Bored poll: Monogamy

oregonzoo
oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
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Good? Bad? Acceptable only because it's required to keep your loved one? Easy since you are with your partner? Old fashioned and horse puckey notion, don't you know we are animals?

What say you ?
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  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Monogamy sucks.
  • mrs_mab
    mrs_mab Posts: 1,024 Member
    Easy!
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    easy, with the right partner.
  • Lone_Wolf70
    Lone_Wolf70 Posts: 2,820 Member
    its necessary to create a non-chaotic society. its also possible, but not easy.
  • ccburn5
    ccburn5 Posts: 473 Member
    Safe..? yes. Reliable..? sometimes. Fun..? meh... Exciting..? are you kidding!
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    This is something I am so conflicted on. I like being with just one person. Although sometimes the thought of someone else is exciting. I don't want to hurt the person I am with in those situations. I also don't want to feel betrayed or lied to. But there is a reason monogamy is so hard right?
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I like monogamy. I love stability and trust and companionship with one person, and not having to worry about STDs and such....

    I liked it a lot when I was married for 9 years to a nice guy who had very little sex drive or passion.

    I love it more now that I'm engaged to the love of my life who is amazing in bed :-)
  • Slendermike
    Slendermike Posts: 1,776 Member
    no comment :)
  • _Emma_Problema_
    _Emma_Problema_ Posts: 261 Member
    A choice. Not for everyone, but for some. Something that's often reinforced by religion. There's no right way to do it.

    I would prefer a monogamish marriage. Someone who was my main partner and shared an emotional bond with me. But we would also enjoy different partners together and individually. Lots of communication and complete honesty and respect.

    But I also have a lot of respect for poly couples. The ones I have known are so close and have really bettered themselves by being able to understand their insecurities through dealing with jealousy. Mad props.
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
    Definitely not hard if you're with the right person!
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    I say good, because it reduces the risks of STD/I's... and I find it incredibly easy... but I am super loyal.
  • KristenRidl
    KristenRidl Posts: 82 Member
    Monogamy rocks!! With the right person, it can be amazing.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    I believe in just one God. I know there are a lot of vikings and druids. So if you are pologamy that is fine, but I think most of the people are mostly just christian. I'm not sure I could deal with having a bible for every god, it must be exhausting.
  • Rosplosion
    Rosplosion Posts: 739 Member
    A choice. Not for everyone, but for some. Something that's often reinforced by religion. There's no right way to do it.

    I would prefer a monogamish marriage. Someone who was my main partner and shared an emotional bond with me. But we would also enjoy different partners together and individually. Lots of communication and complete honesty and respect.

    But I also have a lot of respect for poly couples. The ones I have known are so close and have really bettered themselves by being able to understand their insecurities through dealing with jealousy. Mad props.

    I love you Emma. Also, ditto-ish.
  • Krys_140
    Krys_140 Posts: 648 Member
    its necessary to create a non-chaotic society. its also possible, but not easy.
    I'd agree with this.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    Being in a relationship that isn't monogamous doesn't necessarily make you poly. You could simply be in the lifestyle. I for one could never be in a polyamorous relationship.
  • purple4sure05
    purple4sure05 Posts: 287 Member
    I think a lot of times its just not ideal or practical. We're biologically programmed to find other people attractive, and that isn't necessarily going to change just because we fall in love with someone.
  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    Im single now but whenever I'm in a relationship I like to stay old fashioned and stick with one man. Thats just me..
  • Krizzo87
    Krizzo87 Posts: 14,186 Member
    its necessary to create a non-chaotic society. its also possible, but not easy.

    ^This
  • eric_sg61
    eric_sg61 Posts: 2,925 Member
    I have always been monogamous, even when the woman was a total starfish
  • Southern_Belle_LA
    Southern_Belle_LA Posts: 931 Member
    All for it! You will never love someone 100% (even if you say you do) you can accept them 100% but not love everything about them. You may want 80% of what they have but you go looking for that 20% in someone else. It's a choice to be happy with the 80% becuase it's sooooo much better than the 20% the other can give you.
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    A choice. Not for everyone, but for some. Something that's often reinforced by religion. There's no right way to do it.

    I would prefer a monogamish marriage. Someone who was my main partner and shared an emotional bond with me. But we would also enjoy different partners together and individually. Lots of communication and complete honesty and respect.

    But I also have a lot of respect for poly couples. The ones I have known are so close and have really bettered themselves by being able to understand their insecurities through dealing with jealousy. Mad props.

    best answer ever!!
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    I have always been monogamous, even when the woman was a total starfish

    Lol!!
  • _Emma_Problema_
    _Emma_Problema_ Posts: 261 Member
    its necessary to create a non-chaotic society. its also possible, but not easy.

    The polygamous and polygynous societies would disagree with you.
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
    I have always been monogamous, even when the woman was a total starfish

    :laugh:
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    It can be difficult...I love my wife tons and I wouldn't want that relationship with anyone else...but chicks are hot and sexy and tend to be very bangable. That said, I just use my imagination a lot.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Myself I think it depends on the person.
    Before with others I often found myself thinking "gah this so old fashioned and not fun" because some need wasn't being fullfilled. Either emotionally or physically.

    Now that I have a loved one that leaves me pretty fullflled, the thought of somebody else really kind of grosses me out.
  • megabyt23
    megabyt23 Posts: 580 Member
    I believe in just one God. I know there are a lot of vikings and druids. So if you are pologamy that is fine, but I think most of the people are mostly just christian. I'm not sure I could deal with having a bible for every god, it must be exhausting.

    I believe you're thinking of the term monotheistic. lol
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    Mahogany?
  • pjp1125
    pjp1125 Posts: 313
    It ain't easy.

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