What's with the attitude?
laele75
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I repeatedly see posts about 'soandso is sabotaging my diet' or complaints about the people around us who don't eat the same way. People insisting repeatedly that the world has to change to accommodate and support them or these people are bad.
What. the. hell? On toast.
Seriously?
You have made a lifestyle choice. Congratulations. I made the same lifestyle choice myself. But when YOU make the changes to your life, YOU are responsible for keeping on track. Yes, support is nice. But if you made the changes for YOU, then no one but you can sabotage your efforts. No one but YOU.
Not your spouses. Not your kids. Not your parents. Not your co-workers who eat out everyday. What they think, what they do, what they eat? Not your issue. I am all for teaching people good habits. But forcing it down their throats or looking down on them because the didn't choose that lifestyle? Or worse, accusing them of sabotaging your goals? It's asinine and very selfish.
Set a good example for your families. Kids aren't stupid. Show people how great you feel since you made the change, not complain constantly about everything that makes it hard. Part of the reason they don't want to eat what you eat? It's making you miserable and hard to live with.
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What. the. hell? On toast.
Seriously?
You have made a lifestyle choice. Congratulations. I made the same lifestyle choice myself. But when YOU make the changes to your life, YOU are responsible for keeping on track. Yes, support is nice. But if you made the changes for YOU, then no one but you can sabotage your efforts. No one but YOU.
Not your spouses. Not your kids. Not your parents. Not your co-workers who eat out everyday. What they think, what they do, what they eat? Not your issue. I am all for teaching people good habits. But forcing it down their throats or looking down on them because the didn't choose that lifestyle? Or worse, accusing them of sabotaging your goals? It's asinine and very selfish.
Set a good example for your families. Kids aren't stupid. Show people how great you feel since you made the change, not complain constantly about everything that makes it hard. Part of the reason they don't want to eat what you eat? It's making you miserable and hard to live with.
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And a damn good rant, indeed.0
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I agree. We are adults and WE choose what we eat.
I went out to eat with my husband the other night. He got an appetizer of cheese fries, I didn't care..he can order what he wants. It was up to me to say no thank you and sip my water. He wasn't trying to sabotage me..or make me give in. He just wanted some cheese fries.
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I eat a work lunch salad every day, because its healthy and I like it.
First I was ridiculed for it, but 70lbs or so later and people are suddenly VERY interested in my eating habits, lol0 -
1000% agree!!! The posts I have seen today were just ridiculous. IT'S CALLED SELF CONTROL PEOPLE!0
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AGREE! AGREE! AGREE! AGREE! AGREE! AGREE! AGREE! AGREE!
You sound like a member of Boot Camp Buddies -- no excuses!
What you say is so true -- we've made the decision to eat healthy and make changes. We're responsible for our own behavior. We shouldn't expect others to change to accomodate us.
Thanks for the post!0 -
This thread is a bit old but came across it and wanted to say thanks, needed that! It's up to ME, no excuses.0
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What. the. hell? On toast.
carbs?! are you mad?!0 -
:drinker: amen0
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I agree 110%, noone should be forced to do anything. I have made a lifestyle change, but I still cook two meals sometimes, because my fiance and kids don't always like what I am eating, so why should I MAKE them eat it? If I have a bad day it is not anyone elses fault and I to see a lot of "oh it is hard because my kids don't eat this way or my husband or blah." Get with the program you are in it 100% or you aren't.0
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Great. Now I'm thinking of raisin toast.
~sighs~
But it was a great rant.
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but... its so much more convenient to be a victim...0
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yes, yes, yes:drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :drinker:0
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Here's what I did when my brother tried to "SABOTAGE" me. (with the proper use of the term!)
https://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1043854-how-to-not-get-your-brother-s-support-on-getting-fit-pics0 -
this. my husband ordered the queso and chips. i didn't eat any... he ate less than he would have if i had helped. next time? he might not order those. but if he does - we both know i can and will say no to eating them. doesn't mean he cant
I agree. We are adults and WE choose what we eat.
I went out to eat with my husband the other night. He got an appetizer of cheese fries, I didn't care..he can order what he wants. It was up to me to say no thank you and sip my water. He wasn't trying to sabotage me..or make me give in. He just wanted some cheese fries.0 -
Totally agree, and now I want toast. Ahh well maybe Friday when I go shopping. Thanks for the post I was just thinking this today. 0
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Yup - YOU made the change. If someone sabotages you - then you deal with it. So much easier to play the "poor me, my life is so hard" card. You know what? I've got issues too (medical, family, work, etc... we all have those issues) - and I'm not F*&^ing complaining, but keep trying to do better each day. Set examples and get up and dust yourself off after life throws you a punch.
Thank you. Just... THANK YOU
That is all :drinker:0 -
What. the. hell? On toast.
carbs?! are you mad?!
Exactly what I was thinking. I can't eat carbs, they'll make me fat! SABOTAGE!0 -
I admit it's harder when certain people kind of wave foods in front of you, but you are absolutely right. It's all about self control and your own actions. People need to take accountability instead of blaming their problems on their environment or certain people. 0
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Thank you for this! It really made me sit and think because I know in the past I have used my boyfriends eating habits as an excuse but NOT ANYMORE! What you've said is so true!0
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That should be posted in big bold letters somewhere so everyone can see it ... love it
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AMEN! I had that mindset for a while too - no one else around is supporting me, they're not doing what I'm doing, blah blah blah...
Then I put myself first. I may have some struggles (see my recent post about BP issues), but I'm willing to do this all for me. You're right, support is nice. But when you are willing to make the change for yourself - that's all that matters.0 -
Not everyone has self-control and you ranting that they need it is ridiculous.
I have a boss who stands in my office and constantly offers me cookies and cake and tator tots, even though he knows damn good and well that I cant eat those things. There is no self-control issue there, that is just pure sabotage and spite.
Before you hop off that soap box of yours and finish walking through the line of pats on the back your getting, you may want to consider that.0 -
l love when they blame the kids. "Oh I have such a hectic life I don't have time to cook, I have two kids..." So if you aren't cooking, what are you feeding your kids? So you want to be selfish and only eat what's right for you and not teach you kids the proper healthy way to eat. You had to learn the hard wasy so they should too.0
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What an EXCELLENT way to put it. I am in control of me. :flowerforyou:
"I've been single for a while and I have to say, it's going very well.
Like...it's working out.
I think I'm the one."
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Not everyone has self-control and you ranting that they need it is ridiculous.
I have a boss who stands in my office and constantly offers me cookies and cake and tator tots, even though he knows damn good and well that I cant eat those things. There is no self-control issue there, that is just pure sabotage and spite.
Before you hop off that soap box of yours and finish walking through the line of pats on the back your getting, you may want to consider that.
If he isn't shoving it down your throat, he isn't sabotaging you. Have you tried saying "Thank you, but I'd appreciate if you stopped offering me food. I don't want it, I have my own, don't worry!"0 -
Does it not count when your other half tells you they made the curry from your cook book and it should only be 483 cals including rice then after you eat it casually mention they couldnt find reduced fat coconut milk so used full fat, didnt use 1cal spray and just used a lump of butter and also didn't use 0% fat greek yoghurt and just used full fat greek yoghurt as it was cheaper?
When I worked out my 'low cal' dinner I'd eaten 890 cals by the time he had finished changing the recipe to suit him.
Does that not count as sabotage?
edit - oh yes it was a recipe for 4 and he made it go between 2 of us so double the cals per portion0 -
Does it not count when your other half tells you they made the curry from your cook book and it should only be 483 cals including rice then after you eat it casually mention they couldnt find reduced fat coconut milk so used full fat, didnt use 1cal spray and just used a lump of butter and also didn't use 0% fat greek yoghurt and just used full fat greek yoghurt as it was cheaper?
When I worked out my 'low cal' dinner I'd eaten 890 cals by the time he had finished changing the recipe to suit him.
Does that not count as sabotage?
I'd consider that one meal as sabotage, but 1 meal doesn't derail you. If you let it happen often enough that it affects your weight loss, then yes, you are being a victim0 -
Only if the intent is to ENSURE you don't lose weight without your knowledge. So ask yourself, does your other half NOT want to you to lose weight? And if they don't, then make all your own meals and reassess your relationship if that's the case.Does it not count when your other half tells you they made the curry from your cook book and it should only be 483 cals including rice then after you eat it casually mention they couldnt find reduced fat coconut milk so used full fat, didnt use 1cal spray and just used a lump of butter and also didn't use 0% fat greek yoghurt and just used full fat greek yoghurt as it was cheaper?
When I worked out my 'low cal' dinner I'd eaten 890 cals by the time he had finished changing the recipe to suit him.
Does that not count as sabotage?
edit - oh yes it was a recipe for 4 and he made it go between 2 of us so double the cals per portion
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Lots of people these days don't want to take accountability for their actions and usually try to use an excuse for their lack of discipline.
Think about it, of course you won't eat a cookie if it's not around to eat it. But if you think that the world really cares that you're not including it in your particular diet, then I've got news for you....................................they don't.
So buck up. Get a backbone instead of a wishbone.
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