Children: Why are people having 4+??

merechai
merechai Posts: 7 Member
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I'm not married and I don't have children, but my boyfriend and I live in a very populated city where people feel the need to have 5, 6, 7+ kids. These families don't appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs. We are wondering WHY?! Why do people feel the need to procreate beyond 2 or 3 children? I can understand 2 for sure and even 3, 4 seems a little crazy to me, but any more - that's insane and seems so unnecessary!
Anyone who has reasons for having 4+ kids, please let me know why! And if anyone else has some opinions, I'd love to hear them!
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  • mister_universe
    mister_universe Posts: 6,664 Member
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    edit: oh, and Judgey McJudgmentpants: 1
  • LuckyMunky
    LuckyMunky Posts: 200 Member
    Birth control failure, religion, love of children, etc. are all valid reasons why people have large families. I'm not surprised you don't really "get it" considering you don't have any children yourself and know just how much joy and happiness they can bring. Perhaps their parents are lonely or unhappy and want that unconditional love that a child (or many children) bring.

    The bottom line though is that it's none of your business. Pay attention to what's happening in your own womb and forget about somebody else.
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    The house ain't gonna keep itself clean.
  • Melsy7
    Melsy7 Posts: 30
    Here's an actual serious response to the question. In my sister in law's case, they apparently only figured out how to plan the 3rd child. #s 1, 2, and 4 were all accidental. 3rd time's the charm?
  • chubby_checkers
    chubby_checkers Posts: 2,352 Member
    The house ain't gonna keep itself clean.

    Plus, I hate yardwork.
  • countryclowgirl
    countryclowgirl Posts: 31 Member
    I have four. I have one full blood sister, 3 younger step brother, 1 older step-sister and 1 older step-brother.
    After living with so many siblings I wanted that for my kids so thinking and talking it of with hubby we decided on 4. I believe it is the girl voice (and God) to choice how many kids she going to have.
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    The house ain't gonna keep itself clean.


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  • MrsBobaFett
    MrsBobaFett Posts: 802 Member
    *fiscally* My eyes!!! They burrrrrrrrrn!
  • kaligrl1
    kaligrl1 Posts: 54
    I have 6 kids, my husband has twins and I have four children from my first marriage. We are financially stable and are able to meet our needs and our children’s needs. We are definitely not rich but we are not on government assistance. I think many families are blended now and a lot of women have taken places of “dead beat dads" there are tons of "dead beat moms" and the numbers of women who aren’t raising there own children continues to grow. I am an investigator and see these women who can care less about their children and care more about random men and drugs.
  • crazyeaCHANGED
    crazyeaCHANGED Posts: 84
    For some people having family is more important that a fancy car, fancy clothes, etc. Different people have different priorities. We had our first 3 when we were quite young (I was 22 for the first). Then all 3 were in school and we fealt like having another. And after that another, I guess to balance the 4th out.......

    They have clothes on their back, food in their bellies, and a mother AND father that love them. I spend a lot of time with them, coach 4 in soccer.

    Maybe 5 is a lot, but I couldnt imagine my life without any of them.

    I could see this question though. Why have so many and then neglect them. That would be a totally different story.
  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    too many bedrooms in the house. dont let em go to waste!

    also, welcome to mfp.
  • cleotherio
    cleotherio Posts: 712 Member
    I'm not married and I don't have children, but

    Stopped reading after this.
  • K_Serz
    K_Serz Posts: 1,299 Member
    Clown Car Pic

    Was thinking the same thing! :flowerforyou:
  • crazyeaCHANGED
    crazyeaCHANGED Posts: 84
    The house ain't gonna keep itself clean.

    Funny, and true to a point, but it's usually the kids messing it up..haha.
  • ShreddedTweet
    ShreddedTweet Posts: 1,326 Member
    I take it you come from a small family or are an only child? My parents had 7 kids, they are University lecturers, they're not morons. Having a big family is wonderful and serious craic and we had a great childhood and a home filled with laughter and love. It's great to have many people to rely on and that you can go to when you need a chat or a hug.

    I don't think you should have any kids, you're obviously a bit of a judgey-holier-than-thou person. Doesn't sound fun to me.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    The house ain't gonna keep itself clean.

    Ha!!!!
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
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  • skullshank
    skullshank Posts: 4,323 Member
    OUR GOV'T KEEPS GIVING THEM FREE ****....

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    :laugh:
  • K_Serz
    K_Serz Posts: 1,299 Member
    I'm not married and I don't have children, but my boyfriend and I live in a very populated city where people feel the need to have 5, 6, 7+ kids. These families don't appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs. We are wondering WHY?! Why do people feel the need to procreate beyond 2 or 3 children? I can understand 2 for sure and even 3, 4 seems a little crazy to me, but any more - that's insane and seems so unnecessary!
    Anyone who has reasons for having 4+ kids, please let me know why! And if anyone else has some opinions, I'd love to hear them!

    Here's an idea. Go on outside to your very overpopulated city and start asking some of these fine citizens who dont appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs all of the questions you just asked. Let us all know how that works out for ya. We are all eagerly awaiting your report.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Beats me.... it doesn't bother me, IF they can afford to take care of them. What I hate are the ones who keep having children they can't provide for, and getting more and more welfare with each additional child. When we (being D.I.N.K.'s) get screwed over every year at tax time, and hear of people who can't even keep a job, but are getting huge "refunds" because of all their kids, it really pisses me off :grumble:

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  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    Perhaps when they had the children they were able to fiscally provide for their family and they have fallen on hard times.

    Perhaps they participate in a religion that does not believe in birth control.

    Perhaps they cannot afford birth control.

    Perhaps the birth control they used failed.

    Perhaps they are a blended family.

    Perhaps they really love their children more than material things.

    Perhaps they don't want to conform to what some strangers think is normal and don't care what others consider crazy.
  • da_bears10089
    da_bears10089 Posts: 1,791 Member
    Maybe they just like getting busy a lot?

    ETA: My parents planned on having 3 and being done, and then OOOOOPS my sister came along, and then 6 years later, double oops i came along.
  • coolraul07
    coolraul07 Posts: 1,606 Member
    The house ain't gonna keep itself clean.

    Plus, I hate yardwork.

    Damn shame about the 'grace period' where they aren't old enough to do sh1t for themselves.
  • nomeejerome
    nomeejerome Posts: 2,616 Member
    A person who does not have any kids is wondering why other people have so many kids? Hmmmmm
  • Fiercely_Me
    Fiercely_Me Posts: 481 Member
    I'm not married and I don't have children, but my boyfriend and I live in a very populated city where people feel the need to have 5, 6, 7+ kids. These families don't appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs. We are wondering WHY?! Why do people feel the need to procreate beyond 2 or 3 children? I can understand 2 for sure and even 3, 4 seems a little crazy to me, but any more - that's insane and seems so unnecessary!
    Anyone who has reasons for having 4+ kids, please let me know why! And if anyone else has some opinions, I'd love to hear them!

    Here's an idea. Go on outside to your very overpopulated city and start asking some of these fine citizens who dont appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs all of the questions you just asked. Let us all know how that works out for ya. We are all eagerly awaiting your report.

    Yes, please do.
  • duckiec
    duckiec Posts: 241 Member
    Oh, I didn't realize that other people got to decide what or WHO was unnecessary when it has nothing at all to do with them. Wait, they don't!

    Lots of reasons, but none that really concern anybody else. I assume you were just curious, and came here (?) to ask, but it's a pretty insulting question to have people (strangers on the interwebs) justify their decisions, or speculate on the priorities of others. Likewise, I'm not trying to be insulting or mean back, but putting it out there. Hey, but the clown-car pic was funny so there's that. ;)
  • Mustang_Susie
    Mustang_Susie Posts: 7,045 Member
    How much money is enough?
    What exactly are their needs?
    What are your standards?
    Should they be some one else's standards?
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    How else do you create loyal armies for world domination?
  • brittyandian
    brittyandian Posts: 241 Member
    I'm not married and I don't have children, but my boyfriend and I live in a very populated city where people feel the need to have 5, 6, 7+ kids. These families don't appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs. We are wondering WHY?! Why do people feel the need to procreate beyond 2 or 3 children? I can understand 2 for sure and even 3, 4 seems a little crazy to me, but any more - that's insane and seems so unnecessary!
    Anyone who has reasons for having 4+ kids, please let me know why! And if anyone else has some opinions, I'd love to hear them!

    Here's an idea. Go on outside to your very overpopulated city and start asking some of these fine citizens who dont appear to have the means to fiscally be able to meet their children's needs all of the questions you just asked. Let us all know how that works out for ya. We are all eagerly awaiting your report.

    Yes, please do.


    THIS. I only have 3 kiddos, but my 2 little ones are both under the age of two so people look at me funny sometimes, but no one has ever asked me why I have so many kids; that wouldnt be good for them! Also my sister has 5. All are taken care of, happy, and healthy. Mind ya damn business and enjoy your child free life
  • TribeHokie
    TribeHokie Posts: 711 Member
    I'm not married and I don't have children, but I have every intention of having at least 3, probably 4, and if a 5th sneaks in then hey, more kids to support me in my old age! Seriously though, I grew up with one sibling and he is awesome, but I wish we had had more brothers and sisters. My parents also have told us several times in the past few years that they wish they had had a third or maybe even fourth but it didn't make financial sense for them at the time. I guess being responsible doesn't necessarily also mean you are satisfied. My brother now has 2 kids and he and his wife are likely to start trying for a 3rd soon. The SIL also grew up with one sibling and SHE also wants 4 or 5 kids.

    Also to reiterate what most responses are saying, why do you care?
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