I think my coworker is trying to sabotage me

Pixi_Rex
Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
in Motivation and Support
Tomorrow a friend of mine from work turns 50. He has booked the day off but as a surprise his manager brought him in a large cake. We do not work in the same department but we do work closely together. Being as he is a great guy he thought of me and he brought me a piece of cake, which is very thoughtful of him but the thing is he knows I am trying to lose weight and he knows that I am working really hard at it.

I thanked him for the slice of cake (albeit a small slice) but now it is sitting on my desk taunting me. Do I eat this piece of cake? What do I do? How would you handle this? I would eat it by my day is nearly flawless for eating and completely planned out, I feel like he is trying to sabotage my efforts.
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  • BuffyEat2Live
    BuffyEat2Live Posts: 327 Member
    Would eating it send you into a downward spiral for the day, or would you be able to stop after the cake? If you want the cake and don't think it will cause you to binge later or anything, I say go for it. Cake is great, and can be a part of a healthy diet in my opinion.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    Is it store bought?
  • twosixeight
    twosixeight Posts: 24
    If it was me, I would toss it or move the slice of cake to a place my eyes can't see it. Like the other side of my desk or in the department "fridge" to make it look like I'm going to eat it later but then end up throwing it away. Or just throw it away. Its just cake and it shouldn't be a big deal if you don't eat it. Don't let this cake be the thing that makes a mark on your flawless eating day! Be strong!
  • sassyd99
    sassyd99 Posts: 54 Member
    That cake is stressing you out, toss it in the trash!

    There is a difference between you saying, 'I've been really good lately and think I'll have a piece of cake!' and eating something because someone shoved it under your nose. Choose your own rewards/treats when you feel like having them!
  • HacheraTsarine
    HacheraTsarine Posts: 278 Member
    Personnally, I would have eaten the slice of cake.

    1) They only serve cake in joyous occasions (birthdays, weddings, baptisms, etc.). To me, refusing cake is refusing the joy in life. But I have to admit I also have a sweet tooth, so I'd say anything to enable myself to have cake.

    2) I put a lot of effort in my weight loss journey. Which means that a single piece of cake isn't going to ruin weeks of effort. It will if I let it (let's say that one piece was so good, I indulge myself and selfishly eat the entire thing). But it won't cause I've worked a lot along the way on increasing my self discipline.

    3) I don't have to eat the entire slice.
  • janinelechuga
    janinelechuga Posts: 4
    He's not sabotaging you. It's just a piece of cake he is sharing with his friend. Give it away or go into the bathroom and toss it in the trash. Nobody can sabotage us. We sabotage us. Other's may know that we are deiting, but that's out trip not theirs. They don't realize our limitations because they are ours not theirs. Lighten up on your friend and take charge darlin!
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    I just don't know if it will cause me to binge at all. I liike to think I have my eating under control but you never know maybe this one piece of cake will throw me into a downward spiral and i will end up in a very serious battle with a sugar addiction. I do not want an addiction like that to take over my life.


    Unfortunatly it is a store bought cake, which is not as good as a homemade cake.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    walk over to your managers desk, with a smile and drop the cake on the floor in front of him.
  • TheBitSlinger
    TheBitSlinger Posts: 621 Member
    Flushing cake down a toilet is an awesome experience.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    He's not sabotaging you. It's just a piece of cake he is sharing with his friend. Give it away or go into the bathroom and toss it in the trash. Nobody can sabotage us. We sabotage us. Other's may know that we are deiting, but that's out trip not theirs. They don't realize our limitations because they are ours not theirs. Lighten up on your friend and take charge darlin!

    So much this!!!
  • amydegnan1
    amydegnan1 Posts: 1
    Throw it away, walk away, don't eat it. As I was working out SO hard yesterday, I thought to myself, "Why would I throw away all this hard work on something that satisfies me for such a small amount of time and sets me back so much?"

    The satisfaction of walking away from the cake will be so much better than how the cake will taste! You will be so proud and happy when you get home tonight knowing you resisted temptation. And this small step will make it that much easier next time! I personally know how hard it is to say know when everyone around you is indulging and especially if it's sitting right there in front of you. Don't set yourself back, just have a healthier snack and drinks LOTS of water. You'll forget about it in now time. Good luck!
  • sc10985
    sc10985 Posts: 347 Member
    Men usually don't think that way. Eat the cake and enjoy it :)
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I'd probably eat it and adjust the rest of my day.

    (Actually, I personally love ridiculous sugary frosting so I would probably eat that and toss the cake. hehe)

    If I didn't want the cake I would throw it in the trash can when he walked away.

    I definitely don't think he's trying to sabotage you, but just being nice. A lot of people on "diets" still eat regular, fattening treats now and then, myself included.
  • AbHuntington
    AbHuntington Posts: 12 Member
    Toss the cake if you have any doubts, which it sounds like you do.
  • BigDnSW
    BigDnSW Posts: 641 Member
    No one sabotages us except our own choices.
  • Gizziemoto
    Gizziemoto Posts: 430 Member
    Not sabotage, just being thoughtful. You said it was small. You can either take a bite then toss the rest, share with some one else, or toss it.
  • smerkord
    smerkord Posts: 101 Member
    My gut says don't eat the cake. Resist the cake. The Cake is a Lie (that is from a video game; I am a nerd) but seriously, think of it as a Temptation Challenge from The Biggest Loser and don't eat it.
  • ColoradoLes
    ColoradoLes Posts: 13
    I wouldn't call it sabotage - it's just a piece of cake, one time. If it's stressing you that much, throw it away. If you would enjoy eating some of it (even a bite or two to satisfy your sweet tooth), do it, and throw away the rest. He was just trying to share something special for his birthday; I doubt he's trying to undermine all your weight loss/fitness efforts.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I think the only proper course of action here is to take that piece of cake back to your coworker and smash it in his face, then rub the frosting all over his clothing.

    That'll learn him.
  • daniellemm1
    daniellemm1 Posts: 465 Member

    3) I don't have to eat the entire slice.

    Great point! I have a coworker who is great at reminding me of this when someone offers us some treats. I usually look at the treats and then try to decide if I should partake or decline and she will often say that we should split the piece or even split a cookie. Very supportive!!!! This way you get the best of both worlds :)
  • SirBonerFart
    SirBonerFart Posts: 1,185 Member
    My coworkers try to sabotage me all the time with donuts and bagels
    I think they are just jealous. I get even by sabotaging their lunch in the breakroom fridge
  • ninjakitty419
    ninjakitty419 Posts: 349 Member
    He's not sabotaging you. It's just a piece of cake he is sharing with his friend. Give it away or go into the bathroom and toss it in the trash. Nobody can sabotage us. We sabotage us. Other's may know that we are deiting, but that's out trip not theirs. They don't realize our limitations because they are ours not theirs. Lighten up on your friend and take charge darlin!

    So much this!!!

    Exactly. He wasn't doing anything sneaky here. While I personally would just eat it and move on with the day, I also know that I would be able to do just that, move on (VERY new for me). But you know yourself, and if you think that eating it will trigger something, dont eat it. But dont think that they did this to be mean.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    If no one is watching you, then throw it out.

    Office birthday cake is usually not very good and therefore not worth the calories.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I completely understand. It's like giving an alcoholic a drink. How dare he.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    Unfortunatly it is a store bought cake, which is not as good as a homemade cake.
    Not even in the same league.

    *off to bake a cake...*
  • parys1
    parys1 Posts: 2,072 Member
    Does it have blue icing? Blue icing is poisonous.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I just don't know if it will cause me to binge at all. I liike to think I have my eating under control but you never know maybe this one piece of cake will throw me into a downward spiral and i will end up in a very serious battle with a sugar addiction. I do not want an addiction like that to take over my life.


    Unfortunatly it is a store bought cake, which is not as good as a homemade cake.


    Oh. honey. no.

    That is like the beginning of orthorexia. You can't be terrified of any food. You must decide that you will not let it have power over you.

    I agree with the woman above who said, it's stressing you out so throw it away.

    But I really hope you don't think that eating this piece of cake could become a sugar addiction. I don't know if your counter is accurate or not but I think you might relax a bit down the road when you have lost more weight, and realize "oh, a piece of cake might mean I have to eat a veggie heavy diet tomorrow and work out a little harder, but I'm still doing fantastic!"
  • shlobiwan
    shlobiwan Posts: 110 Member
    Just break up.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    If no one is watching you, then throw it out.
    If no one is watching, it's the perfect time to eat it. Everyone knows the calories don't count if no one sees.
  • Pangea250
    Pangea250 Posts: 965 Member
    Why are you sitting there with it on your desk???? That's pure torture! Eat it, enjoy it and move on, or throw it out. But don't just leave it there. Are you mad?

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