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Freak of nature and other backhanded compliments..,
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"You look great! You were definitely getting chubby before."
Duh, I know. Couldn't have stopped after "you look great"? :grumble:
GAH I have gotten this! It's so rude. Especially coming from a 'close' friend who could afford to lose more than a few lbs himself. Yeesh.
For me, the line was "You're looking good. You were REALLY starting to look fat before." :frown:0 -
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:laugh: craziness!0 -
I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck
I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?
I get this kind of insult all the time: you would be pretty if you dressed like [insert random half-wit celebrity half my age here], you would be pretty if you changed your hair (both in it's current untreated state, and in every chemically-achieved color I ever had), you would be pretty if you were shorter (I'm 5'10), you would be pretty if you had a tan (seriously? Do I look like I even *can* tan?), you would be pretty if you weren't so smart (WTF? And not from someone who would have reason to know my intellectual capacity), you would be pretty if... the list goes on. And on. And on and on and on... It's like they're offended that I don't conform to their exact specifications. It may not be *intended* that way, but it comes across that way.
I don't think one of those items you mentioned had anything to do with losing weight or becoming healthier.
True. But they all have that "You would be pretty if," as if that thing, regardless of what it is, is your only chance to have some redeeming value. Certainly most people look better as they get healthier, but the implication (purposely or not) in that particular type of back-handed compliment is that right now you're hideous, and you should do X thing to make yourself acceptable to the person doing the complimenting.
I, personally, would probably enjoy life a lot more if all men were 6'5, well-defined, half-naked, and gorgeous. But I'm not going to go up to the ones who aren't and tell them they'd attractive "if"...
You wrote, " . . . right now you're hideous . . ." . . . WRONG. Maybe they are thinking "You are so pretty, but you'd be prettier if . . .".
Your lawn looks so do good, but it might look better if you fertilized it. See how that works? It all boils down to your attitude.0 -
My wife calls me her "Beast."
I'm okay with that.0 -
I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck
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I've gotten "you have such a pretty face, you just need to lose weight"0 -
I get the "hey, I want to lose some weight... what diet pill do you recommend?"
I usually respond with "the all natural one, have you heard of it? I think it's called Watch what you eat and get your booty to the gym"
then I go on to inform them of MFP and how much it helped me keep track of stuff and the great support I've gotten here.
(disregard 5lb loss on ticker... I lost over 80lbs before resetting it)0 -
I usually got the " you would be pretty if you lost weight". Or you look so much better now, Im not trying to be pretty, i want to be fit" Ignorant people suck
I don't think that's ignorant. I don't think there is anything wrong with either of those comments. Maybe you're too sensitive?
I get this kind of insult all the time: you would be pretty if you dressed like [insert random half-wit celebrity half my age here], you would be pretty if you changed your hair (both in it's current untreated state, and in every chemically-achieved color I ever had), you would be pretty if you were shorter (I'm 5'10), you would be pretty if you had a tan (seriously? Do I look like I even *can* tan?), you would be pretty if you weren't so smart (WTF? And not from someone who would have reason to know my intellectual capacity), you would be pretty if... the list goes on. And on. And on and on and on... It's like they're offended that I don't conform to their exact specifications. It may not be *intended* that way, but it comes across that way.
I don't think one of those items you mentioned had anything to do with losing weight or becoming healthier.
True. But they all have that "You would be pretty if," as if that thing, regardless of what it is, is your only chance to have some redeeming value. Certainly most people look better as they get healthier, but the implication (purposely or not) in that particular type of back-handed compliment is that right now you're hideous, and you should do X thing to make yourself acceptable to the person doing the complimenting.
I, personally, would probably enjoy life a lot more if all men were 6'5, well-defined, half-naked, and gorgeous. But I'm not going to go up to the ones who aren't and tell them they'd attractive "if"...
You wrote, " . . . right now you're hideous . . ." . . . WRONG. Maybe they are thinking "You are so pretty, but you'd be prettier if . . .".
Your lawn looks so do good, but it might look better if you fertilized it. See how that works? It all boils down to your attitude.
Maybe that *is* what they are thinking, but I also used words like "intended" and "purposely" - implication and connotation are as much a part of communication as actual words. And that particular comment rarely comes as "your lawn looks good, but might look better if" so much as "your lawn would look good if." So let's just agree to disagree. Unless, of course, you are one of those rare people who delights in a bit of verbal sparring?0 -
"You look skinny"0
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"You're shrinking!"
With a mildly dismayed look upon their face as if I had some sort of wasting disease. :-|0 -
Maybe that *is* what they are thinking, but I also used words like "intended" and "purposely" - implication and connotation are as much a part of communication as actual words. And that particular comment rarely comes as "your lawn looks good, but might look better if" so much as "your lawn would look good if." So let's just agree to disagree. Unless, of course, you are one of those rare people who delights in a bit of verbal sparring?
I enjoy a little sparring from time to time, but in this instance I feel outclassed. I would like to suggest one thing before we close. I've never met you, but it's clear you are an intelligent person. Maybe you over think persons' intentions. Maybe you need to decock, and unload your fu pistol.0 -
My wife calls me her "Beast."
I'm okay with that.
I think around here that's called an NSV0 -
"You look better with some weight on you, it makes it so you don't have so much of a horse face." Excuse me, a horse face? To be fair though, this person has asperger syndrome, I think she was genuinely trying to be nice.0
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From several people- "Wow, you look great. Did insurance cover gastric bypass?"
Me- "No, Im not a cheater. I did it the hard way. I'm sure you can to if you want."
Gastric bypass isn't the easy way. They have to work just as hard.
Sure lol
If that were the case, no one would get it or gain any of the weight back.0 -
My Dad throws so many at me I've forgotten!0
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Maybe that *is* what they are thinking, but I also used words like "intended" and "purposely" - implication and connotation are as much a part of communication as actual words. And that particular comment rarely comes as "your lawn looks good, but might look better if" so much as "your lawn would look good if." So let's just agree to disagree. Unless, of course, you are one of those rare people who delights in a bit of verbal sparring?
I enjoy a little sparring from time to time, but in this instance I feel outclassed. I would like to suggest one thing before we close. I've never met you, but it's clear you are an intelligent person. Maybe you over think persons' intentions. Maybe you need to decock, and unload your fu pistol.
I will take that under advisement (minus, perhaps, those ones like how I would be pretty if I were shorter, lol). My handy little pistol doesn't get as overused as it did when I was in my 20s, but it is still an indispensable tool, especially when it comes to choosing the people I have around me IRL. But, yes, I do sometimes unfairly dismiss people for using the same old platitudes again and again without ever thinking about, or seeming to think about, how they actually sound to people or what they're actually saying. There is no smiley for a tip of the hat, so just pretend I put one here.0 -
"Have you lost weight? You look really good. Don't lose any more weight or you'll be back to skin and bones again. That was ugly."
From a rotund woman who said it with a rather disgusted expression. Why the hell would anyone want you at a specific weight like that? I'm not doing it for anyone but myself, my opinion is what matters.0 -
My dad looked at me the other day and said, "You're losing some weight! I have too? Can't you tell? We probably weigh the same thing now!"
Did I mention that my dad hasn't lost weight, doesn't look like he has lost weight, and weighs just under 300lbs? Sadly, he was serious. This isn't the first time he's claimed we weigh the same or that I weigh more. I'm currently at 215lbs.0 -
"man you lost a lot of weight, but you're still fat!" lol i can't help but laugh it off.0
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man you look great since you lost all that weight but now your head looks big....
Thanks, I think....hahaha0 -
From several people- "Wow, you look great. Did insurance cover gastric bypass?"
Me- "No, Im not a cheater. I did it the hard way. I'm sure you can to if you want."
Gastric bypass isn't the easy way. They have to work just as hard.
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Sometimes harder. I respect all weight loss struggles.0
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