I'm Trying Everything to Lose Weight...help!

I don't have any "real" workout buddies, either, nor much support from my family. Most of my motivation comes from my "Pals" on this site, which has helped me tremendously. There's no magic pill for sustained weightloss. There really isn't. You have to eat healthy and be active. If you're not into working out, why not go out and walk? Most of my friends on here are on this site every single day. We motivate each other. Try it out!

...then you don't want it bad enough.

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This. Everybody on MFP could be your friend, but if you don't want this - nothing & no one will make a difference. Figure out what you really want. When you do - you will get it.

All my workout buddies are gone too... They didn't move or injure themselves but just stopped wanting to go. I haven't let that stop me from going even though it is more fun with a friend. My friends on this site are very motivating and I enjoy seeing their progress. I'll send you an add.

Remember..."working out" doesn't necessarily have to be going to the gym or doing insanity. Granted you probably would get BETTER and FASTER results going to the gym and/or doing insanity...but...you could just take a walk at lunchtime or breaktime. Swim, bowl, ride a bike...etc...you have to get creative. The only exercise I do is walking (for right now) because like you, I'm not real motivated...but that means I have to consume LESS calories...which means less to eat...and really watch the sodium or I won't lose. So you just have to make a decision which road you want to take.

Just being on this site helps, this is as good or better than any slimming club. There are so many supportive people here and good advice. The thing is you really need to want it for you- I tried several times over past year but my heart wasn't in it and I failed, but this time I really wanted it and got myself prepared and motivated- still am, and I am nearly at goal. I had several different tactics on the way but all involved counting and logging calories, if it goes in my mouth I count it and log it .. Exercise isn't necessary but it certainly helps, find something you like and go for it. Want it for you - good luck x

You may need a different/new approach. You seem to be thinking in terms of everything that is keeping you where you are and things hindering you from changing them. Instead think of what you CAN do. Maybe Insanity is TOO much for you. Try small achievable goals. Encourage yourself to make small steps toward change, hopefully this will motivate you! Good Luck!

Focus on one thing that works for you. I stay focused on excercise every day & eating healthy but low carb. Pretty soon it becomes habit & it's easy. Just stay focused.

I work out by myself.

I do it for myself.

You just have to want it bad enough and then you'll do it. That's all there is to it.

"don't be upset with the results you didn't get for the work you didn't do"

^^ Exactly!

You can add me if you like, but at the end of the day you have to be your own motivation. If you rely on others to motivate you, then when they quit or don't feel like going, then you won't.

You have to want this for you and you have to push yourself. Once you get that down, then you will be good to go.

If you have knee issues, then either try not to go as deep in your squats or as heavy in your movements.

Good luck!!!!!

YOU need to be your motivation.

Not someone else, not any one thing, YOU.

If you are counting on tips, and tricks and fads to get you where you want to be, you do not want it bad enough.

Every day I have to remind myself that my EXCUSES are what got me to my highest weight, my MOTIVATION is what is going to get me to the best shape of my life.

...then you don't want it bad enough.

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Yup. No one can change you, but you.

This.

I am adding a couple of you to my friend's I hope you don't mind. If you get a request and accept, thanks I am looking to collaborate, to work together as a whole for inspiration and dedication. One person cannot go this alone and so i would love it if you accept thanks!!

I've tried so many tips, tricks, and fads to try to lose weight. .

Here is your problem.

Additionally, you don't have to work out to lose weight. A reasonable calorie deficit is enough. If that's all you do, it will be enough.

That's it. In the end, this is simply it.

That's really an oversimplification of a larger issue. Plenty of people want things very badly. Some attain their goals, some don't. The difference between the two can certainly be drive but another aspect is learning. Discipline is learned, not born out of genetics. If one doesn't have discipline all the want in the world isn't going to help and folks end up spinning their wheels looking for the right path.

OP, start practicing discipline in small doses. Begin creating good habits. It's like training in sports. We rep to create muscle memory. The more mindful reps taken, the easier a skill becomes. The more often you are mindful of being disciplined, the easier practicing good habits become. Trust me. I hate running more than anybody. When my treadmill shows I have 3 minutes of running left and I'm all alone, I can't tell you how tempting it is to shut it down. We've all been there at one point or another; looking for the easy out. You aren't alone. Start reframing your options as acceptable or not. Whole hog will only lead to frustration. Pick your battles wisely (within yourself) and build your discipline from there. You can drop the weight but it won't happen until you teach yourself to be accountable to yourself, first.

I've tried so many tips, tricks, and fads to try to lose weight. .

Here is your problem.

Additionally, you don't have to work out to lose weight. A reasonable calorie deficit is enough. If that's all you do, it will be enough.

That's it. In the end, this is simply it.

That's really an oversimplification of a larger issue. Plenty of people want things very badly. Some attain their goals, some don't. The difference between the two can certainly be drive but another aspect is learning. Discipline is learned, not born out of genetics. If one doesn't have discipline all the want in the world isn't going to help and folks end up spinning their wheels looking for the right path.

OP, start practicing discipline in small doses. Begin creating good habits. It's like training in sports. We rep to create muscle memory. The more mindful reps taken, the easier a skill becomes. The more often you are mindful of being disciplined, the easier practicing good habits become. Trust me. I hate running more than anybody. When my treadmill shows I have 3 minutes of running left and I'm all alone, I can't tell you how tempting it is to shut it down. We've all been there at one point or another; looking for the easy out. You aren't alone. Start reframing your options as acceptable or not. Whole hog will only lead to frustration. Pick your battles wisely (within yourself) and build your discipline from there. You can drop the weight but it won't happen until you teach yourself to be accountable to yourself, first.

The OP has been a member of this site since 2011. They, at one time, cared enough to try. Telling them to change.. or to create good habits... or what little tips you can offer... it's pointless if they don't care enough to, well, do it.

If they don't want it, they aren't going to make it happen.
If they do, they will. It isn't an oversimplification. The help they need isn't going to come from some forum. They need to find their own REASON to better themselves if that's what they want to do.

It really is that simple.

I'm not saying exercise is not important, but I lost all my weight basically by eating at a reasonable calorie deficit. No regular exercise. So if you can eat at a reasonable calorie deficit AND fit in exercise a couple days a week, you're ahead of the game!