Why men never get compliments?

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  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    disagree, we are all over men
  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
    Hi

    I noticed that women get a lot more compliments than men. Why is this?
    Two reasons....

    Boobs
  • toutmonpossible
    toutmonpossible Posts: 1,580 Member
    I give compliments to men. But I have to be careful not to be misinterpreted. I think the main reason men don't get compliments (if this is even true) is that too many men would assume a woman was coming on to him.

    In addition, some men think it's their right to appraise women of their attractiveness. Women aren't socialized to judge men quite so overtly.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    'Why oh why must it be like that.... why must I chase the cat...'
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    In my experience, there were guys I've complimented who took it the wrong way and thought I was interested in them or flirting with them when i was just being nice. So I tend to be careful who I compliment.

    ^^THIS!! Exactly correct....guys think if a woman compliments them, that they are automatically interested in them. That's just not always the case. Sometimes it's just our way of noticing that you put an effort into your appearance and we think you look nice. Now it still depends on the way the compliment is delivered. If a woman says "Oh my God you are so f*cking sexy then yes she may be wanting more lol.

    This actually goes both ways. I have had more than one occasion where I have approached someone, and said, "Hey! Your hair looks great!" or "You have the most striking eyes" or even , "Hey. I can see all your hard work is paying off you are making great improvements." only to have "I'm married" or "I have a boyfriend" thrown back in my face. When I was younger, I would say something to the effect of, "and what does that have to do with anything? I'm not trying to get in your pants. Just making an observsation." Now I just roll my eyes and laugh if that happens.
  • JUDDDing
    JUDDDing Posts: 1,367 Member
    Try bringing a woman along with you.

    My wife seems to collect all of my compliments on my behalf after I leave the room.

    Maybe it's a girl respect thing - no idea.

    It normally goes like:

    Her: Becky said you looked great, she didn't even recognize you!
    Me: So, Becky thought it was some strange guy kissing you and didn't say anything? Does this happen a lot? ;)
  • Melissa22G
    Melissa22G Posts: 847 Member
    Guy wonders why men never get compliments....

    ......believes thread was created to receive compliments.

    Result-OP thinks like a girl.
  • Melissa22G
    Melissa22G Posts: 847 Member
    'Why oh why must it be like that.... why must I chase the cat...'

    :heart:
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    I try to avoid complimenting the BF too much his already too confident and it just causes his head to swell more.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Meh, it happens from time to time.
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
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  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    I just make up for it by complimenting myself all the time.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Because most men are betas and have this weird misconception that women are better than them so they worship them and shower them with undeserved attention.

    smart man now just change that from weird misconception to right idea and much deserved attention and you'll be the belle of the ball
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I compliment people for their obvious hard work - male or female. Not so much on looks, though.
  • EatClean_WashUrNuts
    EatClean_WashUrNuts Posts: 1,590 Member
    You apparently aren't worthy.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Why you no luv me?

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  • dirty_dirty_eater
    dirty_dirty_eater Posts: 574 Member
    The voices in my head say I'm freaky hot.
    That's good enough for me.
  • CaliforniaBarbie
    CaliforniaBarbie Posts: 346 Member
    Whiteknights bro......whiteknights ruining it for all of us.

    true that. i mean if you dont show up on a white stallion you just ruined your chances
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    Why you no luv me?

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    I love you Cliff.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    So, what you're saying is YOU don't get compliments? I'm sorry. :flowerforyou:
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    because men are creepy?

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  • capnrus789
    capnrus789 Posts: 2,736 Member
    What a woman says to a man:
    "Hey, you like great, I really like your legs."

    What a guy hears:
    "I want you to bang me like there's no tomorrow."
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    I compliment men, not because I want to bang them, just to make them feel self conscious and vulnerable.
  • Mother_Superior
    Mother_Superior Posts: 1,624 Member
    I get loads.


    And sometimes I get compliments too.
  • jenjencin78
    jenjencin78 Posts: 4,415 Member
    I only compliment the ones I want to bang. So....yeah.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Whiteknights bro......whiteknights ruining it for all of us.

    true that. i mean if you dont show up on a white stallion you just ruined your chances

    Then stop whining and buy a damn horse.
  • sassyann45
    sassyann45 Posts: 51 Member
    I was reading all the comments and it got me to thinking about when I was +65 pounds. I rarely received a compliment on my looks. I was always told your sweet, nice kind etc. Now that I am 5 sizes smaller I receive all kinds of complements from men and women alike. I even have had a few guys check me out...the first time that happened I thought there was something wrong with what I was wearing.

    So, when I get a chance a always try to compliment male or female because it is a huge encouragement when one is trying to lose weight or staying in shape.

    Now don't get me wrong there are lot of hot, good looking, sexy muscular men on here and I rarely say anything because one I am
    afraid they will get the wrong impression and I lack the confidence that they would want to hear a compliment from me.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    well if we want to generalize over a whole population... lets have at er...

    Many women feel an intense pressure to live up to an ideal that is unattainable. We think we need to have a perfect body, home, job, etc. The social expectations on us are huge, and most cannot live up to it. So we struggle with self esteem issues.

    In order to feel better about ourselves, we look to others to build us up with kind words, and we often reach out to others to help build them up too. Women complimenting women is common - and very easy to do. Women complimenting men is often perceived as a hit on, either by other women or by the men themselves.

    On a site like this, where you have a lot of women complimenting men who don't typically get complimented in real life, there is no real back lash for being complimentary to the opposite sex, but you also end up seeing a lot more emotional relationships developing in people who have outside commitments.

    Men often don't compliment men because it's often not perceived as a "manly" thing to do. Men often compliment women because we crave the confirmation that we're good enough, and because it's a great way to open a relationship.

    Is that generalized, sweeping, and broad enough to insult a few people?
    ;)
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    well if we want to generalize over a whole population... lets have at er...

    Many women feel an intense pressure to live up to an ideal that is unattainable. We think we need to have a perfect body, home, job, etc. The social expectations on us are huge, and most cannot live up to it. So we struggle with self esteem issues.

    In order to feel better about ourselves, we look to others to build us up with kind words, and we often reach out to others to help build them up too. Women complimenting women is common - and very easy to do. Women complimenting men is often perceived as a hit on, either by other women or by the men themselves.

    On a site like this, where you have a lot of women complimenting men who don't typically get complimented in real life, there is no real back lash for being complimentary to the opposite sex, but you also end up seeing a lot more emotional relationships developing in people who have outside commitments.

    Men often don't compliment men because it's often not perceived as a "manly" thing to do. Men often compliment women because we crave the confirmation that we're good enough, and because it's a great way to open a relationship.

    Is that generalized, sweeping, and broad enough to insult a few people?
    ;)

    i like you.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    well if we want to generalize over a whole population... lets have at er...

    Many women feel an intense pressure to live up to an ideal that is unattainable. We think we need to have a perfect body, home, job, etc. The social expectations on us are huge, and most cannot live up to it. So we struggle with self esteem issues.

    In order to feel better about ourselves, we look to others to build us up with kind words, and we often reach out to others to help build them up too. Women complimenting women is common - and very easy to do. Women complimenting men is often perceived as a hit on, either by other women or by the men themselves.

    On a site like this, where you have a lot of women complimenting men who don't typically get complimented in real life, there is no real back lash for being complimentary to the opposite sex, but you also end up seeing a lot more emotional relationships developing in people who have outside commitments.

    Men often don't compliment men because it's often not perceived as a "manly" thing to do. Men often compliment women because we crave the confirmation that we're good enough, and because it's a great way to open a relationship.

    Is that generalized, sweeping, and broad enough to insult a few people?
    ;)

    i like you.

    awe shucks :blushing:

    I'd say something nice back, but I don't think I'm supposed to compliment men :laugh:

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