Friend Envy

Nope

my best friend is also tiny & can eat whatever she wants...i don't envy her, though. she supports my healthy habits & weight loss 100% and is always there to cheer me on! Personally....even if i "could" eat fast food & junk and not gain weight..i wouldn't do it all the time because being healthy is whats important to me.. losing the weight is just the perk of changing my lifestyle!

Both of you are fairly young, believe me it will catch up with your friends. Especially if they haven't had kids yet, and then they will come looking to you for advise.

*looks down*

Yup, I have my big girl panties on.

I'm good

*leaves*

I've heard people say that about me with an "it's not fair" comment attached. It's not true at all. I can gain twenty pounds in a minute if I don't watch what I eat. (When I say a minute, I really mean a few months.)

I used to. But then I took a big girl pill and realized the grass is not always greener. Things aren't always the way they seem.

thank you for making this song pop in my head...

"So why, oh why
Do I look to the other side
'Cause I know the grass is greener but
Just as hard to mow"

yeah never heard it.

Nah. I usually just skin them and wear their skin as a body suit and it makes me feel much better.

:laugh:

no im not jealous because im the one losing the weight not them luckily i have fitnesspal friends for support as the smaller i get the less support i seem to be getting oh well i still will talk about it im proud of myself few months ago i was the big one now im a size smaller

200% feel you.

I love love love my best friend but I'm often jealous of her. She has a close-to-perfect body that, if she ate just a little healthier and worked out on the level that I do, would be model-esque.

On the other hand, I'm all wide and thunder-thigh-y despite (mostly) watching what I eat and working out hard 6-7 times a week.

But you gotta look at the positives. I can run four miles, I can do 20 push-ups, I do hundreds of squats. And my friend, god love her, can't do any of that. It doesn't matter to her, so more power to her, but it matters to me and I'm proud of where I am.

Chin up, you're still beautiful and strong! There's more to life than eating junk food and sitting on your booty c:

Just remember you don't see everything they eat, or everything they do.

This.

No I made my bed now I have to lie in it....my thin friends were either just lucky or didnt indulge as much as I did. I don't expect anyone to be jealous of me when I reach my goal either..I just want them to look at me and say "Wow" and mean it..

She might have weight issues later in life.. let's hope not, but it's possible... and by that time you are already in shape AND an expert in dealing with the issues. Who's envious then?

I think its the other way around for my bestie although she says she has started dieting but as mentioned I don't see what she eats or does.

I used to. But then I took a big girl pill and realized the grass is not always greener. Things aren't always the way they seem.

^This right here. I felt that way as a kid, probably through high school. My "fit" friends worked hard for it, so I wasn't really jealous of them, with one exception. She had a rockin hot body and she ate SO MUCH FOOD. Soda for breakfast, a personal pizza and a burger at lunch, chips, candy bars, etc. in between.

Anyway, years later I realized that her mom was a total psycho. This friend didn't appear to exercise and she ate a ton, but it was b/c her mom made her work out like a maniac and restricted her food, so she stuffed her face whenever she left the house.

You can wish in one hand and sh1t in the other and see which one fills up faster. Seriously, you have your body, your genetics, your metabolism, and you have to figure out what to do with it. I'm not trying to sound mean - it's just something you have to accept, because being jealous about it won't change your body, but it will change your life. It'll start with this friendship and cascade in other areas of your life.


*I also want to point out that I thought this was going to be a thread about MFP FL envy. I was all ready to pour my heart out.:grumble:

No. My sister is my "ideal" weight. But I'm the much happier person. Go figure. I think it's 'cause I have better boobs. Happy and confident is more attractive than a good body with a poor self image.