Can men & women truly be JUST FRIENDS

MeIShouldB
MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
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Honestly, I don't think so. I feel like they make think so, but at some point feelings will get involved that you didn't even know were there. One of ya'll starts dating someone, one of ya'll suddenly becomes single. That "just friends" thing can change very quickly. I was recently contacted by a guy I hung out with ONCE 4 years ago, before I was with my boyfriend. The guy didn't call me after that one hangout for like a year, and now here he comes again. He says I am a beautiful woman and he would like to have me as a friend at least on facebook if not in real life. He goes on to say that he actually was interested in me back in the day he just never called because he was going through alot and didn't want to add me to it. (All this time I assumed it was cuz I was fat). But now he is trying to get me to meet up with him and "hang out". Sound fishy to anyone else?
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  • lightdiva1
    lightdiva1 Posts: 935 Member
    It sounds fishy at first glance, but I don't know the guy so his motives could be innocent enough.

    People of the opposite sex can be friends. I have many male friends and we have never been anything else. It just depends on the person.
  • iarelarry
    iarelarry Posts: 201 Member
    Yes, but sometimes the 3rd leg is too powerful.
  • UnwrappingCandy
    UnwrappingCandy Posts: 418 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1020116-can-men-and-women-be-just-friends :flowerforyou:
  • Cese27
    Cese27 Posts: 626 Member
    Not if she's hot,if she's not probably not but could be a slight chance
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    I wish it was
  • Victoria2448
    Victoria2448 Posts: 559 Member
    I've always been "just friends" with guys. It is possible...you just need to have clear boundaries.
  • traumaticthrash
    traumaticthrash Posts: 103
    of course they can be friends. i have a couple of very close girl mates and we're more like brothers and sisters.
  • Sublimely_Self_Righteous
    Sublimely_Self_Righteous Posts: 429
    I think it's very possible.
  • Mario_Az
    Mario_Az Posts: 1,331 Member
    Yes, but sometimes the 3rd leg is too powerful.


    LOL For sure bro
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
    most of my friends have always been dudes in real life. just get along with them better for the most part haha
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    Yes.
  • servilia
    servilia Posts: 3,452 Member
    Nothing in your post makes me think this guy wants to be just friends.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1020116-can-men-and-women-be-just-friends :flowerforyou:

    obviously, she read that thread and wanted to start one where people didn't lie their butts off (hence "truly" in the thread title).
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I've been with my husband for 15 years. I have male friends, he has female friends. Of course it's possible.
  • fShaw86
    fShaw86 Posts: 878 Member
    If either of you are drop-dead gorgeous and get to know each other outside of school/work... then nope.
  • CountingCaloriesSuxass
    CountingCaloriesSuxass Posts: 387 Member
    Its very hard...but yes, I do have male friends that I have never slept with
  • Crossfit112
    Crossfit112 Posts: 269 Member
    Men : Can u c Megan Fox naked and do nothing ?

    Women : Can u c Henry Cavill naked and do nothing ?
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    As long as a guy doesn't act like a jerk, and does act like a friend, that's close enough to truly being just friends for me.
  • HealthWoke0ish
    HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member
    Yes. For a while. (My personal record is a week...but it was involuntary :sad: )
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Yes...but I've pretty much always wanted to get into their panties...but I've had plenty of platonic relationships with women...when they won't let me sleep with them...even when I ask nicely...
  • britttttx3
    britttttx3 Posts: 458
    It can be difficult to find but yeah I think so !
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    Yes, but sometimes the 3rd leg is too powerful.

    Lol!

    I think so.....they just have to both be in it for a friendship and nothing more.
  • JCrazyRunner5
    JCrazyRunner5 Posts: 144 Member
    its possible, but highly unlikely in most circumstances. just from experience.
  • UnwrappingCandy
    UnwrappingCandy Posts: 418 Member
    Men : Can u c Megan Fox naked and do nothing ?

    Women : Can u c Henry Cavill naked and do nothing ?

    Henry Cavill? Yes. I could easily do nothing.

    Megan Fox? I would do very naughty things with her if she consented. :blushing:
  • StrongFitSexy
    StrongFitSexy Posts: 129
    Yes, but sometimes the 3rd leg is too powerful.

    Yes, most of the time..
    A guy never really wants to be ur friend at least in my past experiences it's all BS
  • dltaylorii
    dltaylorii Posts: 132
    Can men & women truly be JUST FRIENDS

    Yes.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Yes. There may be attraction, sometimes, but you just don't cross the line. I have had male friends my entire life. I don't flirt with them, and they don't flirt with me. We're just good friends.
  • MG_Fit
    MG_Fit Posts: 1,143 Member
    In for part 50:

    Yes, I believe they can. As long as there are boundaries that are respected.

    I'm not saying it's necessarily an easy thing to do, just that it can be done.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    oh! another one of these threads!!!!


    I'm just breathless with anticipation because I'm sure someone is going to say something that hasn't been said in the last five million threads about this topic!!!

    Cisheteronormative boredom, FTW!
  • mmm_drop
    mmm_drop Posts: 1,126 Member
    Honestly, I don't think so. I feel like they make think so, but at some point feelings will get involved that you didn't even know were there. One of ya'll starts dating someone, one of ya'll suddenly becomes single. That "just friends" thing can change very quickly. I was recently contacted by a guy I hung out with ONCE 4 years ago, before I was with my boyfriend. The guy didn't call me after that one hangout for like a year, and now here he comes again. He says I am a beautiful woman and he would like to have me as a friend at least on facebook if not in real life. He goes on to say that he actually was interested in me back in the day he just never called because he was going through alot and didn't want to add me to it. (All this time I assumed it was cuz I was fat). But now he is trying to get me to meet up with him and "hang out". Sound fishy to anyone else?

    Your situation does not sound like groundwork to be just friends.

    Can men and women be just friends? Yes, if they both put out.

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