Can men & women truly be JUST FRIENDS

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  • caramelgyrlk
    caramelgyrlk Posts: 1,112 Member
    I have several male friends and the relationships are strictly platonic.

    Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. If you are platonic only, be that and nothing more.:tongue:
  • Mother_Superior
    Mother_Superior Posts: 1,624 Member
    Why couldn't they? It doesn't make sense to propose that sexually motivated organisms can't control themselves well enough for platonic relationships. Can two gay men, or women not be friends with one another? If they could then it wouldn't make sense to assume that a straight man and woman can't.
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    Déjà vu.

    I'm bisexual. I guess that means I can't have any friends? Or I have to bang them all?

    Well, I have lots of friends I've never had sex with, even if I find them attractive. Then a few I did have sex with. Meh.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Ladies better hope so as many to most say they can`t get along with or even stand other women.
  • MoRiv1986
    MoRiv1986 Posts: 379 Member
    Of course we can be just friends. I have Korean male friends and they are just that.
  • teagirlmedium
    teagirlmedium Posts: 679 Member
    I say they can be just friends, it helps if you think they are ugly. However, most of the guys I make friends with I find attractive. That is why I started talking to them in the first place. They hit on me, I decided I wanted to keep them around so I slowly made them just my buddies.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    My best friend of 16 years is a heterosexual male. We've never had sex. It's possible. He is a huge part of my life.

    Your person sounds like a flake that is interested in casual sex.
  • sterven
    sterven Posts: 12
    Yes BUT!!!!!!!!!!!! There are a lot of women I am just friends with. But if we all want to be honest men think A LOT. So any of those that I have been just friends with I would be a liar if I said I wasn't constantly thinking about how it would be to sleep with them. lol
  • epicrockstar24
    epicrockstar24 Posts: 86
    i think they can, but i think it’s just very uncommon if not rare that they can stay that way, but not impossible. On of my best friends is a dude, when i met him he was crushing on me hard, but i was not interested, i am not attracted to him physically and honestly if i had to be around him 24/7, he’d drive me insane, plus we have very few common interests. But somehow despite the common interests part, we got along great as friends. he was there for me whenever i needed him and same with me. I had a couple boyfriends, 1 of which became a husband, since i met him and none of them ever felt threatened,jealous, or had any sort of negative feelings toward my friendship with him. before he moved i hung out with him several days a week, and there were plenty of times he stay over night at my house or me at his house, because i was too sick, or drunk to take care of myself and needs someone there to help me since i lived alone. none of the guys i was with ever questioned it and most were thankful that i had a guy around who would help me out when i needed it. aside from his crush in the beginning we have never been remotely close to anything more than friends and thats just how they’ll stay.
  • JDBLY11
    JDBLY11 Posts: 577 Member
    My husband is my best friend. We became friends first and then got into a deeper relationship. For me sex flows from a friendship relationship. I have never really had any desire to just be friends with amazing guys. If they are so amazing that I want to be friends with them then I would probably end up wanting more from them. I am a person who likes few but deep friendships so if I let another guy in other than my husband they would have to be pretty special and there would be an attraction there. So I do not know if I would be able to unless we are related in some way where there are obvious boundaries like my sister's husband or an uncle or something.
  • Gwen_B
    Gwen_B Posts: 1,018 Member
    No, if they are good friends, then emotions can get involved!!
  • fuzzieme
    fuzzieme Posts: 454 Member
    he sounds dodge, but they can. All my friends are men, except my sister
  • Karabobarra
    Karabobarra Posts: 782 Member
    Men : Can u c Megan Fox naked and do nothing ?

    Women : Can u c Henry Cavill naked and do nothing ?

    when would you see your "just friends" naked??

    OP yes, men and women can be friends, just make sure the boundaries are established.
  • stormyinfinity
    stormyinfinity Posts: 12
    OP yes, men and women can be friends, just make sure the boundaries are established.

    ^This pretty much sums it up. Boundaries.
  • sixibabey
    sixibabey Posts: 80 Member
    ive had sex wit all my male friends ;-)
  • jeannemarie333
    jeannemarie333 Posts: 214 Member
    No.
  • Joannesmith2818
    Joannesmith2818 Posts: 438 Member
    I have a boyfriend but I get on with guys way better than girls! And seeing as my male friends no I'm with someone It's much more relaxed!
  • TheRightWeigh
    TheRightWeigh Posts: 249 Member
    Totally possible. Most boundaries happen naturally... The Friend Zone is a real thing and not always negative. I have lots of friends that are girls... I think the problem is that people SUCK with boundaries. They don't set them and/or adhere to them.
  • traceytwink
    traceytwink Posts: 538 Member
    Yes as long as your strong enough to resist, I had a male best friend ????
  • thanhdle
    thanhdle Posts: 25 Member
    of course, just as long as one of them is gay.
  • pseudomuffin
    pseudomuffin Posts: 1,058 Member
    I have a lot of guy friends that I share common interests with (ex: my tabletop gaming group is mostly guys and I consider them all really good friends) but I think the difference is that no one involved has EVER gotten the notion that there could be more than friendship because 1. I've known them all since I've been in a serious relationship/engaged 2. I've never once flirted with any of them because I am NOT interested.

    I have some guy "friends" (people I know on facebook/don't interact with IRL) that I went to highschool or college with that maybe had entertained the idea of dating me or whatever back in the day, could have lingering feelings, etc. Any time someone private messages me with that intent they immediately get shut down (I'm not unkind about it, but very direct) and it puts an end to it right there.
  • kreg0436
    kreg0436 Posts: 3
    I don't think so. According to my experience, men and women cannot be friends, they can be as a couple, but friends, cannot be.
  • 007bondage
    007bondage Posts: 631 Member
    Absolutely!
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    I like to have man friends. But they are my husbands friends too. And we all together as a group. Never just me and a man friend.

    Yea see the group friend thing would be fine. I sometimes wish we had a couple to hang with.
  • leebesstoad
    leebesstoad Posts: 1,186 Member
    of course, just as long as one of them is gay.

    Or both of them :laugh:

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