I know that a massive knock down, drag out brawl is what it's going to take to get his attention... and I know that it will last all of a month before he slips back into his old ways. Because that's been the pattern for the last 16 years (our anniversary is next Saturday. We both forgot till yesterday, that's how "into" each other we've become).

    I'm so sorry, that would be so rough! I don't know how I would be able to function properly or go about my own healthy living journey if my significant other completely lacked that motivation. You're kind of between a rock and a hard place because it sounds like you've already expressed how you feel and he just genuinely doesn't care.

    I know this may seem rather mean but my stepdad (I was practically raised by him... I consider him my father) has always been a bigger guy and constantly trying different diets. My mother used to harp on him that he didn't take it seriously and the biggest thing? Not wearing his seatbelt because he was uncomfortable, being so big. Well, I got sick of listening to her complain and it took every ounce in me to finally say something myself. When he explained why he doesn't wear his seatbelt, I said "I'd rather you be uncomfortable for 10 minutes than dead forever" and coming from a wide-eyed, dead-serious, 10-year-old girl... he took it very seriously. I'm not telling you to involve your children in any way, shape or form, but if they genuinely care about him and are concerned for his health, maybe they need to speak up. Somewhat of an... intervention?

    I'll be thinking of you, hoping for the best.

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