Love or Respect? Which is more important to you?

breeshabebe
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I am reading a book about love and respect... and the book says that most men would prefer to feel respected over feeling loved, (Not that they don't want to feel love... just that respect is more important to them) and that women would prefer to feel love over respect. If you had to choose one over the other.. which would you prefer? Your thoughts?
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  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    I would kind of think that they go hand in hand. If you love someone you show them respect. But overall I would say that respect is more important.
  • sar1386
    sar1386 Posts: 39 Member
    I would like both but I do agree with the book, if I had to choose I would go with love as being loved is such a blessing:)
  • lina1131
    lina1131 Posts: 2,246 Member
    In my opinion, you can't really have love without respect. For me, respect me and then love me.
  • mrs_mab
    mrs_mab Posts: 1,024 Member
    IMO with true love comes respect, at least it does in my relationships.
  • mistyblu13
    mistyblu13 Posts: 71 Member
    both are needed I think for a healthy relationship :)
  • breeshabebe
    breeshabebe Posts: 580
    They definately go hand in hand. I would say that I like feeling loved more than respected. Whenever I think about a relationship or what I would want... respect rarely comes to mind.. though it should be in the relationship.
  • PBsMommy
    PBsMommy Posts: 1,166 Member
    I'm greedy... Both are just as equally important to me.

    Personally, I think they go hand in hand. If you love someone, you respect them. The more you love them, the more the respect.

    You need both for a relationship to work.
  • xvxCelticWandererxvx
    xvxCelticWandererxvx Posts: 2,890 Member
    I don't believe you can have one without the other.
  • richardheath
    richardheath Posts: 1,276 Member
    As awesome as I am, most people I meet are not going to love me. Some of them won't even like me. But I do hope that they respect me for who I am and what I do.

    In a relationship, you need both. But then I'd say if you love someone but don't respect them, you are doing it wrong.
  • rhinesb
    rhinesb Posts: 204 Member
    Hands down respect.

    If you are constantly feeling disrespected then it is only a matter of time before you hate the other person. Respecting the other person is a must have.

    Though personally I feel that ideally you should have both love and respect for the other person.

    Love alone will only get you so far as without respect you end up in an emotionally abusive situation.
  • Hexahedra
    Hexahedra Posts: 894 Member
    Respect can exist without love, but it's tough to love someone without respecting her to some degree.
  • alisonlynn1976
    alisonlynn1976 Posts: 929 Member
    In a romantic relationship, I'll hold out for both. In a more general sense, in terms of how colleagues or the general public or whatever view me, I'd rather that people dislike me but respect me instead of like me but not respect me.
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
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  • KissMeImShtFaced
    KissMeImShtFaced Posts: 85
    Is sex an option?
  • thesupremeforce
    thesupremeforce Posts: 1,206 Member
    As awesome as I am, most people I meet are not going to love me. Some of them won't even like me. But I do hope that they respect me for who I am and what I do.

    In a relationship, you need both. But then I'd say if you love someone but don't respect them, you are doing it wrong.

    I couldn't have said it any better.
  • _EmmaStrong_
    _EmmaStrong_ Posts: 647 Member
    It would be my hope that with love would come respect! The two should automatically go together! However, that's not always the case and when it's not - I would rather have respect! Everyone wants to be respected - why on Earth would you not?!
  • jpeoples1177
    jpeoples1177 Posts: 266 Member
    My wife and I read Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, and to begin with we thought they were one in the same; at the time, we actually thought we were opposite of most people of the same gender. But as we read, he went into great detail about how a man needs to feel respected and a woman needs to feel loved, and the way he explains it makes sense. Eventually we caught on, but it was (IS) a process every couple must go through. Our favorite ride is the "Crazy Cycle", but we're learning to enjoy the "Energizing Cycle" more each day. I recommend this to any male-female couple, and to the OP keep reading if you haven't finished (read it to your hubby if he's not a reader).
  • breeshabebe
    breeshabebe Posts: 580
    My wife and I read Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, and to begin with we thought they were one in the same; at the time, we actually thought we were opposite of most people of the same gender. But as we read, he went into great detail about how a man needs to feel respected and a woman needs to feel loved, and the way he explains it makes sense. Eventually we caught on, but it was (IS) a process every couple must go through. Our favorite ride is the "Crazy Cycle", but we're learning to enjoy the "Energizing Cycle" more each day. I recommend this to any male-female couple, and to the OP keep reading if you haven't finished (read it to your hubby if he's not a reader).

    Thats the one I'm reading!
  • jpeoples1177
    jpeoples1177 Posts: 266 Member
    Awesome! :smile:
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
    I don't believe you can have one without the other.
  • Jonesingmucho
    Jonesingmucho Posts: 4,902 Member
    I am reading a book about love and respect... and the book says that most men would prefer to feel respected over feeling loved, (Not that they don't want to feel love... just that respect is more important to them) and that women would prefer to feel love over respect. If you had to choose one over the other.. which would you prefer? Your thoughts?

    But...
    Has anyone ever heard a man say,"Will you still respect me in the morning?"
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
    Respect can exist without love, but it's tough to love someone without respecting her to some degree.

    ^^This

    Respect is more important to me, love would be nice but not without respect.
    Think about it in all of your close relationships. Would you let your kids get away with disrespect as long as they love you? I expect to be respected by my colleagues. Why wouldn't respect be just as important in a romantic relationship?
  • _the_feniks_
    _the_feniks_ Posts: 3,412 Member
    Pleasured
    ____________

    Love & Respect
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    I would love to respect you....
  • runner2runner
    runner2runner Posts: 1,937 Member
    Respect for sure!! The only thing worse than not being loved is not being respected!!
  • t1nk6
    t1nk6 Posts: 215
    I couldn't have one without the other in a relationship, if either were'nt present there wouldnt be a relationship :smile:
  • _crafty_
    _crafty_ Posts: 1,682 Member
    Pleasured
    ____________

    Love & Respect

    _crafty_ + love & respect = pleasure

    there, fixed it for ya
  • k8eekins
    k8eekins Posts: 2,264 Member
    I am reading a book about love and respect... and the book says that most men would prefer to feel respected over feeling loved, (Not that they don't want to feel love... just that respect is more important to them) and that women would prefer to feel love over respect. If you had to choose one over the other.. which would you prefer? Your thoughts?

    Respect always, for out of respect is love defined and determined, then there's life; The tug-of-war; The challenge, TESTING the appointment of love via the trial-tests of nominated respect.
  • chunkydunk714
    chunkydunk714 Posts: 784 Member
    I couldn't have one without the other in a relationship, if either were'nt present there wouldnt be a relationship :smile:

    Yup
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
    respect. every time.

    but i wouldn't stay in a relationship that didn't have both.

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