I have no motivation to stop smokimg.

2456

Replies

  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    Let's see...it's no longer in style, most people think it's gross, including a lot of smokers, it's expensive as hell nowadays and will only get even more so, it will wrinkle your skin, people give you dirty looks, you can't smoke inside anywhere any more so it's a hassle, you probably don't even enjoy it, it's not impossible to quit, even other smokers will be impressed with you for quitting...this doesn't even touch health reasons.

    ETA: oh, I should add that I quit cold turkey 5 years ago, pack a day habit starting at 15. Yep, it was hard. Yep, totally worth it.

    yes these are all valid points and all so true, though I don't think anyone smokes for style, that was in the early 1900's
    Mad Men is all that comes to mind.

    I been thinking about quitting, but damn I gave up every thing else. we'll see.
  • HollisGrant
    HollisGrant Posts: 2,022 Member
    I smoked for 17 years and quit over 20 years ago. I really enjoyed smoking, but didn't enjoy the coughs and colds and sinus infections. I got really sick of wondering if I had throat cancer every time I got a sore throat. I knew it was expensive, I knew a lot of people hated the smell. I knew all the reasons every smoker knows.

    I still couldn't quit until I found my own personal reason: I realized I was an addict and could not go through a single day with all the ordinary ups and downs without having this crutch every time I turned around. I could see smoking for enjoyment (even though it costs a lot and causes disease), but I was not going to be an addict who depended on this thing like an alcoholic or a drug addict. I grew really angry at myself. I quit that day and at the same time signed up for a 6-week stop smoking program because I knew I would probably start again.

    You have to find your own personal reason. Nobody else can do that for you. Something has to matter to you more than the smoking to take the steps to stop the final time. For me, it was self pride.
  • hookilau
    hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
    Please post pictures and reasons. I just can't seem to find what I need.

    I don't either. However, I got over it and quit anyhow. Nicotine patches got me through, took about 8 wks.
    That doesn't mean that even after better than 5 yrs gone by I still don't feel a pang now and then :huh:
    annnnd, I can smell a cigarette from a mile away, not unpleasant to me even now.

    Don't judge me :laugh:

    Good luck :drinker:
  • CFam5
    CFam5 Posts: 24
    I just quit smoking on July 21st. The first two days were absolutely hard. I wasn't going through withdrawl symptoms or all the other BS you hear about; I just wanted a cig!! After a week, I thought about it, but I didn't crave it. I bought a boook by Alan Carr called The Easy Way To Stop Smoking. It was $12 at B&N and at first my husband laughed at me, "A book is going to make you quit?" I thought, why not? $12 is far less than I spend on cigs. I read it. Interesting. I liked that it didn't tell me all the negatives and give me horrifing statistics about smokers; instead, it explained how smoking is an addiction that can be beaten. I didn't quit right away but I thought about that info in that book everytime I lit up. Eventutally, I had no desire to smoke. Everytime I even think about having a cig (my husband still smokes) I take a deep breath and remind myself that I'm adding years to my life, I feel so much better, and I even have increased energy. You can do it! You just have to really want to!!
  • I'll weigh in here, aesthetics aside, the health risks are numerous and large. I am a firefighter EMT, and an ex smoker. I see people everyday, 55 yo Female C/O diff. Breathing. Etc. 9.9/10 they are smokers, been smoking 30 years. They have COPD and cant breathe laying down. Some quit, docs always ask why they smoke and they have a generic answer, and he says well if you don't quit, today, you are going to die soon, and not in a comfortable way. Sitting in a chair on O2 drowning in your own fluid from pulmonary edema caused by sclerosis of the lungs. If that isn't motivation, how about cost, a pack of my brand of cigarettes are five dollars plus change. A pack a day so 5 times 7 is 35 dollars a week. That is 140 dollars a month, 1680 dollars a year, it may not seem like much, but that is my cable bill. I quit cold turkey when I found out I had hypertension in my 20's. I also like to sing, and smoking caused mucus to build up on my vocal cords and kill my range and clarity. You can quit with the gum and willpower if you want. About E Cigarettes. They do reduce the tar and the heat and smoke damage. However you are still a nicotinwe addict and eexcessive stimulant abuse such as smoking or chewing, causes high blood pressure and is a precursor for coronary artery disease. If you want to be spread on a table, have your sternum cut open with a saw, have them take veins from your leg. Clamp you heart off and put you on a machine that pumps blood for you, while the surgeonakes a new path for blood to flow, then continue using your e cigarette. You can quit smoking once you get past 72 hours half the battle is over. Then it is no longer a chemical addiction it is all physical. Using nicorette or nicoderm as directed will help you quit smoking, only if you use it correctly. Of you have any questions about quitting, advice, or need some more graphic motivation, private message me and I will be happy to help the beat I can.
  • jillianbeeee
    jillianbeeee Posts: 345 Member
    I am with you! I smoke too. I want to quit but the bottom line is I do enjoy it. However, I have lost 50 pounds and given up my go to snacking. I gave up my diet cokes as well. So I figure I can quit smoking too. One of my goals is to one day run a marathon, I know that I need to quit smoking to achieve that goal. Maybe a FITNESS goal will help us both to find a way to put the cigarettes down. I sure hope so. Good luck my friend! Lets face it, we both know WHY we have to quit, we just gotta do it. Just like losing weight it is a CHOICE. :)
  • LoreleiEvil
    LoreleiEvil Posts: 65 Member
    Nah.
    What else would you like to change?
    Start with that.

    Agreed. I smoked for a reason. Once I fixed that reason, I could quit. What's your reason? My reason was an abusive, yet handsome smooth talking dirtbag. I'll spare you the codependent details, but stress equaled smokes.
  • I smoked for that Feel, a quick little rush that was so addictive it held me for years, escapism, even for a couple of minutes, a few moments to myself.

    if I was single, I probably would still be smoking, but I have a family now and enjoy gym & fitness way too much.

    Towards the end, every puff I took, I kept thinking, that could be it now, Cancer! could be developing and spreading in me.

    I literally felt this....time and time again as I was trying to quite, which initially "dragged" on but I eventually got there.

    I relapsed a few times when i was out drinking with the lads but I'm proud to say I've been out twice recently drinking and didn't smoke.

    I only hope that I didn't leave it too late. If the damage is done then I don't know how I'll live with myself, my children and wife deserve me to grow old and nag them.

    I hope this helps.

    Reasons I smoked:
    Bored
    Initially Liked the feeling, nicotine rush
    Stressed
    Socially

    None of them worth it
  • Mari1672
    Mari1672 Posts: 2 Member
    I remember a job that gave me a 15 minute break every 4 hours, but smokers got about 4-5 extra cigarette breaks on top of that within the hour. Well in order to get the same amount of breaks I decided hell I'm going to do the same thing. Yeah not so bright. It took about 4-5 months before I started coughing up green stuff during my 15 minute jogs to work. I quit the cigarrettes and the nasty coughs just disappeared. I know to stop smoking after only 5 months wasn't very difficult but the point is how quickly it starts to attack your system! That's when I realized I was paying someone to give me cancer! Needless to say I have a much better job!:) Lesson I learned: I will never pay anyone money to hurt or possibly kill me!
  • RAEQ127
    RAEQ127 Posts: 106 Member
    I never had the motivation until I moved in with my non-smoking husband. I would try an ecigarette. It really is more of a social/habit for me. As long as I was around all my friends and family who smoked I didn't want to quit. When I was the only one it began to lose it's appeal!
  • grrrlface
    grrrlface Posts: 1,204 Member
    Read Allen Carr's Easy Way To Stop Smoking. It tells you every reason WHY you should quit but it never once makes you, you have to make that decision for yourself but I guarantee you you will want to stop by the end of the book.

    I read it and I've never wanted another one since. Despite being in a house of smokers.

    There's new research to suggest that e-cigs are also quite harmful for you. If I can find a link I will post it but it's very recent. Also with their rise in popularity there's a lot of toxic stuff going round sold on the cheap so becareful where you buy if you choose that method.

    But I really do recommend the book, I smoked for 8 years and tried every other way. It really just spells it out to you why it's such an important thing to do.
  • Cella30
    Cella30 Posts: 539 Member
    Former smoker here. Smoked for 15 years, 3 years smoke free now. I hated it but couldn't stop so Chantix was my lifesaver. Please spend sometime on this website, it was a game changer for me.

    www.whyquit.com

    Best of luck!
  • cindy326
    cindy326 Posts: 70 Member
    Smoking led me here. Its my reason for getting in shape and living a more healthy life. 11months ago my husband at 40 yrs old had a stroke. Hes almost back to normal. (90%) With months of rehab thank God hes ok. Smoking wasnt the only reason but it does play a part. We have smoked and ate whatever whenever we wanted..being overweight ,smoking, not exercising, genetics led to high blood pressure which also played a part. Looking back I have to ask myself was it really worth it? NO. Does it get easier? YES. I have never felt better about myself for stopping. And losing weight at the same time. I wish you all the luck in the world that you find your reason to stop before its too late...We had the "it wont happen to me" syndrome. Everyone knows the risks of smoking..but it wont be me! Well it was us. That my friend was an eyeopener. GOOD LUCK!
  • viv0147
    viv0147 Posts: 20
    Hi I am a novice it's only been 3 wonderful weeks and 2 days since I became a non-smoker but I really have a strong motivation to never smoke again my specialist told me the fat in my blood was way to high I was a candidate for a heart attack or stroke and that smoking was a contributor to the fat in my blood I have also got diabetes 2 and because of the fat in my blood I have circulation problems especially in my legs after walking a short distance the pain becomes unbearable I am pleased to say since stopping smoking there is a definite improvement but if I continued to smoke there was a strong possibility I could lose a leg maybe both so I don't think you are in that situation but if you start smoking again there is every chance it could happen later in your life I don't want to be in a wheelchair and I am sure you don't either, so the next time you have a crave look at your legs and imagine life without them.
  • acogg
    acogg Posts: 1,870 Member
    Thank you so much for the replies. I have read each post and now have a lot to consider. The MFP community has come through in a big way! I am 52 and am very healthy according to my doctor. I think it is more difficult to quit smoking than lose weight because I can't see any results. With weight loss, I can get positive reinforcement from the scale, my clothes and the mirror. With smoking, it's all in my head. I am not smoking as much as I did two weeks ago, but I can't seem to stop completely. I have been at this two weeks and I am needing the extra push to stop cheating. Please keep the replies coming! I need each one.
  • HollisGrant
    HollisGrant Posts: 2,022 Member
    Thank you so much for the replies. I have read each post and now have a lot to consider. The MFP community has come through in a big way! I am 52 and am very healthy according to my doctor. I think it is more difficult to quit smoking than lose weight because I can't see any results. With weight loss, I can get positive reinforcement from the scale, my clothes and the mirror. With smoking, it's all in my head. I am not smoking as much as I did two weeks ago, but I can't seem to stop completely. I have been at this two weeks and I am needing the extra push to stop cheating. Please keep the replies coming! I need each one.

    Many hospitals have free stop smoking classes. A friend who smoked for 35 years did this and has quit for 5 years now.

    Years ago, I went to a 6 week program (not at a hospital -- I paid $350) and it was worth every penny. They trained me to think like a nonsmoker and see myself as someone who didn't smoke. The classes were positive and really helped. Consider this when you're ready. Call your local hospital for more info. It's one of the smartest things you can do for yourself.
  • jess6742
    jess6742 Posts: 146
    Look at the side effects of lung cancer chemo. I work with people who are getting treatment for lung cancer. Its horrible watching someone slowly waste away. Lung cancer kills more people each year than breast and colon cancer combined. Trust me you don't want to take the risk! For the sake of yourself and your loved ones.
  • Healthydiner65
    Healthydiner65 Posts: 1,579 Member
    How about a blood clot to the heart? Like you I thought I was "healthy". Stop fooling yourself.If you smoke, you're not healthy.Period!
  • aeg176
    aeg176 Posts: 171 Member
    like others have said you have to want it for yourself ...that will be the difference between temporary quitter and permanent quitter...good luck!
  • ednaroberts1978
    ednaroberts1978 Posts: 8 Member
    There are so many reasons to quit and everyone else has posted most of them. It's an expensive and deadly addiction. I have just hit one year of being smoke free 2 days ago and I feel so much better since quitting. Here's the thing, no matter what we post here the only person who can make the decision to quit is you.

    I found an awesome and very friendly forum at About.com for smoking cessation. You can talk to people who are going through the exact same problems you are, after all misery loves company and I won't lie, the first few weeks can be miserable. This forum also has a lot of articles that will help you understand nicotine addiction.

    My best advice would be to just pick a date to quit, as there is never a "good time" to quit. Life doesn't allow us this and addicts always find a reason to continue using their drug of choice. Know that all cravings will end, it may not seem like it at the moment but they all do. Keep track of the amount of money you save by not smoking and after a week, month, etc treat yourself to something nice. You'd be amazed, we took a family vacation in May thanks to my quit fund (almost 2500 at the time). Now that my husband has quit too, we're saving double that amount.

    There is also a book by Allen Carr, called the "Easy Way to Quit Smoking". Now contrary to the name of the his book, there is NO getting around the discomfort of withdrawal but it may help with the way you with how you think about smoking. I hope you check out the website even if you're not quite ready to quit, it may give you the needed push you're looking for. Good Luck, and believe me it is totally worth it!
  • harleygroomer
    harleygroomer Posts: 373 Member
    I quit 13 years ago after a VERY bad lung infection. Let's just say that the 2 weeks I spent coughing up all those years of nasty foul smelling tar from my lungs has made me NEVER pick up a ciggie since. And you would not believe how good food taste !!! If you can't put them down, take each day and smoke one less, than two less then three---you will get there, you have the drive IN you.
  • dianesheart88
    dianesheart88 Posts: 111 Member
    I smoked for 25 years... On July 27, 2011 I had my last cigarette. On July 28, 2011 I had two repairs on my heart and diagnosed with Heart Disease. It took being diagnosed with Heart Disease for me to quit... Don't let it take that to make you quit. Make the decision to care enough about yourself to quit... it's as simple as that. Good Luck!

    Oh... I am cigarette free for over 2 years now! Never touched one again.
  • Howbouto
    Howbouto Posts: 2,121 Member
    This is not about motivation to quit but about moving you closer to quitting. When I quit, I had to smoking sensation counselor tell me in the months leading up to quitting, make smoking as boring as possible. When you smoke, just smoke. No talking on the phone, no eating, no reading, go outside , stand don't sit and only think about the smoking it self. Eventually, work up to no smoking while driving. If you need a cig while driving, stop the car get out and smoke. I was amazed that when I did this how boring smoking was in and of it self. Once it is boring and not as enjoyable, it is easier to find your motivation. Good luck to you.
  • cherryd69
    cherryd69 Posts: 340
    After everything everyone has said, theres only one person who can make the choice for you.

    You wont quit until you want to quit. its as simple as that.

    You can look at all the costs, all the horrible things that may or may not happen to you, you can see what your life expectancy is, you can be told all the horrible side effects.. but if your anything like me (or any other smoker).. it wont make any difference.



    For the past 3 days, iv been using ecigs. Iv had 1 ciggy in them 3 days. I havnt quit for healthy reasons, i havnt quit for cost (iv just spent £60 on this ecig lark... so its deffo not cost) Iv decided to quit because i wanted to. Yes they still contain nicotine, but not as much, the also dont contain all the other harmful crap.


    Until you reach that point, like weight loss... you will just yoyo.
  • Bernadette60614
    Bernadette60614 Posts: 707 Member
    Our son.

    I can't say: Smoking is bad for you, it is expensive, and it will probably shorten your life and expect that he's going to take that seriously if I'm smoking.

    I switched to Nicorette gum (which I still chew on occasion) and it also got me more interested in working out and nutrition.

    I didn't think of it as quitting smoking, I thought of it as "I'm chosing not to smoke today." And, after 20 years of a pack a day, I've been smoke free for two years.
  • bonjalandoni
    bonjalandoni Posts: 136 Member
    I am a respiratory therapist and COPD is a long slow way to die. Try plugging your nose and breathing through a straw for an hour and then think about doing that 24X7. Emphysema cannot be reversed

    This! Just give it a try and imagine doing that for the rest of your life... I see patients in this condition all the time. I quit cold turkey 4 years ago after I realized THIS can be MY LIFE.
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    I am a respiratory therapist and COPD is a long slow way to die. Try plugging your nose and breathing through a straw for an hour and then think about doing that 24X7. Emphysema cannot be reversed
    I worked at a hospital, and was amazed at how many RT's smoked. WHY does someone with so much knowledge/first hand experience, still smoke?
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    ]
    I don't either. However, I got over it and quit anyhow. Nicotine patches got me through, took about 8 wks.
    That doesn't mean that even after better than 5 yrs gone by I still don't feel a pang now and then :huh:
    annnnd, I can smell a cigarette from a mile away, not unpleasant to me even now.

    Don't judge me :laugh:

    Good luck :drinker:
    Why did you quit?
  • cherryd69
    cherryd69 Posts: 340
    I am a respiratory therapist and COPD is a long slow way to die. Try plugging your nose and breathing through a straw for an hour and then think about doing that 24X7. Emphysema cannot be reversed
    I worked at a hospital, and was amazed at how many RT's smoked. WHY does someone with so much knowledge/first hand experience, still smoke?

    Simple answer is they dont believe it will happen to them.... same as other things really.
  • LaurasClimb
    LaurasClimb Posts: 211 Member
    Good morning OP, here's what did it for me...

    I have a person in my life (family member) who is a total witch (with a capital B). Loooong story...she's felt the need to compete with me my whole life. I'm not a terribly competitive person but, I guess, in a small way I can be.
    She tried to quit many times (so had I). One day I decided I was going to do it because she couldn't. And I did! It wasn't easy. I stopped cold turkey. But my motivation was being able to do what she couldn't.

    Well...I guess that was the motivation she needed, too. She also quit. So now my motivation is that I'm not going to fail at something she's succeeded in. It's been almost 9 years. I won't lie, the cravings still show up from time to time but I am not about to lose this competition!