What's Your Take? (Friends List)

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  • silver_arrow3
    silver_arrow3 Posts: 1,373 Member
    I delete people who haven't been on in over a month or have deactivated. Otherwise, I'm usually the one to get deleted. People add me (without any kind of message so I don't know what kind of friend they are expecting anyway), then end up deleting me soon after when I don't interact with them or post super motivational stuff on their profiles and statuses. :ohwell:
  • gingameister
    gingameister Posts: 125 Member
    Everyone who comes onto my FL gets a fair chance. I'll make the effort but if they don't they get binned. If they were good buds but they've stopped interacting, they get binned. If they are a friend collector they get binned.

    I've got 12 people in my FL, down from about 70. Most have come and gone, but the remaining few are the keepers. The interact, they entertain, they encourage and they support. And it's what they get back from me 100%.

    Being a MFP buddy is just like being a real life buddy..... it's a gotta be a two-way thing. If it ain't then they gotta go. :-)

    Take care, guys, be happy. 8-D
  • MelissaL582
    MelissaL582 Posts: 1,422 Member
    I have a handful of friends who have been with me since day one. However, half of them no longer sign it, and if they do..it's to just keep their "logged in" days going (I see no point to that- but whatever)...more than likely I will be deleting them real soon. The other half are still logging daily and they were there to keep me logging in during my tough year of making excuses. I find them to be true friends because even though I wasn't as supportive then, they were there still checking up on me. Now my new set of friends...if they aren't active after two weeks, I do delete. A few of them will mention that they will be on vacation or will be away from MFP for x amount of days for whatever reason- I hang on to them. Also, if I notice I'm not getting support from the new group, I delete. I guess you can call me anal. LOL!
  • dessertlover27
    dessertlover27 Posts: 385 Member
    I used to cut people who didn't interact much. I haven't culled the list lately. I figure it is summer, and people are busy with family stuff, and may not be on as much. I try to interact with everyone at least once a week on my list, and more often if they interact with me. Yet, I still find myself getting cut on occasion. Maybe it's the creeper comments I make on friends' walls.

    Which is why you should only send creeper comments through PM or only to random strangers on the forum. Although I do like all the creeper comments my friends made on my wall.

    Have I sent you creeper PMs yet? In case not, I will send you one now. I don't want you to feel left out.

    Thank you for rectifying that situation. Creeper PMs are the highlight of my day. I will be anxiously waiting for it.
  • hevhoyda
    hevhoyda Posts: 146 Member
    I'm always up for making new friends and normally only delete friends if they don't log in often or interact much. Which technically would no longer make them my friend...true?
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I used to keep a tight friends list. But then I found loose friends and they were a lot of fun. I don't really care to "support" people anyway, so adding people who increase the fun factor of MFP is what I do now. The fun is what keeps me here and keeps me motivated.
  • greenihlonde
    greenihlonde Posts: 337
    I used to keep a tight friends list. But then I found loose friends and they were a lot of fun. I don't really care to "support" people anyway, so adding people who increase the fun factor of MFP is what I do now. The fun is what keeps me here and keeps me motivated.

    So THAT'S why you never never tell me I'm cool when I burn 2000 calories! :grumble: *delete*
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I used to keep a tight friends list. But then I found loose friends and they were a lot of fun. I don't really care to "support" people anyway, so adding people who increase the fun factor of MFP is what I do now. The fun is what keeps me here and keeps me motivated.

    So THAT'S why you never never tell me I'm cool when I burn 2000 calories! :grumble: *delete*

    I do if I happen to see it at the time!!! Otherwise I'm not going digging for it. :P
  • debbash68
    debbash68 Posts: 981 Member
    I keep a close eye on my FL but then they delete me at the same time they serve me an injunction, I feel they're quite antisocial, just because you're in their bedroom when they wake up! Lighten up friends list!
  • Stump_Likker
    Stump_Likker Posts: 2,059 Member
    I delete when they deactivate. If they interact fine. If they don't fine. I have made 2 FR, the rest made FR to me. It's all good. ;)
  • belle_of_the_bar
    belle_of_the_bar Posts: 474 Member
    I used to cut people who didn't interact much. I haven't culled the list lately. I figure it is summer, and people are busy with family stuff, and may not be on as much. I try to interact with everyone at least once a week on my list, and more often if they interact with me. Yet, I still find myself getting cut on occasion. Maybe it's the creeper comments I make on friends' walls.

    Which is why you should only send creeper comments through PM or only to random strangers on the forum. Although I do like all the creeper comments my friends made on my wall.

    Have I sent you creeper PMs yet? In case not, I will send you one now. I don't want you to feel left out.

    Thank you for rectifying that situation. Creeper PMs are the highlight of my day. I will be anxiously waiting for it.

    In for creeper PMs! :flowerforyou: I only delete friends if they've been inactive for more than 30 days. Or a couple because they were seriously annoying, but I keep most of em.
  • toaster6
    toaster6 Posts: 703 Member
    I had my ice cream and so now I will answer: Unless we don't mesh or they've been gone for a long time without letting me know they were going to be, I just leave them. I honestly don't pay much attention to my actual list-- I just go interact with whoever shows up on my feed or writes me. I'm socially illiterate though.
  • dessertlover27
    dessertlover27 Posts: 385 Member
    I keep a close eye on my FL but then they delete me at the same time they serve me an injunction, I feel they're quite antisocial, just because you're in their bedroom when they wake up! Lighten up friends list!

    I hear you, sistah! Why else do they say good night to us if that's not a hint telling us that they're going to bed and to join them in it, pronto. Talk about sending mixed messages. :grumble:
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I had my ice cream and so now I will answer: Unless we don't mesh or they've been gone for a long time without letting me know they were going to be, I just leave them. I honestly don't pay much attention to my actual list-- I just go interact with whoever shows up on my feed or writes me. I'm socially illiterate though.

    *touches your hair*
  • debbash68
    debbash68 Posts: 981 Member
    I had my ice cream and so now I will answer: Unless we don't mesh or they've been gone for a long time without letting me know they were going to be, I just leave them. I honestly don't pay much attention to my actual list-- I just go interact with whoever shows up on my feed or writes me. I'm socially illiterate though.

    *touches your hair*
    See that's all I did, and all the judge talks about" violating personal space" sheesh.......
  • daisyeyes
    daisyeyes Posts: 144
    Am I the only girl who hesitates adding older men or someone without a profile pic? I feel bad about it, but it's just.... no.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Am I the only girl who hesitates adding older men or someone without a profile pic? I feel bad about it, but it's just.... no.

    Hah! Don't blame you.
  • dessertlover27
    dessertlover27 Posts: 385 Member
    Am I the only girl who hesitates adding older men or someone without a profile pic? I feel bad about it, but it's just.... no.

    It happens and it's definitely your choice but I just like to point out that the older men part, a lot of them are decent and very nice people. They are all here for legitimate reasons and have a lot to offer to the friendships. You just have to be very careful in choosing is all.

    And you look to be very young, so I think most men here are all older than you and me. Haha. And there are young creepers, too.
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    For those of you who keep a tight FL, what do you do with friends that you were really close with at one time but are now no longer interacting with even though they *are still active on MFP*? Do you keep them for the sake of what you once shared, for the hope that you might rekindle that friendship or do you simply wish them all the best and delete them?

    Keep in mind I am only asking OPINIONS (not permission or a what-should-I-do). Just want to know what you all think and your perspectives.

    And if this is too heavy for monday, go eat some ice creams and come back later.

    Firstly:

    Your post made me laugh so hard as you have definitely closed off any opportunities to get e-bullied on here haha especially with the 'go eat some ice-creams' haha

    Secondly:

    To answer your question, I receive quite a few friend requests and those that are mutual with their encouragement and support are kept on my FL irrespective of progress, sex, age etc as I always take the time to check up on everyone. 9 times out of 10 though 20% of my "friends list" are not reciprocate so they are very quickly deleted :)
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    Am I the only girl who hesitates adding older men or someone without a profile pic? I feel bad about it, but it's just.... no.

    It happens and it's definitely your choice but I just like to point out that the older men part, a lot of them are decent and very nice people. They are all here for legitimate reasons and have a lot to offer to the friendships. You just have to be very careful in choosing is all.

    And you look to be very young, so I think most men here are all older than you and me. Haha. And there are young creepers, too.

    Not at all! There was an older guy whinging he had no friends earlier, I added him, he accepted and not an ounce of communication. DELETED.
  • Otterluv
    Otterluv Posts: 9,083 Member
    I keep a tight list. I've culled people from it, mostly because we didn't interact a whole lot. I don't add people often, either. Once in a while I'll add a newbie and see what happens.
  • dessertlover27
    dessertlover27 Posts: 385 Member
    Am I the only girl who hesitates adding older men or someone without a profile pic? I feel bad about it, but it's just.... no.

    It happens and it's definitely your choice but I just like to point out that the older men part, a lot of them are decent and very nice people. They are all here for legitimate reasons and have a lot to offer to the friendships. You just have to be very careful in choosing is all.

    And you look to be very young, so I think most men here are all older than you and me. Haha. And there are young creepers, too.

    Not at all! There was an older guy whinging he had no friends earlier, I added him, he accepted and not an ounce of communication. DELETED.

    I don't think that's limited to just men though. I Have received quite a few frs saying that they have no one to talk to and interact with. And after I have accepted, not a peep out of them. Nothing. Nada,
  • greenihlonde
    greenihlonde Posts: 337
    I used to keep a tight friends list. But then I found loose friends and they were a lot of fun. I don't really care to "support" people anyway, so adding people who increase the fun factor of MFP is what I do now. The fun is what keeps me here and keeps me motivated.

    So THAT'S why you never never tell me I'm cool when I burn 2000 calories! :grumble: *delete*

    I do if I happen to see it at the time!!! Otherwise I'm not going digging for it. :P

    I delete people for having sooooooo many other friends that I get lost in their news feed. True story.
  • sub10orbust
    sub10orbust Posts: 706 Member
    I used to keep a tight friends list. But then I found loose friends and they were a lot of fun. I don't really care to "support" people anyway, so adding people who increase the fun factor of MFP is what I do now. The fun is what keeps me here and keeps me motivated.

    So THAT'S why you never never tell me I'm cool when I burn 2000 calories! :grumble: *delete*

    I do if I happen to see it at the time!!! Otherwise I'm not going digging for it. :P

    I delete people for having sooooooo many other friends that I get lost in their news feed. True story.

    just deleted u. u mad?
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    i keep them, in order to keep tabs for when I decide to exact revenge for being snubbed.
  • JulesAlloggio
    JulesAlloggio Posts: 480 Member
    I prefer not to delete anyone since if they are in need of help and or advice, I am always willing to help out.

    However, if they choose to delete me, then so be it. I try very hard to keep in touch with a lot of people..

    It can also be overwhelming sometimes too..but it is what it is.
  • greenihlonde
    greenihlonde Posts: 337
    I used to keep a tight friends list. But then I found loose friends and they were a lot of fun. I don't really care to "support" people anyway, so adding people who increase the fun factor of MFP is what I do now. The fun is what keeps me here and keeps me motivated.

    So THAT'S why you never never tell me I'm cool when I burn 2000 calories! :grumble: *delete*

    I do if I happen to see it at the time!!! Otherwise I'm not going digging for it. :P

    I delete people for having sooooooo many other friends that I get lost in their news feed. True story.

    just deleted u. u mad?

    We were never friends, I denied your request... so how did you delete me again?
  • 2stepscloser
    2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
    I'm not interested in being a friend collector. They need to be active or interactive for me to keep them around. IMO, just because someone logs in daily, doesn't mean they are active.
  • yesImanaturalblue
    yesImanaturalblue Posts: 4 Member
    I had an account for a few years, had a large FL. Didn't interact with any of them but I logged everyday and kept up with my plan.

    Earlier this year I deactivated my account. Made a new one. I have no friends on this one.

    I may just be antisocial though. :wink:
  • daisyeyes
    daisyeyes Posts: 144
    Am I the only girl who hesitates adding older men or someone without a profile pic? I feel bad about it, but it's just.... no.

    It happens and it's definitely your choice but I just like to point out that the older men part, a lot of them are decent and very nice people. They are all here for legitimate reasons and have a lot to offer to the friendships. You just have to be very careful in choosing is all.

    And you look to be very young, so I think most men here are all older than you and me. Haha. And there are young creepers, too.

    Yes.... there are some very nice (old and young) men on MFP. I just want to avoid the creepers. plus, I want to add people that are closer to my age. :)

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