Curious - what made you overweight in the first place?

I have been thinking a lot recently about how and why I became overweight. I am worried about maintaining my new weight when I reach my goal (it's a problem I've had before) and I hope that working out the factors that contributed to my gain initially will help me.

I am curious - especially those who have at some point been very obese - as to what factors you feel might have contributed to your weight gain? My parents are both obese, and my dad had type 2 diabetes already (mid 50s). I sometimes wonder why they have struggled with their weight so much, and whether that is a factor in my weight gain. Does anyone else feel family was a factor? oR health, mental or physical? or some other factor?
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  • BrittanyGQ
    BrittanyGQ Posts: 92 Member
    I really, really love food and eating. :drinker: oh and I was never encouraged to participate in sports or anything growing up, so I wasn't that active.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Eating a lot of food and not burning enough calories.
  • HacheraTsarine
    HacheraTsarine Posts: 278 Member
    I've always love to eat and always dislike exercise.
    As a child, my mom signed me up in every class possible : swimming, gymnastics, tennis, soccer, baseball, etc. I sucked at everything, felt very lame and decided I just wasn't cut for it.

    So ever since I was a kid, I always have been 10-20lbs overweight.

    But I've discovered that I'm very good at dancing, so now I feel like getting at an healthy weight is not out of reach anymore.
  • jjrichard83
    jjrichard83 Posts: 483 Member
    Processed calories.
  • shareces
    shareces Posts: 27 Member
    Love food. Growing up I ate what I want, when I wanted, how I wanted...my grandmother was like my personal chef, lol. I'm very active :bigsmile: , but if I don't keep at working out my whole body regularly, I gain quickly.:grumble:

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  • airforcewife1007
    airforcewife1007 Posts: 35 Member
    I've always been "big"...smallest I can remember being was 150 around the 7th grade. I was pretty active my freshman year of high school, but towards the end of that year I met my (now) husband, and running took the back burner. It got worse once I started working...the only jobs I had throughout high school were in fast food, so I ate their food almost every day. Add that in with no exercise, and I was probably around 220 or so when I graduated. My habits didn't really change, and my hubby never said anything about it, so I didn't concern myself over it. By the time I got pregnant with our son I had hit 255, and by the time he was born, I was at 277. I lost the weight quickly, but I've gained it back, and then some. I never really looked at how many calories were in the foods I ate. I was shocked when I found MFP and realized I was obese because I never looked at the calories, I just ate whatever. I had mentioned to my doctor in the past that I was interested in losing weight, but all she said was diet and exercise, which duh, I knew already, but I had no clue what I should eat and how much. I've since found a new doctor who has been wonderful. Now I know and I'm slowly making my way back down the scale :)
  • Rage_Phish
    Rage_Phish Posts: 1,507 Member
    college

    drinks lots beer/ booze > eat lots of food > hangover > cure with lots of greasy food and pot > get munchies & eat more food > repeat
  • oldandhealthier
    oldandhealthier Posts: 449 Member
    EATING:laugh:
  • BurningAway
    BurningAway Posts: 279
    My ability to eat an entire extra large extra cheese pizza in one sitting whilst playing video games and wondering when ill be able to eat the bag of beef jerky i have waiting for me.
  • skinnysushicat
    skinnysushicat Posts: 138 Member
    Ha, I reckon most people (me included) love yummy food! But not everyone gets overweight - why? My husband seems to have some internal 'I'm full - STOP' switch which I'm lacking, probably from years of eating a few more calories than I need every day. Hopefully loosing and maintaining my goal will help me find that switch! I just am genuinely curious why some people seem to have a propensity to gain weight, while others stay at a healthy weight.
  • magerum
    magerum Posts: 12,589 Member
    Eating more than I burned.
  • dorthymcconnel
    dorthymcconnel Posts: 237 Member
    Less exercise than when I was in school plus eating due to depression were the main problems. I have diabetes in my family, along with heart disease and cancer, but none with those problems were overweight when diagnosed.
  • Boogage
    Boogage Posts: 739 Member
    I've always been overweight. From when I began to walk it was apparent that I had problems with my legs so I couldn't run around with the other kids to get a bit of exercise.

    I also find food comforting and have a very sweet tooth!
  • highervibes
    highervibes Posts: 2,219 Member
    I was in denial about how many calories I was actually consuming. "Every now and then" or "once in a while" was far too often, and it's easy to get used to it. I didn't even think I was eating "that badly" and I deserved it, other people eat the same stuff... why can't I? But I wasn't spending 24hours with them... who knows what they didn't eat at home. I blamed everything I could. Bad genes, not being breastfed, too much stress, thyroid problems, hormones... you name it, I used it to keep the blinders on. It's easy to be a victim but it's also wonderful to have control over your body. Very liberating to finally admit that I had absolute control over this.
  • Mom2Lizzy
    Mom2Lizzy Posts: 23
    Eating too many carbohydrates, not enough fruits and vegetables, and not exercising enough.
  • skinnysushicat
    skinnysushicat Posts: 138 Member
    college

    drinks lots beer/ booze > eat lots of food > hangover > cure with lots of greasy food and pot > get munchies & eat more food > repeat

    Eew, that makes me feel a bit queasy!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    My ability to eat an entire extra large extra cheese pizza in one sitting whilst playing video games and wondering when ill be able to eat the bag of beef jerky i have waiting for me.

    Soulmates!
  • sengalissa
    sengalissa Posts: 253 Member
    My mum was overweight and I learned my bad habits from her. 4 or 5 cookies for dessert and some chocolate with it. Hot chocolate before bedtime. Since she was overweight and I was, too, I thought it was just my genes and there was nothing I could do about it. It still doesnot seem fair to me - I was on the swim team and swam 6h a week. Why did I gain weight in the first place?
    I never occurred to me that I could do something about it until I was 25. I had not known that one has control over your weight.

    More things: we are vegetarians, and meat was substituted by carbs. My mum bought cheap fruits and veggies that never tasted well. We never indulged in yummi fruit - and she added sugar to fruit salad, even to strawberries. I thought that was the way to do it, hence I was not heavily overweight but have always been above average.
  • rhea1964
    rhea1964 Posts: 1 Member
    I don't think one specific thing made me over weight. Sure it was un-healthy eating habits and going un-diagnosed with insulin resistance until my 30's. Once I was treated for it I lost 75 pounds.. yay me.... and kept it off until I underwent treatment for breast cancer. During the second round of chemo there were steroids added to my medication and I ate everything that didn't move! Unfortunately it got me back into bad eating habits and here I am again doing what I need to do and get this weight off.
  • skinnysushicat
    skinnysushicat Posts: 138 Member
    Very liberating to finally admit that I had absolute control over this.

    That is SO true. I have never blamed genes etc - I always new it was down to me eating to much - but I used to feel powerless to say 'no' to bad food choices. I feel totally able to do that now!
  • HefferSprint
    HefferSprint Posts: 124 Member
    I thought about that the other day. I never had a weight problem until I got pregnant with my son at the age of 29. Before that, food was not how I got pleasure. My mind was full of the weekend plans, trips, guys, going out, work, travel, etc.

    Food just was not on my radar. Sure I liked it, but once I had my son, my life as I knew it changed. I no longer had all that excitement going on. Was time to settle down. And then bacon started smelling realllllll good. I became a French fryaholic.

    Just what happened for me. Once I settled down, I started deriving quite a bit of pleasure from food. Became my reward, thing to look forward to, carb high, etc. And the problem with dieting is that I sometimes feel like there's nothing in its place. Takes work to get interested in something else when you're almost 50. Who wants to go clubbing anymore?

    Been married 20 years. I love my husband. But I'm afraid I got sidetracked!
  • I was a toothpick in high school (senior year - 107).
    Community college I was still active. Then I took 2 years off to save up for college, and I had 2 desk jobs... on packed the pounds. just a change in work and got lazy working so much to save money, stopped being active, and then it hit me.

    2006 - 115 lbs
    2009 - 167 lbs

    Got sick and tired (oh being the biggest friend in my group) and lost the weight in 2011

    2011 - 125 lbs

    Was diagnosed with Moderate Fibromyalgia in March 2012

    March 2013 - 142 lbs

    Decided enough was enough.

    Current 124 and at goal. If I get down to 120, i'm happy - if not - my goal was my size 6's - which I'm wearing right now.
  • StinkyWinkies
    StinkyWinkies Posts: 603 Member
    Sat on my *kitten* and did nothing but eat for ~a year...gained nearly 100#
  • puckit61
    puckit61 Posts: 112 Member
    I had/have a tendency to eat my feelings and I also used to eat out of boredom. I never drank enough water, (maybe a glass a day or every other day.) The feeling of being hungry was probably 75% of the time just my body telling me it was dehydrated but I ate instead.
  • skinnysushicat
    skinnysushicat Posts: 138 Member
    I don't think one specific thing made me over weight. Sure it was un-healthy eating habits and going un-diagnosed with insulin resistance until my 30's. Once I was treated for it I lost 75 pounds.. yay me.... and kept it off until I underwent treatment for breast cancer. During the second round of chemo there were steroids added to my medication and I ate everything that didn't move! Unfortunately it got me back into bad eating habits and here I am again doing what I need to do and get this weight off.

    It sounds like physical health problems have played a big role in your weight journey?
  • FrankiesSaysRelax
    FrankiesSaysRelax Posts: 403 Member
    college

    drinks lots beer/ booze > eat lots of food > hangover > cure with lots of greasy food and pot > get munchies & eat more food > repeat

    Exactly this. Then turning 21.. drinking even more...
  • IzzyM210
    IzzyM210 Posts: 54 Member
    I think for me it was mostly eating food with no real nutritional value and in excess...not appreciating veggies/fruits and how wonderful they truly are. Also, I was never really encouraged to be active as a child, I guess. No extracurricular activities whatsoever. I think that a lot of it was ignorance by my parents part and my own as well. As an adult I take responsibility for allowing myself to get this way.
  • Laurenmp16
    Laurenmp16 Posts: 344 Member
    Apathy
  • HappyMeLovely
    HappyMeLovely Posts: 134 Member
    As a kid, I had an unhealthy eating lifestyle but got a good bit of exercise. So, healthy eating was never really something that I was taught but my activity level and enjoyable activities cancelled that out. As an adult, I went through phases of extreme poverty (eating only ramen noodles and bologna for months - which made me physically ill in addition to gaining weight), and had a time in my life where restaurants were prominent as well as extravagant eating. I don't think that I have ever known what appropriate portion sizes were, and I still struggle to adhere to them now even though I know better. I have had sedentary jobs since my late teens, and have been in college my entire twenties to now. It left little time and energy for me to focus on myself and I actually stopped really seeing myself, if that makes any sense. I was in a horrible relationship that broke my self-esteem and I just stopped caring for myself. Fast forward to now, I have a son and am in nursing school. My fall back options are unhealthy ones, and I struggle to limit my portions and eat healthily. What I have come to realize is that no matter when I decide to care for myself, there will always be set backs, hurdles, and hard decisions. I have promised to myself that no matter how many times I fall behind, don't lose, or over eat that I will never give up on myself again. I will continue to strive for progress even when none is being made. The key to maintaining a healthier life (sustainably) for me so far has been to eat healthier things that I ENJOY and exercise that doesn't cause me pain (i.e. riding my stationary bike or even doing some heavy cleaning). My goal is to eat less and move more, and even if you "fall off the wagon" for a day, a week, or more to get right back on and try harder this time.
    So, in a nutshell "Never give up!" as Dora the Explorer would say lol.
  • maQmIgh
    maQmIgh Posts: 236 Member
    I grew up in a single parent family (where my dad didnt cook particularly nice meals) so he gave up and we cooked our own.. mostly stuff you could microwave.
    My brother got bullied at school for being a geek and being weird, and I got bullied for being related to him. even though he was 2 years older than me, it fell to me to protect him the best i could.
    My mum moved out when I was 6, to which we only saw her once every 2 months or so, then when I was 12 she was diagnosed with Malignant Melanoma. She was given about a month to live, but she fought it and finally lost the fight when I was 16 (I'm now 32).
    I have put my yo yo weight down to emotional eating... my confidence - up until 2 years ago - was rock bottom and I used to eat when I felt insecure, depressed, stressed, frustrated... pretty much all the time.... then I would go off food completely, lose an awful lot of weight, then emotional eat again.
    I recently understood the meaning of depression and realised that I suffered with this mental illness since mum was diagnosed with her cancer.
    It has only been the last 3 years that I have been able to fight it as I had started a new relationship (one where my bf understood, and stood by me rather than the ex who ridiculed me)
    I am now a my happier person (mentally and physically) but due to the years of depression my subconscious has a habit of self harming... lucky for me, both I and the bf recognise the signs now and we are fighting the self harm along with the self confidence :)

    Sorry for the essay, but I feel that without it, I cant fully explain my eating issues lol

    This is the new me, healthy me... maybe not always healthy eating.. but the yo yo is out of the window.. its just another battle to win :drinker: