Hiding Weight Loss From Friends

I don't hide it from my friends, never have. I have lost weight then put it back on many times.

Motivation has to come from yourself for this to work. Either you want it, or you don't.

I have tried to lose weight 100x. I failed every singe one of them, except the one that stuck this last time.

I never announced it to anyone, but once I started losing weight everyone noticed...so now everyone asks me how it's going and what not. I don't really care though I keep trucking, bottom line is I'm doing this for myself.

Is this strange? I haven't told many people that I have started exercising/losing weight. The reason being: When I have told people in the past I am trying to lose weight - they say they notice, but then I gain back and feel like I failed. My friends never say anything about me gaining it back, but it does bug me. Has anyone else just tried to lose weight secretly and NOT told many people? How has the long term motivation worked for anyone that has if no one knows?

My boyfriend of 7 years knows I am trying again and he has been very supported, like everytime else I have tried. He has NEVER made me feel like I have failed. (I just had to throw that out cuz I love him so much )

I don't hide it, I just don't mention it. Mainly because I don't want to feel like I'm fishing cause then I get "but you're not fat" and statements like that. We all gotta do it our own ways

I haven't told anyone except my mother-in-law....She and my husband have been very supportive!!!! i just hate looking like a failure!!!!

I don't post anything about it really, especially my weight loss. I don't want family to know yet, except my sister and niece because they're trying, too. My family would probably just at "yeah okay we'll see if you're serious" whereas my sister is very supportive and makes me feel good about trying. Friends, I don't tell. Unless they ask then I say that I am trying. Other than that, I will let them notice when more weight comes off.

I hide it for sure.
I'm a shorty and only want to loose a few kgs, if I ever pass on the morning tea cakes or mention I'm watching what I'm eating all I get is a stupid expression and a 'why you're already tiny'
nice of them to say but I know they are only saying that because I am 'tinier' than them, not 'tiny' for my height.

I have told my mother-in-law, my husband, and my kids. No one other than that.

I haven't really seen many people, or talked to anyone since my mother passed away. So that's why I haven't told anyone.

My cousins, aunts, and well... Mostly all of my family members are drama queens/kings. So I am waiting until I bump into one of them. I am still not telling them I have been trying to lose weight. If they notice, they notice. If they don't, they don't.
Either way, I am looking forward to hearing the rumors they will start about me. (-:

I didn't announce it to many people at all, just people who are around me all of the time. I don't really recall if I had a good reason for it, but now, 50 pounds later and having basically maintained that for a year +, people are still commenting on how well I did! Do it your way, whatever makes you comfortable. I had enough friends on here to hold me accountable!

Choose your own adventure


1) I TELL EVERYONE AND THEY COMPLIMENT ME BUT I KNOW THEY JUST SAID IT BECAUSE I TOLD THEM.

2) I DON'T TELL ANYONE AND NOT EVEN MY HUSBAND NOTICES

3) I'VE LOST 30 POUNDS AND MY BOSS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO COMMENTED BUT THAT WAS TO FIRE ME FOR BEING TOO HOT NOW.

Choose your own adventure


1) I TELL EVERYONE AND THEY COMPLIMENT ME BUT I KNOW THEY JUST SAID IT BECAUSE I TOLD THEM.

2) I DON'T TELL ANYONE AND NOT EVEN MY HUSBAND NOTICES

3) I'VE LOST 30 POUNDS AND MY BOSS IS THE ONLY ONE WHO COMMENTED BUT THAT WAS TO FIRE ME FOR BEING TOO HOT NOW.

4) YOU WALKED INTO QUICKSAND. DO YOU GRAB THE ROPE HANGING ABOVE YOUR HEAD OR CALL FOR HELP

I didn't tell anyone squat. Nobody noticed until I was about 20lbs lighter. If I had my time back I'd choose 4)

I recently read a book about a guy who lost his weight by not telling anyone. I mean people noticed eventually but he didn't announce his weight loss goals. And when they noticed he would just tell them that he's was just eating healthier. He wouldn't say he was actively trying to lose weight and he wouldn't tell them his goals. He said he yoyo'd in weight in his early attempts. When he told people he was on a diet and trying to lose weight he would see judgement in their eyes if he even touched a taboo food. He could be good all week or all month and then decide to have a slice or two of pizza or a slice of cake at a party and he'd have those people look at him with that 'you shouldn't eat that if you expect to lose weight' look on their face. When he told people he felt like a failure before he ever began.

Showing is better than telling as far as I am concerned.

I have not announced my weight loss to anyone. Though there are a few that know that I'm trying to get fit and healthy it is literally only a few.

I prefer not to tell others about my goals - because it turn (in the past) it became the "topic of conversation" and scrutiny, advice, and comparisons - I was not comfortable. This time my husband, son, physician (and by accident my Mom) are the only ones who "know" my challenge.....

EDIT:* Laughing * well of course all of you know....

I don't actively try to hide it but I don't talk about it either. There are a lot of factors that went in to that decision, but at the end of the day I am doing this because I want to and because it makes me feel better in so many ways. I don't really care if anyone knows or not.

I don't tell anyone mainly because it is my business and why would anyone else care. If they comment on the results or ask then I will talk about it. I will mention my exercise but that is more like telling someone I went to a movie, not in how it relates to weight loss.