What is your overcompensation for misery? [PIC HEAVY]

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  • BrainyBurro
    BrainyBurro Posts: 6,129 Member
    Make up? What's that?
    I don't even think I've brushed my hair in the past 4 days.

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  • tlmcint
    tlmcint Posts: 74 Member
    Amazing post! Me? I analyze everyone else’s stuff! Very effective for not working on my stuff! Hummmmm…..what to do now? I think I will e-mail a friend for an update……you know, about their stuff!


    This!! I use to do this!! Fix everyone else, and I was good at it, most of the time. My own issues got buried and ignored until they kinda exploded all over me, that brought on depression and eating.. lots of both.

    I'm 48 and just now beginning to understand that "happy" is my own decision despite my circumstances, and happy is also fleeting. Right now I'm happier than I've been in many many years, and it's because I finally forced myself to feel my own misery and then move past it, and get God into my life.

    However I still have to yank myself out of hiding in books or even watching stupid Netflix to keep from thinking and facing stuff. lol
  • SunshineGirl75P
    SunshineGirl75P Posts: 13 Member
    I procrastinate.
    Like now, I should be finding a way to come up with extra money since I destroyed my engine, but instead I have cooked dinner for my parents, babysat my grandson, babysat neices and nephew, played mindless games on my phone, searched out new shows to watch OnDemand or Netflix, & the list goes on... I guess it is good that my PS3 broke or I would have some serious game hours logged!

    Anyway, thank you for this post. Just what I needed to evaluate where my current path is taking me. :flowerforyou:
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    Good read, OP! I would say I overcompensate by overachieving. The more misery, the more I take on. If my house is in perfect order, my kids are busy, and I'm completely neck deep in sports, clubs, recipes, and pinterest projects, then I must be happy, right?! Right? Perfection = happiness, right?!

    Oh, and I make pie. Banana cream is my specialty.
  • kyodi
    kyodi Posts: 376 Member
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    ETA: Op is pretty, and I liked your post. :D

    I read this in my head with the voice of Uncle Si from Duck Dynasty. Felt right.
  • Zombriana
    Zombriana Posts: 764 Member
    Make up? What's that?
    I don't even think I've brushed my hair in the past 4 days.

    I was once like you. I miss it ;3;

    Come to the grungy side. We'll turn that addiction right around.
  • LongIsland27itl
    LongIsland27itl Posts: 365 Member
    I don't even know what this is about but when I seen the pic of you in the blue strap shirt and I had to reply, you look awesome!
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    Cookies, candy, chocolate, and cake

    I love these. It's funny because I didn't have an issue with cookies, candy, and cake until after I lost 25 pounds. I lost 25 pounds, I made my regular holiday treats (cookies, bars, chocolate covered pretzels), I gained 10 pounts in 2 weeks.

    For me it's not about misery, though, it's about any imbalance in my life. I haven't dealt with depression since I was in my early 20's, but I have had stress take over during periods of time, which just throws everything out of balance. I've been in the process of moving into my house for 4 months now, the turmoil has me all out of sorts.
  • Sesaza
    Sesaza Posts: 49
    if it makes you feel any better op, i would smash you with the might of 10,000 titans.
  • JustAnotherGirlSuzanne
    JustAnotherGirlSuzanne Posts: 932 Member
    The internets take me away...... I should probably log off now.
  • BathtubBadger
    BathtubBadger Posts: 217 Member
    if it makes you feel any better op, i would smash you with the might of 10,000 titans.

    That sounds a bit rough. I like it.
  • Sesaza
    Sesaza Posts: 49
    if it makes you feel any better op, i would smash you with the might of 10,000 titans.

    That sounds a bit rough. I like it.

    hey baby, i noticed you have been going to the gym alot lately. how about you let me take you out for a steak dinner to solidify them gains, followed by a late night cardio session nomsayin
  • VeganGlasgow27
    VeganGlasgow27 Posts: 12 Member
    Having control over my calories definitely makes me feel better about lacking control with everything else. I realise that's quite a sad thing to admit. A lot of people have told me, "Urgh, why do you bother?! It's such a waste when you could be living a normal life without worrying!" - It just helps somehow.
  • BathtubBadger
    BathtubBadger Posts: 217 Member
    Having control over my calories definitely makes me feel better about lacking control with everything else. I realise that's quite a sad thing to admit. A lot of people have told me, "Urgh, why do you bother?! It's such a waste when you could be living a normal life without worrying!" - It just helps somehow.

    Yeah, since I forced myself to stop purchasing beauty products (I haven't for about three weeks, and for me that's a lot) until I finish my current ones, I have been much "better" about my logging here, and my weight loss sped up. I think that's a good sign, but at the same time I really want to avoid developing new quirks :P
  • sub10orbust
    sub10orbust Posts: 706 Member
    didn't read
  • EmilyJackCO
    EmilyJackCO Posts: 621 Member
    Music is my first, cosmetics my 2nd and clothes/shoes my third. I'm currently going through a stack of 14 CDs I bought yesterday after a 120 hour pay period....

    ETA: Oh, and the gym... always the gym.
  • gertudejekyl
    gertudejekyl Posts: 386 Member
    Having control over my calories definitely makes me feel better about lacking control with everything else. I realise that's quite a sad thing to admit. A lot of people have told me, "Urgh, why do you bother?! It's such a waste when you could be living a normal life without worrying!" - It just helps somehow.

    This is good. I have a bit of a shopping problem too. I love shopping, tasty food. It's just natural...there is lonliness, emptiness and boringness in life... these things assuage those feelings. You are very ambitious. Good !
  • Sesaza
    Sesaza Posts: 49
    hey bby pls respond
  • BathtubBadger
    BathtubBadger Posts: 217 Member
    didn't read

    Thanks for bumping anyway!
  • HealthyBodySickMind
    HealthyBodySickMind Posts: 1,207 Member
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  • fullofquirks
    fullofquirks Posts: 182 Member
    I hear ya, OP. I hate saying "I understand" because I cannot possibly completely know everything about what another person experiences but I sympathize. I got to 338lbs by not handling my quirks.

    I liked your post. Thank you for sharing it. Kinda got a lot from it today.
  • BathtubBadger
    BathtubBadger Posts: 217 Member
    I hear ya, OP. I hate saying "I understand" because I cannot possibly completely know everything about what another person experiences but I sympathize. I got to 338lbs by not handling my quirks.

    I liked your post. Thank you for sharing it. Kinda got a lot from it today.

    I love the combination comment + username :)
  • HealthyBodySickMind
    HealthyBodySickMind Posts: 1,207 Member
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    ETA: Op is pretty, and I liked your post. :D

    I read this in my head with the voice of Uncle Si from Duck Dynasty. Felt right.

    And also:
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  • Hexahedra
    Hexahedra Posts: 894 Member
    Not so long ago my way of drowning my sorrow and the accompanying depression was by playing computer games. Today my poison is posting on the internet. Hey, communicating on the forum is much better than blasting random strangers in an internet FPS game...
  • BathtubBadger
    BathtubBadger Posts: 217 Member
    Not so long ago my way of drowning my sorrow and the accompanying depression was by playing computer games. Today my poison is posting on the internet. Hey, communicating on the forum is much better than blasting random strangers in an internet FPS game...

    I play flash games so much e_e
  • kellyskitties
    kellyskitties Posts: 475 Member
    I've used games like Farmville. I've accumulated stuff for an idea or project - and information - with little attempt at the projects.

    I have a friend that "collects" music and movies - he has thousands on thousands.

    Another older friend collected cross stitch patterns - she had boxes and boxes of them - thousands more than she could ever do.

    It's easy to obsess. Stopping yourself is hard. I usually hit some epiphany moment where I wake up and realize how I'm wasting resources/time and then I'm over it. But until the epiphany moment, it's just like an addiction.

    edited for this: HAHAHAHA - after thinking about it - it hit me like a flying brick to the head. I cope with planning. I will plan things to the tiniest detail to soothe myself. I may never carry out the plan - but I will make one. I get agitated if I am unable to make a plan - even though the plan may not be possible. I have pages and pages of lists laying around sometimes because of this.
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
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  • cheyennekl
    cheyennekl Posts: 90 Member
    SHOES, SHOES, GLORIOUS SHOES ..... I own over a hundred pairs of heels!
  • AryaSnow
    AryaSnow Posts: 26
    Hey, I can relate to what you said. I made some bad choices too: left my country and chose a university that I later hated. So I took refuge in reading, got my room full of books, all sort of books. Now I've left university, moved back to my country, lost some of the weight I gained and I'm trying to rebuild my life again.
  • Prettymisssparkles
    Prettymisssparkles Posts: 1,274 Member
    Good post! I get obsessed with a new hobby when my life is falling apart. Recently Krav Maga, before that writing, painting, running... it goes on and on. It's my way of hiding until everything works itself out.


    ^This. :\ I have like 50 million hobbies...

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