Would you ever...

WanderingPomme
WanderingPomme Posts: 601 Member
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date someone who used to be fat? Does it matter? I'm just curious if this has an effect on how guys/girls think about people who have lost so much weight. Or like would you be put off when you find out that she/he used to be fat?
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  • aquarabbit
    aquarabbit Posts: 1,622 Member
    Of course I would. I'm married, but if I was single it wouldn't matter what their weight used to be or is. If I had a connection with someone, their past or current weight wouldn't change that at all. My husband went through a period where he was big in high school. It doesn't matter to me at all. I love him, not what weight he is or was.

    Edit: I forgot. Is this something you're worried about? Or just curious about? If you're concerned I don't know many people who would be bothered by it, so don't worry if that is the case.
  • melindafritz1976
    melindafritz1976 Posts: 329 Member
    my husband d is fat
  • xxnellie146xx
    xxnellie146xx Posts: 996 Member
    I would. The weight a person use to be wouldn't change how I felt about the person now.
  • melindafritz1976
    melindafritz1976 Posts: 329 Member
    id date them anyways w ho cares
    it depends on a lot of other stuff
    like how you get along

    etc...
  • GnosisGnosis
    GnosisGnosis Posts: 148
    I'm a pretty aesthetic person, so if I'm being completely honest, it depends on how much excess skin they have =/

    That doesn't change the amount of respect I have and honor I give them for doing something good for themselves, though.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Yes.
  • stealthSLOTH
    stealthSLOTH Posts: 695 Member
    Sure - not a deal breaker at all. Rather impressive!
  • michael1976_ca
    michael1976_ca Posts: 3,488 Member
    yes with out thinking twice. weight doesn't define a person
  • Slendermike
    Slendermike Posts: 1,776 Member
    Doesnt matter either way, if there is an attraction, go for it
  • lovelyx091
    lovelyx091 Posts: 217 Member
    Sure, but I love chubby boys, abs are icky to me I'd rather them have a squishy tummy lol. In the end weight doesn't matter, though. I'd be proud that they lost weight!
  • 2stepscloser
    2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
    Of course! There is more to a person then looks and obviously he/she cared enough for themselves to take the necessary steps to get healthy.
  • sub10orbust
    sub10orbust Posts: 706 Member
    Sure, but I love chubby boys, abs are icky to me I'd rather them have a squishy tummy lol. In the end weight doesn't matter, though. I'd be proud that they lost weight!

    i know right? im bulking till they completely disappear
  • liormintz
    liormintz Posts: 150 Member
    If i was in the right status i would date a woman nothing to do with her weight .....as long as she has the right personality
  • lovelyx091
    lovelyx091 Posts: 217 Member
    Sure, but I love chubby boys, abs are icky to me I'd rather them have a squishy tummy lol. In the end weight doesn't matter, though. I'd be proud that they lost weight!

    i know right? im bulking till they completely disappear
    .

    Oops I meant 'buff' guys, like the ones I would see at the gym all the time. I just love chubby men... maybe because I always think fit guys are out of my league. Either way, as long as they have a great personality they can look like Arnold Schwarzenegger and I will be okay with that. Lol
  • Stump_Likker
    Stump_Likker Posts: 2,059 Member
    Wouldn't matter to me.
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    I would and I have.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Ew, why would I ever do that? If they were fat before, they could become fat again!!

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  • xvxCelticWandererxvx
    xvxCelticWandererxvx Posts: 2,890 Member
    Personality and character is far more important than someone's weight passed, current or future. So yes.
  • Ed98043
    Ed98043 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Ew, why would I ever do that? If they were fat before, they could become fat again!!

    In fact there's an 80% chance that they will!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Ew, why would I ever do that? If they were fat before, they could become fat again!!

    In fact there's an 80% chance that they will!

    *shocked*

    Then no!!!!
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    Yes, it is a testament to there ability to commit to things and follow through with the work needed to achieve it. Those are things that are needed in a successful relationship.
  • jamielynas
    jamielynas Posts: 366 Member
    I used to be fat, I can't see how it's remotely relevant
  • fShaw86
    fShaw86 Posts: 878 Member
    Yes I would... You're dating the person's present and future, not their past.
  • 84woolf
    84woolf Posts: 153
    For sure!
  • EricJonrosh
    EricJonrosh Posts: 823 Member
    Yes I would... You're dating the person's present and future, not their past.

    I wish this was completely true.
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    I'm fat enough for both of us. She better not be above a size 2
  • tworthen79
    tworthen79 Posts: 1,173 Member
    I'm not attracted to skinny dudes. Like the ones that look like Ken doll and have those indentations above their legs by the groin. Ewww! Or their abs protruding. That's why I love love my husband. He's not skinny or fat, has stalky shoulders and a little squishy tummy. I love iT!!!
  • Zoom_over
    Zoom_over Posts: 11 Member
    ....date someone who used to be fat?
    Of course not....I'm married. But if I didn't have that marriage thingy going on, then sure why not? Firstly (as other's have said), it's great that the formerly fat person improved themselves. And secondly, people (at least that I know) normally date others for a variety of reasons; being something in the past is just one very small part of that person's identity.
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    I'm fat enough for both of us. She better not be above a size 2
    I'm out :cry:


    Forgot to add the tears
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    I'm dating the person, not a number on a scale in their past.

    And MG, come sit on my lap,babycakes. I have all the snuggles for you.

    Edited because FU autocorrect.

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