Friendship ethics...

_noob_
_noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
say one of your friends promised something outlandish for doing something highly unlikely (say taking you on a cruise if they won the lottery), do you hold them to it should it come to pass?

I only ask because something did happen, and I got shafted by the bastage.
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  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    hahahhaha.

    i see what you did there.
  • InForBacon
    InForBacon Posts: 1,508 Member
    Hold them to it.
  • wait... he gave you the shaft?
  • WhatAnAss
    WhatAnAss Posts: 1,598 Member
    Hold them to it for sure....if it was a real FRIEND there would be no question.
  • dodihere
    dodihere Posts: 490
    wait... he gave you the shaft?

    Hold it.
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    hahahhaha.

    i see what you did there.

    well, technically this person (longhorn) didn't get an A&M logo tattooed on his forehead when the aggies won ten games last season, but he said he would.
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
    Hold them to it

    Unless you like the shaft :wink:
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    wait... he gave you the shaft?

    Hold it.

    maybe stroke it a little....drop the soap and give a little wiggle when you pick it up...

    and see how quickly he remembers his promises...

    oh...and cup the "Powerballs" gently.......gently
  • wait... he gave you the shaft?

    Hold it.

    maybe stroke it a little....drop the soap and give a little wiggle when you pick it up...

    and see how quickly he remembers his promises...

    oh...and cup the "Powerballs" gently.......gently


    great minds!! I was JUST about to respond the same!! I think I :heart: you!
  • HealthWoke0ish
    HealthWoke0ish Posts: 2,078 Member
    Illusory promises. Contracts 101. Google 'em.
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    This friend was also female...
  • SmoothRiko
    SmoothRiko Posts: 193
    It also depends how close you are to your friend. I have thousands of friends that I know personally and I am cool with...but in my closest friend set, there are only 5-7 people.

    And another thing, it depends on your friend. If you known him/her for a while, and they aren't good at keeping their word...then there ya go!

    That's why I am careful to say certain things and I measure my words very carefully. That sucks you got shafted.

    If I say I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it. Like for instance, I live near NYC, and I am getting into a career in real estate. I told my closest bros. "When I make my first deal, after I put away money to reinvest and market, and I give away 10% to my church, we're all going to the city and we are going to party our *kitten* off.

    Will it be expensive, yes. Will I do it, yes...because I made a promise and promises should be kept. My clique shares in each others successes.
  • dirty_dirty_eater
    dirty_dirty_eater Posts: 574 Member
    Wait...A&M has a football team?
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    hahahhaha.

    i see what you did there.

    well, technically this guy (longhorn) didn't get an A&M logo tattooed on his forehead when the aggies won ten games last season, but he said he would.

    Just make her buy you a miniature A&M football helmet autographed by the quarterback. I here there are a lot of those out there...
  • MNA76
    MNA76 Posts: 1,541
    I recently made one of these deals. I'm hoping that it doesn't happen. And secretly hoping that it does.
  • It also depends how close you are to your friend. I have thousands of friends that I know personally and I am cool with...but in my closest friend set, there are only 5-7 people.

    And another thing, it depends on your friend. If you known him/her for a while, and they aren't good at keeping their word...then there ya go!

    That's why I am careful to say certain things and I measure my words very carefully. That sucks you got shafted.

    If I say I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it. Like for instance, I live near NYC, and I am getting into a career in real estate. I told my closest bros. "When I make my first deal, after I put away money to reinvest and market, and I give away 10% to my church, we're all going to the city and we are going to party our *kitten* off.

    Will it be expensive, yes. Will I do it, yes...because I made a promise and promises should be kept. My clique shares in each others successes.

    good grief. Thousands of friends?!? Wowsa. That whole "I'm kind of a big deal" thing must apply to you.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    NEVER touch my man's peen, but let me touch your man's.
  • _Krys10_
    _Krys10_ Posts: 1,234 Member
    In for getting shafted
  • SmoothRiko
    SmoothRiko Posts: 193
    It also depends how close you are to your friend. I have thousands of friends that I know personally and I am cool with...but in my closest friend set, there are only 5-7 people.

    And another thing, it depends on your friend. If you known him/her for a while, and they aren't good at keeping their word...then there ya go!

    That's why I am careful to say certain things and I measure my words very carefully. That sucks you got shafted.

    If I say I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it. Like for instance, I live near NYC, and I am getting into a career in real estate. I told my closest bros. "When I make my first deal, after I put away money to reinvest and market, and I give away 10% to my church, we're all going to the city and we are going to party our *kitten* off.

    Will it be expensive, yes. Will I do it, yes...because I made a promise and promises should be kept. My clique shares in each others successes.

    good grief. Thousands of friends?!? Wowsa. That whole "I'm kind of a big deal" thing must apply to you.

    LO Freakin L :laugh: Not at all. People do view it that way, but I have NEVER seen myself in that light. I have moved around a lot my whole life and have met pretty cool people and I keep contact and try to build decent friendships/relationships with those around me.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    It also depends how close you are to your friend. I have thousands of friends that I know personally and I am cool with...but in my closest friend set, there are only 5-7 people.

    And another thing, it depends on your friend. If you known him/her for a while, and they aren't good at keeping their word...then there ya go!

    That's why I am careful to say certain things and I measure my words very carefully. That sucks you got shafted.

    If I say I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it. Like for instance, I live near NYC, and I am getting into a career in real estate. I told my closest bros. "When I make my first deal, after I put away money to reinvest and market, and I give away 10% to my church, we're all going to the city and we are going to party our *kitten* off.

    Will it be expensive, yes. Will I do it, yes...because I made a promise and promises should be kept. My clique shares in each others successes.

    good grief. Thousands of friends?!? Wowsa. That whole "I'm kind of a big deal" thing must apply to you.

    LO Freakin L :laugh: Not at all. People do view it that way, but I have NEVER seen myself in that light. I have moved around a lot my whole life and have met pretty cool people and I keep contact and try to build decent friendships/relationships with those around me.

    that's called acquaintances.....
  • emirror
    emirror Posts: 842 Member
    You shouldn't "hold" a friend to anything like that. Either they do it, or they don't. It's not a business contract, it's not even an equitable contract (you didn't give them any consideration (collateral) for them to do something in return).

    If you want to ask them if they really meant it, go ahead. But, any judge is going to laugh you out of court if you try to make your friend do this.

    Come to think of it, maybe it would be better for your friend to know that you view the friendship of having less worth than getting your promised money or trip.
  • TribeHokie
    TribeHokie Posts: 711 Member
    hahahhaha.

    i see what you did there.

    well, technically this guy (longhorn) didn't get an A&M logo tattooed on his forehead when the aggies won ten games last season, but he said he would.

    Just make her buy you a miniature A&M football helmet autographed by the quarterback. I here there are a lot of those out there...

    haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! :drinker:
  • It also depends how close you are to your friend. I have thousands of friends that I know personally and I am cool with...but in my closest friend set, there are only 5-7 people.

    And another thing, it depends on your friend. If you known him/her for a while, and they aren't good at keeping their word...then there ya go!

    That's why I am careful to say certain things and I measure my words very carefully. That sucks you got shafted.

    If I say I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it. Like for instance, I live near NYC, and I am getting into a career in real estate. I told my closest bros. "When I make my first deal, after I put away money to reinvest and market, and I give away 10% to my church, we're all going to the city and we are going to party our *kitten* off.

    Will it be expensive, yes. Will I do it, yes...because I made a promise and promises should be kept. My clique shares in each others successes.

    good grief. Thousands of friends?!? Wowsa. That whole "I'm kind of a big deal" thing must apply to you.

    LO Freakin L :laugh: Not at all. People do view it that way, but I have NEVER seen myself in that light. I have moved around a lot my whole life and have met pretty cool people and I keep contact and try to build decent friendships/relationships with those around me.

    I have thousands of followers, who I refer to as friends when I talk to them on my fitness page on Facebook, but, I guarantee you, I do not know all 3120 of them...
  • SmoothRiko
    SmoothRiko Posts: 193
    You shouldn't "hold" a friend to anything like that. Either they do it, or they don't. It's not a business contract, it's not even an equitable contract (you didn't give them any consideration (collateral) for them to do something in return).

    If you want to ask them if they really meant it, go ahead. But, any judge is going to laugh you out of court if you try to make your friend do this.

    Come to think of it, maybe it would be better for your friend to know that you view the friendship of having less worth than getting your promised money or trip.

    That's an interesting take. I see your point. Because friendships aren't contracts...it isn't a business.

    Myself personally, I come from the train of thought that people listen to what you say, even if you say something jokingly or flippantly. That's why I don't make promises that I can keep. I was raised with an old school mentality.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    say one of your friends promised something outlandish for doing something highly unlikely (say taking you on a cruise if they won the lottery), do you hold them to it should it come to pass?

    I only ask because something did happen, and I got shafted by the bastage.

    I don't need to know about your sexual antics. Did he come through and buy you the cruise?
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    wait... he gave you the shaft?

    Hold it.

    No. There needs to be more than just holding. It needs a little motion.
  • SmoothRiko
    SmoothRiko Posts: 193
    It also depends how close you are to your friend. I have thousands of friends that I know personally and I am cool with...but in my closest friend set, there are only 5-7 people.

    And another thing, it depends on your friend. If you known him/her for a while, and they aren't good at keeping their word...then there ya go!

    That's why I am careful to say certain things and I measure my words very carefully. That sucks you got shafted.

    If I say I'm going to do something, I'm going to do it. Like for instance, I live near NYC, and I am getting into a career in real estate. I told my closest bros. "When I make my first deal, after I put away money to reinvest and market, and I give away 10% to my church, we're all going to the city and we are going to party our *kitten* off.

    Will it be expensive, yes. Will I do it, yes...because I made a promise and promises should be kept. My clique shares in each others successes.

    good grief. Thousands of friends?!? Wowsa. That whole "I'm kind of a big deal" thing must apply to you.

    LO Freakin L :laugh: Not at all. People do view it that way, but I have NEVER seen myself in that light. I have moved around a lot my whole life and have met pretty cool people and I keep contact and try to build decent friendships/relationships with those around me.

    that's called acquaintances.....
    .

    You're 1000% right. Though, I just view the word "aquantances" as a "not as good enough" word. So everyone gets lumped into the friend category......
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    That's called a "bet" and it's gambling, which is "void for illegality."

    These are legal terms that I've placed in quotations, so if you need me to further define, please let me know.
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    hahahhaha.

    i see what you did there.

    well, technically this guy (longhorn) didn't get an A&M logo tattooed on his forehead when the aggies won ten games last season, but he said he would.

    Just make her buy you a miniature A&M football helmet autographed by the quarterback. I here there are a lot of those out there...

    meh, Jadeveon Clowney stuff is probably worth more: http://www.ebay.com/sch/i.html?_from=R40&_sacat=0&_nkw=jadeveon clowney&_fscr=1
  • new_beth_2013
    new_beth_2013 Posts: 109 Member
    wait... he gave you the shaft?

    Hold it.

    maybe stroke it a little....drop the soap and give a little wiggle when you pick it up...

    and see how quickly he remembers his promises...

    oh...and cup the "Powerballs" gently.......gently


    great minds!! I was JUST about to respond the same!! I think I :heart: you!

    Pics or it didnt happen