dealing with the haters

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    Are you sure you they are haters and you are just not being childish? Heres some examples

    A person coming up to you and screaming at you because they are having a bad day or because you're jewish: they're hater

    A person complaining you're too obsessive because you bring up calorie counting or your weight loss/fitness into every conversation or you telling them "how many calories those things you eating" are or constantly talking about MFP etc: they just want you to shut up.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,347 Member
    I'm with pretty much everyone else. If they are being nosey and picking at you for your new habits, ignore them and let your success show them how well its working.


    However, if they are reacting to you suddenly talking constantly about calories, and weight loss and exercise and blah blah blah all the time, maybe tone it down - just because it's your new thing, doesn't mean everyone else wants to hear about it.
  • PlanetoftheAtheists
    PlanetoftheAtheists Posts: 112
    You deal with them like this:


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  • thrld
    thrld Posts: 610 Member
    Talking about eating is fine. Talking about not eating is BORING.

    Just make sure that your eating/not eating is not a topic that you bring up daily, because nobody wants to have the same coversation daily.
  • Guinevere_22
    Guinevere_22 Posts: 14 Member
    Are you sure you they are haters and you are just not being childish? Heres some examples

    A person coming up to you and screaming at you because they are having a bad day or because you're jewish: they're hater

    A person complaining you're too obsessive because you bring up calorie counting or your weight loss/fitness into every conversation or you telling them "how many calories those things you eating" are or constantly talking about MFP etc: they just want you to shut up.

    Lol Yeah I get what you mean. however I'm generally really shy so it takes a bit for me to share. These sort of comments come into conversations when the topic comes up; ie - my colleague asked what I'd bought at the shop and when I mentioned I'd purchased a scale she said "you're too obsessive about weight loss... "etc. Like wtf? I didn't have a scale at home, how is that obsessive?

    Anyway I totally get the "harping on about your weight loss is SOOO boring" thing, and I do more walking the walk and less talking the talk!
  • highervibes
    highervibes Posts: 2,219 Member
    Then I believe a SUCK IT is in order for your co-workers :P
  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
    How would you approach a situation where someone says "omg, you're too obsessed about food! You need to chill out and stop being so anal about it!" ?

    I've reminded people about the old Head & Shoulders commercials.

    "You use Head & Shoulders? But you don't have dandruff!

    Precisely."

    I suppose a more radical approach would be the take shirt off and laugh. Works in my office. Might not be applicable to your office situation.
  • norahwynn
    norahwynn Posts: 862 Member
    Tell then to mind their own business. They wouldn't like it if you gave them *kitten* about something that they worry about.

    Could you imagine telling someone that worries about money to "chill out" if they keep track of their balance in their checking account?

    Weight loss is just as personal and people shouldn't butt into what you're doing. Unless of course, you're showing signs of an eating disorder, which doesn't seen like that's the case in this situation.
  • CollieFit
    CollieFit Posts: 1,683 Member
    Hey guys
    I'm working at losing about 40lbs (18kgs) over the next year or so and I've been pretty fanatical about tracking my food and keeping up with my exercise goals. Problem is I'm getting some flack from people who're telling me I'm being obsessive about losing weight.
    I'm not sure how to combat that because what I consider good awareness and attitude to food and my body, some see as obsessive or negative. How would you approach a situation where someone says "omg, you're too obsessed about food! You need to chill out and stop being so anal about it!" ?

    You know the way alcoholics like to push drinks on other people to make themselves feel better and then tease and nag when you just want a water? Well it's the same thing.

    They're the ones with the issue, whether they chose to acknowledge it or not.

    How you deal with them depends who it is... Food pushing office colleagues, I find if you just politely decline whatever they wave under your nose, they'll give up eventually. It's more difficult with close family and partners not being on board...

    Get your support here to counterbalance the haters. :flowerforyou:
  • guessrs
    guessrs Posts: 358 Member
    You have to be kind of obsessive to make that big of a lifestyle change. I know I have to. No one has called me on this yet which surprises me, I just get awe from family and coworkers. But this is what I'm ready to say if I do get told this, I'd say look this is a huge priority in my life and it matters to me more than anything, I feel strong and healthy so why shouldn't I be obsessed with this ...
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    who cares.
    your doing it for you, not for them.
  • Microfiber
    Microfiber Posts: 956 Member
    There's a colleague who is doing the 5:2 diet and it's all she talks about. I mean, she even berates anyone she sees eating and tries to force her way of life unto others. It's getting kind of tedious now tbh.
  • curlyteetee
    curlyteetee Posts: 13 Member
    I wouldn't give them one moments thought! with your new lifestyle you're going to also have to grow thicker skin. Ppl are always going to have something to say be it good or bad, just do you and keep your head up! :wink:
  • TR0berts
    TR0berts Posts: 7,739 Member
    Then I believe a SUCK IT is in order for your co-workers :P


    Only if it comes with a crotch chop.
  • redladywitch
    redladywitch Posts: 799 Member
    Whoa. Unsolicited advice or opinions are useless. Don't place value on what they say!
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    How would you approach a situation where someone says "omg, you're too obsessed about food! You need to chill out and stop being so anal about it!" ?

    I've reminded people about the old Head & Shoulders commercials.

    "You use Head & Shoulders? But you don't have dandruff!

    Precisely."

    I suppose a more radical approach would be the take shirt off and laugh. Works in my office. Might not be applicable to your office situation.

    lol, i totally use this approach.

    "why are you watching what you eat? you're in great shape."

    "what, you think all of this <waves hands over body> happens by accident?"
  • highervibes
    highervibes Posts: 2,219 Member
    Then I believe a SUCK IT is in order for your co-workers :P


    Only if it comes with a crotch chop.

    For sure lol

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