After 65 lb weight loss.. NOW being called fat?
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First of all, you look AMAZING. Don't listen to those girls. People can be so stupid sometimes. I just started my "healthy, better life" today, so if you want to pass on any secrets, I'm all ears!
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wow. i mean...just WOW. you totally got hit with *kitten* wagon there.
people suck. they suck all the time, and out in the open and everything. they are stupid, moronic, hurtful, ignorant d*ckbags who should learn to keep their stupid, moronic, ignorant d*ckbag mouths shut.
they won't, though. they'll keep saying mean, stupid, hurtful things...if not to you, then to other people. The best you can do is to realize that they have soul cancer, and go say something nice and wonderful to someone else. Balance out their negative vibes with your own positive ones and do your best to not let them get to you.
i know it hurts, but i think that you are ADORABLE.
Every. Single. Word. of this. All of it. You are ADORABLE. And people are *kitten*; they think they can say anything to somebody who's overweight and it's okay. Girl, I have lived this my whole life. My cousin just wrote a blog post about this very thing.
You are doing amazing things for yourself: body, mind and soul. Please don't let comments of cruel people derail you.0 -
ur doing great and dont listen to those kind of people. just keep pushing0
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So here is the thing. When you are too large to shop in most normal stores people see you as past the point of no return. Most people at that size will not make the changes necessary to lose the weight and they know they are fat so no one will say anything.
Women who are that catty are insecure and want to tear down *any* potential competition to make themselves feel better. It is possible they come from the land where a size 6 is fat.
The reality is they *do not* know where YOU have been. YOU have made that change and done the journey. You look good and healthy in the posted picture. Ignore those insecure little girls and be proud of what you have accomplished!0 -
Never listen to those inner demons. OR to rude girly girls who don't know where their head is located. You have to make up your mind to go your own path and not listen to others. I too had a lady ask when I was due---I told her I was due the day she got some manners!! She walked off and had the good grace to look embarrassed as she SHOULD BE. You will always see an hear petty people, but look at it this way--you can change YOU but those girls can't change their stupidity level.0
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I don't understand it either cuz girl, you are looking awesome!! ignore ignorant people and focus on the great job you're doing because its paying off! I think you are looking amazing and beautiful!! keep it up and good luck on your journey!! :flowerforyou:0
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Oh my gosh, I cannot believe those girls at the gym said those things to you! This has activated my angry mother lion side, and I'm just furious for you. My highest weight was 260 on the nose and I've NEVER gotten any comments from strangers about my weight. Children, yes, but that's why I generally avoid children. They've not been taught to have a filter yet and say incredibly hurtful things because they don't know any better.
Just looking at the two pictures you posted, you're looking absolutely WONDERFUL, and even though you've had a bit of a backslide, I'm sure you still look great.
If you cancelled your membership (which I hope you haven't because getting back on that horse and showing it who's boss might be a cathartic moment for you) I hope you told them why you left - because two of their other clients were so incredibly rude to you that you felt unwelcome and humiliated, and it discouraged you from your personal fitness goals and demotivated you. They should know that this happened in their gym so that they can stop it. That's unacceptable and if I were you, I would've wanted to backhand those girls so hard when they woke up their clothes would be out of style. How dare they say those things to you? I'm angry just thinking about it! They should have been applauding you and cheering you on because it's HARD to show up to a gym being one of the biggest people there and to have the courage to work your *kitten* off. When I see someone at the gym who's bigger than I am, I always secretly want to go over and tell them that they're doing great and tell them they're an inspiration, because that's what they are.
If you haven't cancelled your membership, I hope you go back and get back on that treadmill and keep working your butt off because you've come so far, and you deserve to be there just as much as anyone else. If those girls say anything to you again, this is what I would've said "How do I do it? I show up every chance I get and work to build my endurance. I've done very, very well. Can I ask you a question, now? How do you manage to fit so much arrogance into such a tiny frame? Does it come naturally, or did you have to work at it? Do you still have trouble keeping it all in there? I assume you must've removed your sense of tact and decency in order to fit it all in. I was just wondering because I'm impressed; it seems to be oozing out of every orifice." Her comment was obviously meant to demean you, and I wish you'd have just thrown it right back at her because she's the one who deserved to be criticized and humiliated. Her behaviour was nasty and rude, and she should've been called on it.
You've come a long way, and you don't deserve those comments. I hope things improve for you. Please don't let cra**y people discourage you from charging forward and accomplishing your goal. You're doing great, keep it up.0 -
Anyone who would make fun of a person trying to make a healthy lifestyle change obviously has issues. In general, I just don't like mean spirited behavior.
It is one thing to suggest something nutritionally or workout routine wise, in a kind matter, if you are asked for suggestions, or to hold someone accountable if they make a ("you're so skinny and perfect. You must not eat/ it's great that you can eat anything you want" statement - I will tell a person that I work very hard for my body and if they wanted it, they could do the same and that I'd be more than willing to give them pointers to start out with), but to see someone at the gym and comment on that person's appearance as they are putting in the effort? That is horrible. We should all be supporting and cheering each other along in the fight to stay healthy.
The child, you can not blame. Kids have no filter and their parents need to take responsibility for teaching them what is right and wrong. The person at work should be reported to HR and you should pity the girls at the gym, as they must have some really horrible insecurities of their own, to pick on a stranger who is trying to get healthy.
Do not let a few sh*tty people be an excuse for failure. Push through, listen only to how you feel physically and the good motivation around you, and work at accomplishing your goals.
We all get something.... I get told that my legs are too big and that I should stop lifting before I look like a man. I am also told that I should never wear my hair in its natural state by about half the people I encounter. I still lift weights and wear my hair curly.
Just ignore mean spirited people and keep going. You are doing this for yourself, not for other people, so if it makes you happy to be on the way to being a fitter, healthier person, focus on that and keep going.
Good job on your progress so far!!!!0 -
There is one thing I have learn, that never let what others think of me bother me...................I am proud of you for loosing all this weight and knowing you want to be healthy. But you got to be strong emotionally. Don't let others control what you do and don't do, of feel what you should not feel. Lift your head up high and walk back to the gym and continue to do what you have been doing that made you loose 65 lbs. There are evil people in this world and they only wants to see others stay in the rut. But don't let them win.......you already prove you are a winner.........and you are winning. You have lost 65 pounds....this is huge, very huge. So build a strong mind............a mind that is not going to listen to what others say...........u are going to use the negative things that they say as energy to burn off that fat. Keep on working out and keep on eating clean. Don't stop, you are stronger than you think. People who take time to insult you to make you feel bad about yourself, it only reflects how they think of themselves. They are worthless and they got nothing on you. Because having a great body with an evil heart and mind is very ugly. So my dear you got to get back to that gym and workout like your life depends on it and continue your journey and next time they walk up to you, scream out loud what they are saying to you, and scream out someone call the police this ladies are bullying me telling me i am fat. Shame them infront of others. STOP THEM IN THEIR TRACKS........because i am sure they are doing that to others who have never return to that gym or gave up on their goals. Be the first person to stand up to them. I am sure people will come to your rescue. Don't let this ugly people win. I wish you good vibration and positive emotions in continuing your goals....Go get them. Go back and workout...Don't be afraid and don't be ashame.0
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Please do not let other people control you. You determine if you are going to succeed or not. I know it is easier to say than do, but you have to do this for you no matter what anyone else says or feels. My heart hurts for you that you had to experience this type of behavior but know this....karma is a b*tch. Those two little assh*les will pay in the end for saying such horrible things to you. Use this as motivation if nothing else. You are strong, you are getting fit and you can do anything! In the meantime.....if you get a bad vibe at that gym, go somewhere else. Let the owner at the gym know what was said and why you are leaving that establishment .....nobody should be subjected to that crap!
You have come too far to let two little twats get you down!!!!0 -
Good job on your weight loss. My wife and I started our weight loss journey 19 months ago. I was 317 and my wife was so big that she had to be weighed on a feed scale.405 at one point. She is down to 188 and 196 myself. It has taken lots of willpower and exercise everyday.Don't let anyone stop you from reaching your goals.Keep up the good work as your body will thank you for it!:happy:0
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It's why I wont go to gyms. I live in a suburb of Dallas. The area I live in is near a ultra-rich area (I'm nowhere near that! LOL) but all the gyms have these gorgeous trophy-wives and rich-men-hunters. And they are so mean.
I have a friend who swears they do it to keep the "rif raf" out of their clubs-- so that it's only full of pretty people.
I dunno. But I have better things to do than surround myself with that negativity and evil mentality.0 -
You did such a good job! Those girls were *****es. Plain and simple. Prepare some super rude answer in case it happens again, and show the world how consistency works!
Congrats on your efforts so far, your pic shows a huge difference!0 -
Hey everyone! I'm Stephanie. I'm 26, and just recently got back on MFP. I was doing a great job.. really kicking *kitten* at losing weight. I lost 65 lbs in about 6 months, and was not slowing down. I love exercising, I love eating well.. just love the way it makes me feel!
So whats the problem you might ask? Well, shortly after I reached my 65 lb mark of my weight loss, I was at the gym running on the treadmill... was at about a mile and a half, when I looked over and seen a couple of girls looking at me and laughing. I tried to push it out of my mind, telling myself that they weren't laughing at me.. it was just my insecurities getting the best of me. Well, when I was done, I went to the trash to throw away something and they came up to me. the one girl said 'hey.. no offense, but we were wondering how you do it?' I asked do what? and the other girl (while the first one started to laugh) said 'well, you're really, really big... dont you wanna pass out or something?'
I was devastated. I just turned around and walked out.. I never did go back.
Since then (about 7 months ago), I have very slowly gained 10 lbs back. I have also had 2 people ask me when I was expecting, a child ask me why I was so fat, another child tell me nobody wants to see my fat body in a bathing suit (which is why i do not own one), and someone at work tell me not to sit in a chair in case it broke. My best friend also is big, and she always says shes happy she has a fat friend because all her other ones are skinny, pretty and perfect.
I dont understand... I NEVER got anything said about my weight when I was 330+ lbs, now that I'm 275 I'm hearing it all the time. I know it should motivate me to keep going, but its like ok.. ive come so far, now what? NOW I get called fat? Its killing me.
has anyone else experienced anything like this before? I dont know what to do... I feel like its pointless to continue.
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You look so amazing, seriously!! Don't let others bring you down! People are ignorant...mostly b/c they're uneducated/inexperienced. Those girls were just ignorant f**ks and it really makes me mad they did this. 10 lbs is not a big deal..I'm sure 5 of that is water weight! Please don't let them ruin this for you. And let me say, I used to be skinny, like 140 at 5'7 and ppl asked me if I was pregnant a few times! It happens. We just have to brush it off and go on our merry ways. Stomach fat is the hardest to get rid of some ignorant ppl just can't help themselves but ask us females that time to time...and I've seen it happen to a handful of others too!!
I think you're hearing all these "fat" comments b/c you are skinnier now. At 330 people may have felt more sympathetic where at 275 ppl feel you're maybe skinny-fat?! Not meaning to offend you with the "skinny-fat," hell I'm there too, just trying to explain with lack of proper words...
You know what I say?! Use all these negative comments to fuel your workouts! Nothing works better for me than stress/grievance/irritability!
) Please don't let these ppl ruin the new you. I was called fat when I was skinny 10+ yrs ago. I may have been 5-10 lbs overweight! People are just rude!
Just focus on how much better you feel now that you're 55 lbs lighter and how much better you'll continue feeling as you lose more. And, I know when you're on a regular workout routine and eating better you feel happy. I know this b/c this is where I am at. Good luck!!! Just focus on you.0 -
Oh my GOD I can't believe they were so horrible to you
I am so sorry to hear that, if you were hear I would offer you a cup of tea and we could sit and watch a funny film Keep at it you are doing an AMAZING job, not only are you incredibly determined and gorgeous but you have a lovely mind too Ignore them, you're awesome 0 -
Stephanie, if you have the strength and determination to stay on track for 6 months and lose 65 pounds - a tremendous accomplishment - then why are you giving your power away to people who don't matter? You're not doing this for them; you're doing it for YOU. Focus on the positive in your life, and derive your energy from your success. Look at what you have achieved so far! In your wildest dreams when you started your journey, could you have ever imagined you'd be where you are now? Probably not, but yet here you are. YOU. YOU did it. Nobody else. Nothing any mean girls, thoughtless people or rude children say or do can take that power away from you, unless you choose to let it go. So, take your power back from negative strangers (who don't matter at all) and and refocus it on yourself, your positive achievements and motivate yourself to pursue your goal!0
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keep up the work and F everyone else. Do it for you.
A friend of mine when through the same thing. He was 450lbs to start, he lost 100 lbs. So those of us that knew him were amazed! But, to everyone else, he was stil a 350lb person so to them he was still overweight and would still make comments and snide remarks. It takes time but you have to learn to tune them out or even better, get some good comebacks.
Either way you do it, walk with pride on your accomplishments and keep working for YOUR goals.0 -
Screw them...how dare they! You keep at it girl, you are beautiful inside and out! Don't ever let anyone take your spirit! You should be proud of your accomplishments. You look great!!0
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I say #$^* those people and just keep doing what you were doing and losing. You have made a HUGE jump from your before to after pics in your profile. Just imagine 6 more months if you lose another 30 or so pounds how much better you will look and feel. Some people are just @%^ holes and need to be ignored, sounds like you have met a few of them.0
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You have come too far to let two little twats get you down!!!!
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I love it! My thoughts exactly! Wenches!0 -
wow! i never expected to get so many amazing people responding to this post! Thank you so much everyone. I have read every one of the posts and have been bawling my eyes out the whole time. lol! Its AMAZING to see so many people behind me, and to see so many encouraging words. Thank you. This is exactly what I needed. You all have helped so much, some have given me a hardy smack of reality in the face... THANK YOU!
some questions answered...
gym i went to: planet fitness
the girls were being mean about it... they were laughing and said it in a mocking tone.
no, i havent continued my diet since, not really.. and havent really exercised. I like healthy things though, so my choices are better than they once were, so thats why i have only gained 10 lbs in the past 7 months.
thank you again everyone... you are so amazing.0 -
wow! i never expected to get so many amazing people responding to this post! Thank you so much everyone. I have read every one of the posts and have been bawling my eyes out the whole time. lol! Its AMAZING to see so many people behind me, and to see so many encouraging words. Thank you. This is exactly what I needed. You all have helped so much, some have given me a hardy smack of reality in the face... THANK YOU!
some questions answered...
gym i went to: planet fitness
the girls were being mean about it... they were laughing and said it in a mocking tone.
no, i havent continued my diet since, not really.. and havent really exercised. I like healthy things though, so my choices are better than they once were, so thats why i have only gained 10 lbs in the past 7 months.
thank you again everyone... you are so amazing.
YOU are amazing. Keep it up. I thought that at PF no lunkheads were allowed??
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I am 265 ish and i dont look half as good as you...keep up the good work0
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I had practically the same thing happen last week. Two uppity little things looked, laughed and then one said to the other (in an uppity, sing-song voice) " I don't think it's woooooorrrr - kkkkking" with a wink and nudge to the other.
I was THIS close to heaving a barbell at them .... or dissolving into tears ... or walking out ... or walking out and driving to the nearest Taco Bell.
All those things hurt ME though (except the barbell - pretty sure that would have hurt them), so instead, I took a drink, mopped off my beet-red face to make sure that no tears had escaped and replied "Actually, I've lost more than 100 pounds so it is working. I'm sorry it's not working fast enough to spare your delicate eyes from the disgusting sight of my fatness, so I'll just suggest you check back in another couple months"
Then I stopped. Didn't say another word. And stared.
They left
So keep your head up!0 -
I had practically the same thing happen last week. Two uppity little things looked, laughed and then one said to the other (in an uppity, sing-song voice) " I don't think it's woooooorrrr - kkkkking" with a wink and nudge to the other.
I was THIS close to heaving a barbell at them .... or dissolving into tears ... or walking out ... or walking out and driving to the nearest Taco Bell.
All those things hurt ME though (except the barbell - pretty sure that would have hurt them), so instead, I took a drink, mopped off my beet-red face to make sure that no tears had escaped and replied "Actually, I've lost more than 100 pounds so it is working. I'm sorry it's not working fast enough to spare your delicate eyes from the disgusting sight of my fatness, so I'll just suggest you check back in another couple months"
Then I stopped. Didn't say another word. And stared.
They left
So keep your head up!
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I've heard stuff like that all my life. It's easy to say "ignore" it, but much harder to do. It hurts. You shouldn't quit exercising and losing weight, but there is no reason to put up with people being rude either.
My husband is also very large and he lived in Japan for awhile. One day when he was at a restaurant he heard a couple of teenage girls laughing and talking about how fat he was (in Japanese, they probably assumed he didn't understand.) As he left he passed their table and said in perfect Japanese: "I may be fat, but at least I am not rude." They were quite embarrassed.0 -
I had practically the same thing happen last week. Two uppity little things looked, laughed and then one said to the other (in an uppity, sing-song voice) " I don't think it's woooooorrrr - kkkkking" with a wink and nudge to the other.
I was THIS close to heaving a barbell at them .... or dissolving into tears ... or walking out ... or walking out and driving to the nearest Taco Bell.
All those things hurt ME though (except the barbell - pretty sure that would have hurt them), so instead, I took a drink, mopped off my beet-red face to make sure that no tears had escaped and replied "Actually, I've lost more than 100 pounds so it is working. I'm sorry it's not working fast enough to spare your delicate eyes from the disgusting sight of my fatness, so I'll just suggest you check back in another couple months"
Then I stopped. Didn't say another word. And stared.
They left
So keep your head up!
Best. Comeback. EVER. Good on you!0 -
It's not pointless and please try and ignore the haters. I know it's hard because they say such hurtful things, some without even realizing it. But sometimes people need to insult others in order to feel good about themselves. It's them, not you.
Please go back and look at your happy smiling face in your profile picture. THAT is why you are doing this and that is why you can get back up and keep going every time someone says something insensitive. Because you do this for yourself and how it makes you feel, not to comply with what others think.
Hang in there!0 -
You've already had some great advice, so I hope you can take it to heart. This is what I'll add:
I know how hard it is to ignore those comments. The fact that you're posting here means they really hurt you. It's okay to feel that. And as for using it as motivation, if you can, by all means! But if you can't (that kind of motivation never works for me), that's okay too. But here's the thing: those girls, those kids, those ___ don't matter.
They aren't people you love. They aren't people you look up to. They aren't even people you'd like to be friends with. So beyond how hurtful their words are, they don't matter. Their opinion has no greater meaning to your life. Sure, words hurt. But they're just words.
And as you've heard throughout this thread, for every one person who says something nasty to you, dozens are cheering for you. Applauding your commitment and your accomplishments. I'm one of them. So don't quit! Don't give those women or your coworkers or anyone the power to derail this amazing thing you're doing for yourself.0 -
I had practically the same thing happen last week. Two uppity little things looked, laughed and then one said to the other (in an uppity, sing-song voice) " I don't think it's woooooorrrr - kkkkking" with a wink and nudge to the other.
I was THIS close to heaving a barbell at them .... or dissolving into tears ... or walking out ... or walking out and driving to the nearest Taco Bell.
All those things hurt ME though (except the barbell - pretty sure that would have hurt them), so instead, I took a drink, mopped off my beet-red face to make sure that no tears had escaped and replied "Actually, I've lost more than 100 pounds so it is working. I'm sorry it's not working fast enough to spare your delicate eyes from the disgusting sight of my fatness, so I'll just suggest you check back in another couple months"
Then I stopped. Didn't say another word. And stared.
They left
So keep your head up!
Awesome. I am certain that the next time either one of them think about saying something snarky about someone else, they will remember this moment. It might not stop them from speaking, but it just might.0
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