Any D.I.N.K.s out there?

Not married, but a DINK with two fur babies. A lot of our friends are having children now (early 30's).

What Wolf said...

My SO and I aren't DINK's in that I have a child from a previous relationship. But we are pretty close to DINK's given how often it's just the two of us and how mature she is.

We LOVE it....people are out there....you just have to find them...and be prepared to go out of your age group....

We are working on being DINKS...our boy is almost 11, and we're pretty young parents. We don't have any friends, due to the fact that our friends are still in university, or JUST starting making babies. My fiance and I don't want babies, so we're kind of stuck. We tried making friends with parents that have kids our son's age, turns out we really don't like them lol so we have our friends that have babies, our friends that don't have kids at all, and we're sort of the odd ones out. I'm ok with that. It just gets lonely sometimes

ohmygosh this is me and my fiance.

Even the single friends we have are so lazy and rarely want to do anything.

My dog IS my child and she is so adorable and fuzzy.

We also don't need to worry as much about where our money is going and can save, save, save.

What Wolf said...

My SO and I aren't DINK's in that I have a child from a previous relationship. But we are pretty close to DINK's given how often it's just the two of us and how mature she is.

We LOVE it....people are out there....you just have to find them...and be prepared to go out of your age group....

how mature she is? she has to be a teenager.

The whole thing about being a DINK for me, is that I rarely want to contact my friends with kids because I really don't even want to deal with them having to find a babysitter, or telling them that I don't feel comfortable with them bringing their kid out to the bar for the evening...I am also not a babysitter.

And, then when you hit mid-40's, everyone is single again, and the cycle starts all over.

Truth...and a good bit of them are grandparents!

Right here....my husband and I both do not want kids...so we will be DINKS for a long time! lol. Our cats are our kids.

What Wolf said...

My SO and I aren't DINK's in that I have a child from a previous relationship. But we are pretty close to DINK's given how often it's just the two of us and how mature she is.

We LOVE it....people are out there....you just have to find them...and be prepared to go out of your age group....

how mature she is? she has to be a teenager.

The whole thing about being a DINK for me, is that I rarely want to contact my friends with kids because I really don't even want to deal with them having to find a babysitter, or telling them that I don't feel comfortable with them bringing their kid out to the bar for the evening...I am also not a babysitter.

she's 11, but she's had to pony up and be the responsible one when she's with her father. (he's not the best)

as a result she's very self sufficient.

We have a calendar and she marks down where she's made plans and we have her various extra curricular activities spelled out on it...so it's very easy for someone to call us and see if we are free for dinner or drinks and we usually are as she's busy doing her own thing. We don't go out every night, about two nights a week and that's more than most bonafide DINK's we know, then we are out all weekend. For example we are hitting the jazz festival this weekend (yes with my daughter) and going out for dinner and probably meet a couple for a movie. (she's made arrangements for a sleepover and will be at the concert with us)

we've actually found that since we both have a very healthy work/life balance that we are often the ones with free time and our DINK friends who are busy (staying late at the office, involved in a work related thing, etc).

in fact we were discussing the summer with our DINK friends and most of them expressed jealousy at all the stuff we were going to do/time we had.

Not married, buts its just my boyfriend and I with our two dogs lol

The thread intriduged me so had to find out what a DINK was. So I guess I am one too lol. Single with one furry baby.

DINK is dual income, no kids - so it has to refer to a couple. One person can't be a DINK. For that matter, both members of the couple have to have jobs, I guess.

atleast 50% of my friends have kids and i do not ever feel looked over when going out or asked to do something.

maybe your friends kids are dolts but i have no problem hanging around with them or them around us, we have fun regardless

Mainly because I want this in my newsfeed -

BUT 2 of my best friends are DINKS (and one will TOTALLY read this soon!) we have kids, but we definitely do stuff with our friends that are DINKS (I just like calling them that!)

as a matter of fact we are going to Hawaii with them in 60+ Days!! - we're still fun - even with those small people sucking life out of us!!

I guess my point is ask your friends with kids to do stuff - they need to get out more than ya know!!

And, then when you hit mid-40's, everyone is single again, and the cycle starts all over.

Early 40s....isn't happening. Lots of people waited to have kids apparently. I am stunned at the number of coworkers I have, within 5 years of age, who have kids in elementary school (I think they're crazy, but to each, their own). Add in the re-married, having kids with the new spouse, well....bummer. Lol.

I am 42 and and have a 10 year old and 12 year old - so the younger one is still in elementary school - and again most of the trips etc I do, I do with my married friends that dont have kids - they may not be able to be as spontaneous as you would like, but I bet they let loose when they do go out (I know I do!)

Me and my SO were DINKS until last year. It's harder to have friends with kids. Before our daughter (I have a son, but he is with his dad often) we were the fun couple. Hanging out late, staying over houses til morning. Lots of parties, lots of fun times, since having our daughter our social life has gone down hill. Mine more so then his since I am home ninety percent of the time with our daughter, he works until 4 or 5pm and then stops at his friends after work until 7pm either way that's the extent of our lives. Friday we might go out (or a weekend night) if we have a sitter, but we definitely aren't as much fun since it's always "Well we have to leave at 9pm and we can't stay so we can't drink, but we're happy to play cards... as long as it doesn't take too long" lol