So sick of "person above you" posts

Eh...I have mixed feelings about them...I've posted on them some.

Honestly though...I received a compliment on one of the threads the other day, and it seriously made my day! I never get compliments, so it was kinda nice.

When they start to get annoying, I just don't click on them

i can' believe you don't get compliments. you're gorgeous!

Well thanks!! Most of my time is spent with hair in a ponytail, non flattering scrubs, and mostly patients who are so drunk or high in need of detox, or patients who are well over 65....doesn't leave much of an opportunity for compliments ha....I love my sweet older patients though, so I wouldn't trade it for anything!!

I thought I was supposed to say why I was sick of the person above me. I am disappoint.

Me too. Then the thread started off kind of slow. But, it sort of took off and then some people added a couple of funny gifs. So far I would rate the thread an 8.

Not to be a party pooper or anything, but I really hate all these posts about the "person above you". Are they hot? Would you date them? Describe in 4 words, etc. This is not a sleazy dating site. It's a place where we can all come together and support each other in our quest for better health. Am I the only one who finds these "hot or not" posts harmful and petty?

Would bang

LMAO

Even though they do show on your homepage under "recent forum topics", nobody is forcing you to click that link. If you don't want to participate, don't. I don't participate in every single one, but sometimes I'm bored and I find them fun.

As far as them being harmful, I have never seen anyone be negative toward someone else in one of those threads (not to say it hasn't happened before, I've just never seen it). Most people here follow the "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all" motto.

I dont look because I dont care about what the children are saying. Kid stuff, let the babies have their bottle....

I agree bunch of silly little children playing their little games of hopscotch and marbles. Damn whipper snappers.

I'm older than the lot of ya. I'm 50,000 years old, so there. bunch of ankle biters playing with your fancy agriculture and metal tools....

and 10/10 did bang your ancestors

they should split chit/chat and fun and games. stick all the "above" threads in fun and games. and leave chit chat for discuissing if the kate upton's of the world are fat.

I agree. It disturbs me when someone tries to start a topic on serious issues in the fun and games section

On the flipside of that are the people who post on there looking for compliments, but receive negative feedback. What happens to the psyche of those folks? Is it helpful or harmful? Does it become a form of "shaming"?

I don't post in those threads because I'd be the one who was more worried about getting a bunch of negative comments than positive, and I have enough self doubt and insecurity of my own doing, than adding to it by a bunch of strangers over the internet. So, I stay out of them entirely while I focus strictly on helping myself improve.

Well, I don't necessarily agree with "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" for every situation, but it sure as hell should imply when it comes to these games. Why would you tell someone he's not dateable, or rate their looks from 1 to 10 with a low number? Do people expect their honesty to be appreciated?

A-HA! Therein lies the problem. Is it better to lie to someone about what you think about their PICTURE (when that's all you have to go on) or instead respond "Would not bang" or "no" in the thread, for EVERYONE to see? Is it more harmful or helpful to lie or to be honest?

I guess I don't understand the point of the threads, either. But, I just don't go there. There are many, many more threads where I can be honest and upfront with others without posting such superficial nonsense.

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I think when it comes to things like this, it's better to lie. People pride themselves so much in being honest about everything, when most of the time it's just insensitivity. People are fragile, words can hurt. "Your new haircut doesn't suit you. You looked way better with longer hair." Oh, why, thank you for the input, I'll just go sew my hair back on. If you think the haircut is awful, the person is probably going to be hearing it from other people. There's little harm in saying "I like your new haircut. But I think you looked even better with longer hair." Right?

And if you find the person above you in one those games downright ugly, how will telling them the truth help, and how will lying hurt? If you lie and tell them they're prettier than you actually think they are, are they going to continue to be ugly because of that? Are they going to fix it if you tell them the truth?

I guess I'm against telling the truth when there's nothing to be gained from it. Telling the truth just for the sake of it. It's only function is making you feel good about yourself or serving as an excuse to be a prick. "I was just being honest."