Reality Check

Meh, everyone is at a different level. 30 minutes on the elliptical 3 times per week may be a great improvement for someone who never got their butt off of the couch previously or someone who is incredibly out of shape or a single mom with no one to watch her infant and 30 minutes is all she can squeeze in a few days a week. Cut some slack, it isn't bootcamp and if people feel like they're in bootcamp they're probably going to be less likely to stick with it.

I squeeze burger king/taco bell/whatever into my calories occasionally (heck, I did it last night!) , it's not something to do every day but being home to prepare a healthy lunch or having a preprepared lunch with you isn't always feasible. Sometimes you don't know you're going to still be out running your errands when it's meal time. It would be nice to be able to always be on a specified time table but life happens. Again cut some slack.

If someone is trying to make changes and there is SOME progress then it is a step in the right direction. Doing a 180 on everything you've ever known nutritionally is more often times not going to work because it will be hard to maintain. Some people need baby steps. It's awesome that you can do it all overnight but it will be a long road for some people to retrain themselves.

Tough love is great, but realistic expectations for a positive outcome are greater. Of course, it's all my humble opinion but to be honest, what does an anonymous person on the internet's opinion really matter to you? About as much as yours mattered to me .

I get wha your saying my partner works till five and gets home at half 5 and a few days a week i also do this , by time were in and cooked the family meal showered kids and washed up its 7 oclock our local gym closes at 8.30 so 30-60 min is all i can fit in. my fitness trainer at gym insists that i only work out every other day as i have a back problem due to an injection in to my spine that went wrong. so i go mon,wed and fri. sat and sun it closes at 6pm so what am i meant to do ? i walk with the kids on the other days or do 20-30 mins of a workout dvd . but this isnt enough ???? walk in my shoes for a week. and them she may realise not everyones lives a staight cut. im here because i know i need to change and at the minute im doin all i can.

Meh, everyone is at a different level. 30 minutes on the elliptical 3 times per week may be a great improvement for someone who never got their butt off of the couch previously or someone who is incredibly out of shape or a single mom with no one to watch her infant and 30 minutes is all she can squeeze in a few days a week. Cut some slack, it isn't bootcamp and if people feel like they're in bootcamp they're probably going to be less likely to stick with it.

I squeeze burger king/taco bell/whatever into my calories occasionally (heck, I did it last night!) , it's not something to do every day but being home to prepare a healthy lunch or having a preprepared lunch with you isn't always feasible. Sometimes you don't know you're going to still be out running your errands when it's meal time. It would be nice to be able to always be on a specified time table but life happens. Again cut some slack.

If someone is trying to make changes and there is SOME progress then it is a step in the right direction. Doing a 180 on everything you've ever known nutritionally is more often times not going to work because it will be hard to maintain. Some people need baby steps. It's awesome that you can do it all overnight but it will be a long road for some people to retrain themselves.

Tough love is great, but realistic expectations for a positive outcome are greater. Of course, it's all my humble opinion but to be honest, what does an anonymous person on the internet's opinion really matter to you? About as much as yours mattered to me .

I get wha your saying my partner works till five and gets home at half 5 and a few days a week i also do this , by time were in and cooked the family meal showered kids and washed up its 7 oclock our local gym closes at 8.30 so 30-60 min is all i can fit in. my fitness trainer at gym insists that i only work out every other day as i have a back problem due to an injection in to my spine that went wrong. so i go mon,wed and fri. sat and sun it closes at 6pm so what am i meant to do ? i walk with the kids on the other days or do 20-30 mins of a workout dvd . but this isnt enough ???? walk in my shoes for a week. and them she may realise not everyones lives a staight cut. im here because i know i need to change and at the minute im doin all i can.

I agree with most of what you said. That being said, the majority of people would NOT be on this site if they had it all figured out. Like you said, people will fall of the horse many times. Maybe their complaints and poor nutritional choices are their falls. But you are definitely correct.

I'm a perfect example of a person who knows EXACTLY what to do to get the job done, but is failing. I keep making excuses and failing with my goals. I probably know more about nutrition than a nutritionist, but still sabotage myself almost every day. It's not as easy as writing words. I have come to realize I have a real problem. I definitely am addicted to food. I've been around drug addicts in my life (I'm not one) and I can tell you, I feel the same way about food as they do about their drugs. Obviously it's easy to say "JUST HAVE WILLPOWER" and I tell that to myself every single day, but I keep having set backs.

The thing that I focus on is that I am coming back EVERY SINGLE DAY. I'm not letting myself go. I may not be succeeding, but I know that I have a problem and I'm not giving up. I'm going to keep coming back every day until I figure it out. I'm going to constantly think about my exercise and caloric intake until something clicks. I think the important thing is to NEVER GIVE UP.

That being said I often get depressed and call myself a loser because I know I could do better. It's a viscous cycle that I struggle with every day.

I agree with most of what you said. That being said, the majority of people would NOT be on this site if they had it all figured out. Like you said, people will fall of the horse many times. Maybe their complaints and poor nutritional choices are their falls. But you are definitely correct.

I'm a perfect example of a person who knows EXACTLY what to do to get the job done, but is failing. I keep making excuses and failing with my goals. I probably know more about nutrition than a nutritionist, but still sabotage myself almost every day. It's not as easy as writing words. I have come to realize I have a real problem. I definitely am addicted to food. I've been around drug addicts in my life (I'm not one) and I can tell you, I feel the same way about food as they do about their drugs. Obviously it's easy to say "JUST HAVE WILLPOWER" and I tell that to myself every single day, but I keep having set backs.

The thing that I focus on is that I am coming back EVERY SINGLE DAY. I'm not letting myself go. I may not be succeeding, but I know that I have a problem and I'm not giving up. I'm going to keep coming back every day until I figure it out. I'm going to constantly think about my exercise and caloric intake until something clicks. I think the important thing is to NEVER GIVE UP.

That being said I often get depressed and call myself a loser because I know I could do better. It's a viscous cycle that I struggle with every day.

This.

I swear, this post could have come from me. Seriously. I feel like I am addicted to food and I'll work out like crazy and then screw it all up because I'll binge and justify it somehow because I worked out. My weight bounces around like crazy and I'm struggling to find a healthy relationship with food but it's just hard and I feel lost most of the time.