OMG, you wouldn't believe what she has been saying to me!

MireyGal76
MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
in Motivation and Support
There is this woman I work with, and see every day. She is always talking to me and saying what is on her mind, and it is unfiltered, unbridled hatred. Here are some of the things she has said to me... this past week ALONE...

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Those pants you are wearing, they cut into your tummy and your fat rolls hang over. It's totally obvious.
Your *kitten* has so many dimples in it, my golf balls are jealous
You have so many scars on your legs from mosquito bites.. they're hideous
You are useless and cannot manage your house
You suck as a mom
You suck as a partner
You suck at work
You look like crap. Old crap.

Can you do anything right?

You've gained weight, and it's totally obvious

You cannot do your hair, at all... hell you apparently can't even use a straightener
You do your makeup in the car... and it shows

Your ex is right, you cant do anything on your own
You don't deserve to look the way you do. You eat crappy and you don't work out enough. You should workout more.
You think you're so hot, and you aren't.
You are NOT awesome
You are NOT incredible

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Have you figured it out yet?
That woman is me.
And she is a real ***** to the one person she should be kindest to.
Herself.

I should dive into this deeper.
No, I would not be able to hang around someone else if they spoke to me that way.
And yet I do it all the time.
I try to dress it up as something other than what it is.
Try to pretend it's not poisonous.

But that's all bull****.

I need to be my own best cheerleader. Not my own biggest critic.
I need to be there for myself, because I'm the only thing in my life I can count on always being there. Sounds stupid, but it's true.
HOW do I expect to achieve anything when I believe this ****?
And what the hell am I mirroring to my kids?
For their sake, and for my own... I need to cut that **** out.
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  • hunderwoman
    hunderwoman Posts: 101 Member
    I love this! I am the same way. You just did an amazing job at pointing it out to me.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    :heart:
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    *hugzz and mwahzz* yeah she needs to see what we see....\m/
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    Crazy Canadians!
  • TyTy76
    TyTy76 Posts: 1,761 Member
    :flowerforyou: :heart: :flowerforyou: :heart:
  • stardancer7
    stardancer7 Posts: 276 Member
    :flowerforyou: Thank you!
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    dude. I was gettin' all ready to fly there and cut a b!tch!

    I had no idea you thought like this :(

    You are amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DAMMIT!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    :heart:
  • CountingCaloriesSuxass
    CountingCaloriesSuxass Posts: 387 Member
    OH wow..you is a lil mean
  • surromom2010
    surromom2010 Posts: 457 Member
    You know that allstate commercial where the girl says what about infinity TIMES infinity, and the guy makes the mind blown motion? (Insert that motion here)
  • greenmm25
    greenmm25 Posts: 175 Member
    wow I needed to read that, not only for myself but what I am modeling for my kids Thanks for the post!
  • buttonfeet
    buttonfeet Posts: 50 Member
    Wow. Women sure beat themselves up a lot. In my experience, 99.9% of it is unwarranted. I wish women could see what we men see. We aren't as shallow as commercials make us out to be. The media's definition of "beautiful" is far from what we actually think is beautiful.
    At least you know that such negative thinking is wrong. There are too many who actually embrace it and call it "motivation", which is a lie. Keep rockin out there. I'm sure you're doing FAR better than you think.
  • Kelly_Runs_NC
    Kelly_Runs_NC Posts: 474 Member
    Wow at first I was like damn - congrats for not punching her!
  • Desterknee
    Desterknee Posts: 1,056 Member
    I have this exact same issue. Thank you for sharing. You're brave and awesome and one day you will think as highly of yourself as we do!
  • aNewYear123
    aNewYear123 Posts: 279 Member
    :flowerforyou: I never thought about it that way before.
  • jnumark
    jnumark Posts: 3
    This really got me motivated! Thank you :):bigsmile:
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    I am so glad I read the whole thing, because I was going to say that the woman who's been saying this crap to you is a terrible person. And I totally get it. We wouldn't put up with someone else saying those things to us, so why do we do it to ourselves?

    Thanks for making me think. =)
  • sleepingtodream
    sleepingtodream Posts: 304 Member
    Thank you! I need to cut this out too:(
  • angelique_redhead
    angelique_redhead Posts: 782 Member
    I was thinking THAT *itch needs to STFU! Since it's you saying it to yourself though. I want you to stand in front of a mirror multiple times a day and LOOK AT YOURSELF and say, "Every day in each and every way I am getting better and better!" *HUGS* Go you!
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I work with that mean lady, too! :flowerforyou:

    Love this. Agree completely. I said something similar the other day, that even having been bullied, in bad relationships, around toxic people, etc... no one has ever said anything worse to me than I've thought about myself. :ohwell:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I needed to read this today too! Second awesome thing I have read on this website today!
  • gigglybeth
    gigglybeth Posts: 365 Member
    Amen to everything.

    And yeah, I was gearing up to be mad, too. I was thinking, "OMG! Why doesn't she go to HR???" LOL

    We all need to be kinder to ourselves.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    this is awesome!
    you need to give yourself several of these
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  • Happymelz
    Happymelz Posts: 536 Member
    But that's all bull****.

    I need to be my own best cheerleader. Not my own biggest critic.
    I need to be there for myself, because I'm the only thing in my life I can count on always being there. Sounds stupid, but it's true.
    HOW do I expect to achieve anything when I believe this ****?
    And what the hell am I mirroring to my kids?
    For their sake, and for my own... I need to cut that **** out.

    <3

    Thank you for sharing this!
  • WhataBroad
    WhataBroad Posts: 1,091 Member
    :flowerforyou: very cool... loved it
    10/10
    would bang and I don't care if you eat dirty :happy:
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    I heart you! I have the same voice echoing in my head every day. She's a real b**** but I can't seem to get rid of her. :(
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    damn, I was seriously about to offer to go *****slap her! I don't know you all that well, but I'm pretty sure you're awesome.

    :flowerforyou:
  • TinaDay1114
    TinaDay1114 Posts: 1,328 Member
    I do it too, almost every day. Been doing it for 42 years, and usually it feels so darned "natural," I don't even realize I AM doing it. Maybe I have to type it out like this, too -- read it in black and white. It's so easy when it's being whispered silently inside your head day after day to think it's not really THERE. But it is. It is so very VERY there. :grumble: :grumble:

    I hear my son do it -- I think he does it so that we will refute what he's saying. I try to tell him, "I wouldn't let anyone else talk to you that way, why would you do that to YOURSELF?" And then I usually tell him..."...and I say this, because Mommy does it, too. And I hope you figure out a better way before you're 42. 'Cause I'm still working on it." :heart: :heart:
  • aligatorwww
    aligatorwww Posts: 48 Member
    My 23 year old daughter yells at me for doing this to myself too!
  • ironjenn
    ironjenn Posts: 25
    Yep... I know her.

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