Lack of support:(

sending you a request!

Aww, everyone deserves a great support system-sending a FR now!

My situation is somewhat similar and somewhat opposite. I have desk job so like you I spend most of the day sitting. My husband is on his feet all day so when he comes home all he wants to do is sit down at the computer and play computers games until the late late hours of the night. I have been working really hard to get healthier and in better shape. He however doesn't even try to get healthy or lose any weight (is is about 5'9" and 240 lbs. He is classified as obese)

Can't even talk to him about it because he gets all defensive every time I bring it up or he says something like he is tired of being on his feet all day and they are sore so he doesn't want to go for a walk or any thing like that. I totally get that. I mean he is on his feet all day on concrete floors I'm sure getting off them feels great. But I worry about his health and it has also affected our marriage since I am less attracted to him because of his weight (I know how shallow of me I know and trust me I feel bad about feeling that way).

At the same time though I get really mad at him because it isn't like I'm not tired from working all day. My fatigue is mental instead of physical but yet I still manage to work do cardio for 30 minutes every day after I get out of work, eat better.

Try talking to him about it. Maybe you will have better luck than I do.

I need the support too. One idea I think you should try is meal prep make meals for your husband meals for you ahead of time and store them in the freezer. When you get home from work eat your meal pack up your child in the stroller and go for a walk and then eventually go running. Meal prep works great for me because I don't need to cook everyday when I get home from work and it saves time and energy.

..... and take care ofy 2 year old son I'm really not motivated to do anything.

Isn't he HIS son, too?? If you work all day, your H should be willing to give you a break so you can do a workout. This isn't just about weight loss support...its about pulling your own weight, IMO.

I have a slightly similar situation, but even though my SO doesn't exercise with me, he doesn't b!tch about what I cook, and he encourages me to exercise and tells me he's a lucky man no matter what size i am. I will definitely send you a friend request, we can support each other. Lord knows I have a hard time moving my *kitten* after coming home, doing homework with the child, cooking and cleaning. I usually don't leave my house for a walk until 7:30. Not to mention it's stupid hot outside so the thought of walking for an hour is daunting.

Agree about cooking one meal and they can eat it or not. I try to cook healthy and my husband does not complain. Most meals are lean meat and steamed veggies. I have a four year old who would rather have a plate of broccoli than a chocolate bar. Just because someone is fit and healthy does not mean they should damage that health with poor eating habits and I believe we should start the children early enjoying fresh wholesome foods, not junk. I think we have been to a fast food restaurant twice in a year. I feel for those who do not have supportive spouses, this is sad.

Good job on taking a stand! I'm sure hubby won't starve. Maybe if he took a trip to the cardiologist he would have a different outlook because it took serious health issues and a heart stent to wake me up. Everyday I take my heart meds and wish I had taken better care of myself years ago.

I made a wonderful mandarin salad the other day and while it had sugar in it the whole thing was under 300 calories. Add some grilled chicken and voila, a complete meal even for a man! Also, have you tried ground chicken instead of turkey? It has a great flavor and not as dry. I make patties with it and cover them with homemade red sauce (tomatoes and basil) and sprinkle some low fat mozzarella on top then bake until cheese is melted. My idea of spaghetti without the noodles.

While my hubby eats MOST of what I fix, I still have to sneak the spinach into his smoothies and he has not quite warmed up to my creamy broccoli soup made with almond milk. :noway:

My hubby is very fit because of his job also and well.... I'm not

Request sent

Wow you sound exactly like me! My boyfriend of 4 years is an ex athlete and naturally fit and eats GARBAGE. I also sit all day in an office and when I get home take care of my 2 year old and 3 year old and don't sit down until bed. The worst thing is that whenever we get into a fight his defense is to call me fat in order to hurt me.. I just decided to start getting in shape because I am sick of feeling uncomfortable. I just do what I need to do and don't listen to him. Keep up the good work, it will pay off and soon your 2 year old is going to get more independent and take less of your time. I have also come to the conclusion, that working mom's like ourselves really only have time to work out when the babies are sleeping so we don't feel guilty. I go walk/run in my neighborhood at 5:45 to 6:45 am. If I do this for a month I will join a gym.

@crochetluvr he feels he has the harder job and more strenuous 10 hr shift than my sitting 10 hr shift plus he is stuck in the wife does it all thing that comes from his up bringing.

I get this too. Just because my job is not physical, I never work as hard as anyone else. Like to see them sit for hours at a desk and see how they feel. Sorry, touch subject for me.

I'll send ya a request! The best motivation for me...think about how great you FEEL after you workout...physically & mentally! It helps me so much, I cannot stop now! I don't know how often you're working out, but if you start to do it regularly, that's when you really FEEL the difference. Hang in there...force yourself to do it daily, or 5-6 days a week. Before no time, you'll crave exercise! Seriously! I used to hate it. I kinda still do, but I want the outcome!

Best of luck! And the eating thing...once you get accustom to certain habits, it's easy. And once you start losing a noticeable amount of weight, you'll be glad you did.

I have an issue... I need support! I have a great husband but all he wants to do is tell me I'm looking soft and because he is fit and trim due to his job he really don't care to do anything but sit and watch TV in the evenings. I have a desk job and I sit almost all day and when I get home cook him a super unhealthy supper he asks for and cook me a totally different meal and clean up and take care ofy 2 year old son I'm really not motivated to do anything. I have been trying to run about 10-15 mins a day but I wanna do more and I need the support and motivation to do that other than "you look a little soft"... I need friends

I have an issue... I need support! I have a great husband but all he wants to do is tell me I'm looking soft and because he is fit and trim due to his job he really don't care to do anything but sit and watch TV in the evenings. I have a desk job and I sit almost all day and when I get home cook him a super unhealthy supper he asks for and cook me a totally different meal and clean up and take care ofy 2 year old son I'm really not motivated to do anything. I have been trying to run about 10-15 mins a day but I wanna do more and I need the support and motivation to do that other than "you look a little soft"... I need friends

First off, ouch:( What will he say when you are buff? "you need to dial that back you are too buff now"...You need to do this for YOU and a healthy you, mentally AND physically is a bonus to that precious child. I am sending you a request. We can support each other. You just stay on the path you would like to for you; if he wants something deep fried, fine; make that, but make yourself something you feel is best for you.

Add me as a friend if you like! I sit all day at a desk and my husband is self employed and gets a lot of exercise some days. He is not actively trying to lose weight but he supports my choice and he does our weekday cooking. He makes healthy dinners so I can enjoy food without the stress. We have enjoyed trying new recipes that the whole family likes. Some times a new recipe is a disaster but we have fun trying them out anyway.

Talk to your hubby before you get hard feelings and it spoils your relationship.

You can do it!!!!



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