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Self Sabotaging/Emotional Eating

sarasmiles124

I had lost 40 lbs but since I started working my third job the weight has come back on, and some. The other thing to make a resurgence is my emotional eating. When my life is stressful, which it pretty much is all the time at the moment, I eat crap. Or I will go for what is easy, not what is good for me. I self sabotage. I will look at something and want it and instead of asking if I need it, I just get it, eat it and then guilt myself after. It's a vicious cycle I've gotten into again, and I want to get out of it, so I need to figure out a better way to deal with my emotions. Any tips?

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QueenWino

Kale salad (from Simply Natural Everyday)
1/3 c ev olive oil
1 tsp sesame oil
2 Tbs tamari or soy sauce
3 1/2 cups chopped, trimmed kale (I use lacinato or Tuscan because they are local)
1 1/2 cups large flake unsweetened coconut
2 cups cooked farro (or barley or quinoa)

oven 350-coat kale and coconut in 2/3 of the oils and soy. Bake 12-18 min (till golden brown coconut)
Add it to the farro and taste to decide if you need more oil mix or not (I never do but I reserve it to freshen up leftover portions before leaving for work in the am). It is 518 cals, but the portion is huge and you feel satisfied all day. This amount is for 4. Vitamin a & c are above 100% for the day and there's a ton of potassium.

I'll get the goat cheese one to you tomorrow!

sarasmiles124

Thank you! I requested to add you as a friend. I could always use some extra people to motivate me.

amyfliesalot

Oh my gosh! I feel like you have been spying on me and reading my mind! We are totally in the same place, and I, too, have been trying to figure out why I sabotage myself. It's so dumb. I know what to do, and I have the tools to do it. I have friends and neighbors willing to walk with me. I spend a LOT of money on healthy food, and lots of time washing and cutting up veggies to be available for quick snacks. And then I eat 725 calories of cookies (the ones I brought home for the neighbor kid for mowing my yard) in one sitting. Dang it! I AM stressed, but more than that, I'm always sleep-deprived. When I look at my food diary, I can tell the days that I'm exhausted, because I eat and drink WAY too much, and not even necessarily bad stuff- just way too much. And a lot of it is late at night, when I should really already be in bed. My clutte!r problem is probably because I'm so tired, that I don't have the energy to deal with it, and now it's gotten so out of control, I get overwhelmed and don't want to deal with it. A vicious cycle

So... Let's work on going to bed when we should. And getting rid of the clutter. Maybe that will take care of the self-sabotaging. Friend me, and we'll do it together.

sarasmiles124

For me its making sure I don't take two steps forwards and two steps back. Tonight I was feeling hungry after I finished work at 12:30 am and normally, I might consider going to the 24 hour MacDonald's up the street and getting a snack wrap or going to the store and buying a big chocolate bar. Tonight, I came home and had some greek yoghurt with peach and grapefruit. I don't want this to just last for a week and revert back. I need for this to keep going and right now I feel motivated - I just don't want something to happen that will get me back to that place. Tonight I was working with a co-worker who was displaying a lot of negativity and stressing me out because I felt like she was taking shots at me because she has been getting into trouble lately and I haven't. Normally that upsets me so much but tonight I tried to let it roll of my back and realize, I do my job well and I am well liked and I don't have to justify myself, so the irritation subsided eventually.

In situations like this i wish my gym was open 24 hours lol would be a great stress relief!

Amy, thank you for adding me and i look forward to getting the support and giving you some as well! Let's do this!

softblondechick

It is hard when you work so many jobs. Been there, done that.

I come home from work, and boil 18 eggs. I peel them, and put them in a baggies. The quick protein helps me. Those are my "go to" snacks. I eat them plain, or make deviled eggs, love them drizzled with Sirracha sauce, when I want something spicy. The most important thing is to plan your food for the week, have it ready to grab, so you don't go eat fast food.

When your stuff is a mess, it is hard to focus, and I think it actually "steals" mental energy. Just do 15 minutes, a day. Set your timer, it looks overwhelming, but just fifteen minutes is a start.

I have a kettle bell, and a kettle bell app on my phone, it is a quick exercise...might help you out. I like it, because it. Is fun, quick, and easy.

Good luck. We have all been there, on giving up on our selves...and at your age, this is very existential, if you give up now, at age 50, the depression will hit you like a rock, that you blew your entire life, for a few twinkies at age 31, Think about who you want to be at age 50.

sarasmiles124

I don't want to spend all of my thirties feeling like I did in my twenties- overweight, miserable and hiding behind a wall not wanting to let anyone in. I want to take chances, I want to meet new people and I want to bust out of this funk I am in. I had a male co-worker once who stated that I judge myself as unworthy of people getting to know before I let them decide. He stated I need to let people get to know me and let them make their own decision on whether i am worth getting to know and if they don't see that I am worth getting to know it is their issue, not mine. He was right and I lost sight of this until I started thinking about it just now.

I can't seem to look at myself the way others look at me. My clients think the world of me and always try and make me smile and tell me I am pretty. I just beat myself up when I see myself in a mirror, judging myself on the outside instead of what is for inside. It's a vicious cycle.