Fat shaming???

Can we all just read the fat-wank in the comments here and pretend it was all of us talking about it and then move on to a new topic?

http://jezebel.com/5985524/youre-lazy-and-hate-the-gym-because-god-and-science-made-you-that-way

Learning to laugh at yourself and the world is stress relieving.
Being in the moment with the joke-ster and being demeaned is something else entirely.
There is a line of respect that shouldn't be crossed when you're talking about people, in general.

Another topic on this today.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1056752-fat-shaming

Fat people aren't the only ones who get it. I get told several times a week I need to eat and I need to stop working out because my muscles are gross. I thank them for their opinion and move on with my life.

Well to each their own. If someone is being made fun of because they are fat, they should take a good look at themselves and use it as motivation to start doing something about it. If someone is morbidly obese, take it as a hint that something must be done, if for their health than anything else.

When people have not gone through something, it's sometimes difficult for them to be sensitive to it and approach it with any degree of comprehension. (I won't address the racial / ethnic slur bit and why it doesn't compare to weight because that's kind of been beaten to death in a thread earlier today)

Also, some people are over sensitive, and it isn't only overweight people who get teased and bullied. Even in scripted shows, you'll sometimes see people (quite often guys who aren't athletic.. because I suppose athletic is supposed to be 'better' or something) getting the snot beat out of them for being skinny. It comes in all shapes and sizes. People, especially kids, are mean. Some people get a high off of creating and maintaining the fear, self loathing and dread that they see in their victims.

There's no one motivation for bullying. It's as diverse as the methods in which it's carried out.

None of us is perfect, and none has any right to put others down, regardless of why. It's not common that I will quote the Bible, but it had a point when it said "he that is without sin among you, let him first throw a stone," and "first remove the beam from your own eye, and then you will see clearly enough to remove the speck from your brother's eye."



One thing I HAVE noticed is that the way fat shamers in films are portrayed today has changed soooooooooo much in recent years. Before, sometimes it was kind of glorified at times. Now, the kids who are shown fat shaming are shown as being awful, malicious and cruel. I think this is a constructive change.

Something needs to be done about malicious teasing in general. I'm known to tease my friends relentlessly, but they know I'm joking and that I actually care a great deal about them and would NEVER do anything to hurt them on purpose. I often go out of my way to make sure they're taken care of and treated well, and go into 'Mama lion here... excuse me, but you did NOT just get too close to my cub. TELL me I did not see you getting too close to my cub. I will lose my s*** and put you in the ground so hard seismologists will think there has been an earthquake in the area if I see you here again, now you'd better run away quick before I change my mind and decide to chase you.' mode if someone is nasty towards someone I care about. If you know someone well and you have rapport with them, it's one thing to make a joke here and there, knowing it'll get a laugh out of them, but to attempt to make someone else feel worthless is not. Being fat is a lifestyle choice, yes, and one which is unhealthy, sure, and expensive, undoubtedly (if not for the individual, then quite often for their health care provider / the economy / hospital, should they require care), but the way to get someone to adopt healthier habits is not by making them feel like nothing. It's far easier to encourage someone to get the weight off if you come from a place of love and support.

So, if a fat person makes fun of THEMSELVES and how they look I'm not allowed to laugh right along with them ? How about the Asian who calls himself/herself a twinkie? Can I no longer call myself a mutt as a joke? What about my sister with the acquired brain injury who makes the tell tail sign with her hand and the sound of a disabled person, while she is making fun of HERSELF? My mom frequently lifts her rolls of fat and laughs about how long they jiggle, is it acceptable for me to laugh with her? How about my father who is German, born in Germany, and arrived in Canada on a boat, and laughs when he makes jokes about being fresh off the boat.....is this acceptable?

Man, if we can't laugh at ourselves and those we love who are laughing at themselves, then I'm not too sure what is worth laughing at or about anymore.

This is a different issue. My boyfriend is Jewish. He makes fun of Jews all the time, but I'm not Jewish and when I do it it's disrespectful. It's kinda ettiquette. Common sense dude.

So your telling me that you don't have a secure enough relationship with your significant other to laugh at him or make fun of the fact that he's Jewish? Wow, that's gotta suck. I make fun of my husband all the time b/c he has tiny ears or the fact that he's the product of some infidelity by his mom (completely not true of course, but a fun joke all the same). And he laughs at me calling me a mutt, or that I have a "shelf" on my abdomin for oue kids to sit on, etc etc. If you can't laugh and make fun of each other in ANY aspect and still love each other and not be hurt, then man does that relationship kinda suck the fun out of the air.

When I was thin I cracked jokes about fat people and when I was fat I cracked jokes about fat people. Who cares. If YOUR life is so devistated by a person who you don't even know who makes fun of you, then you need help. Why care about what a non consequential passerby thinks of you? You'll most likely never see them again, or interact with them again. Shouldn't the ONLY comments that matter are from those who you love and trust?

So my advice is to get away from the "poor me" and "I'm a victim" mind set and start realizing that its only YOU who's putting yourself down b/c your believing what some nameless stranger thinks or says. Your making yourself the victim, NOT the joker. Like another commentor stated earlier, they are an equal opportunistic joker as are A LOT of other jokesters. They don't care that your fat; have long or short hair; are thin; are muscler; etc. They just cracked a joke. Its up to YOU on how you respond.

I thought fat people were jolly.

I thought fat people were jolly.

I guess we need to take a second look at Santa then. He must be deeply depressed.

I like the Tosh.0 approach. Make fun of everyone!

It is never acceptable. I should add, shaming anyone over their body (fat, thin, handicapped, other issues) is never ok. It also ALWAYS says more about the person doing it then who they are doing it to. It is a trigger for them that they have to judge anyone else for their body. Problem is, it usually still hurts the person they are doing it to. :-(

The TRUTH is we ALL have perfect bodies. That is until the day we die. Then, they are not so good anymore. I will be happy with the gift of my body until that day. When it looks great and when it doesn't. Either way, it allows me to breathe and move around. And THAT is what matters.